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I don't agree with the invalidation stuff. It's not because it doesn't work, but it's just unnecessary head games. A woman that you are trying to invalidate...you're only doing it because there is a problem with you, so you are bringing her down to your level. My goal with women is to have them feel good about themselves while they are with me. Basically, bringing her up to my level.
If you go the invalidation route, you'll lose out on confident women because you can't invalidate them.
You have to get into the mindset that you don't need her, but you never tell her. To get her, you have to be okay with losing her. If you validate her it could mean you are showing too much signs of interest. You have to get her to chase you. If you chase her, you lose her. I'm not saying it's right or wrong, but I've been too nice lately and when I'm nice, I don't get reply back from women. Maybe you have a different experience? Making her feel good like a motivational speaker?
I am already in the mindset that I don't need her and I know I don't have to tell her. Wow...as I type this, I realize you don't have a clue. Where are you reading that I am validating women? Right now, you are one of those guys that are caught up in everything is being black or white. Let me break it down so you can understand a bit better...
When I say I make women feel good about themselves because they are with me. It means that they know that when they are around me they know that they aren't with one of those average clowns. I have my shit in order, she won't feel like she's being judged, won't experience head games, and her girlfriends will be jealous of her. No, I don't make women chase me, at the same time, they don't want to lose me.
The fallacy in the girl chases you mentality is that they have to have something to catch. If you are trying to actively lower their self-esteem, the point will come when they realize that you have been influencing them with negative emotions. That leads to resentment and the inevitable loss which you can't recover from because at the end of the day you don't have any real value to her...and that's just with insecure women. Confident women won't fall for the shit you're talking about because they are absolutely sure of their self-worth and you trying to invalidate them about it will never go over.
Tell the truth...what would you rather be: The guy that draws women in without effort and has a hard time getting rid of them or the guy that has to play games and has to fight to hold onto them when they don't want to play anymore?