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You just don't get it.
What exactly do you mean?
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Do you want a woman to be curious about you, or interested in going out with you?
How are the two exclusive from each other?
Seriously though, I really can't think of any way to actually "attract" a random girl I see in public areas - for instance, in my campus. Then again I haven't read much material. What exactly am I supposed to say to a girl I don't know to make her find me interesting?
Would you suggest simply having small talk or something? Surely there's some sort of preparation needed to be done somehow?
I've read the famous "Mystery Method" and it seems to advocate "creating your own canned material". Aren't the ones I placed above examples of that? Do you believe so-called "indirect openers" are somehow ineffective? I'd like to know.
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No one thinks like that. Maybe you'll get a few weird looks, but rarely will any good conversation follow a scripted path. Conversation scripts are reaction-seeking behavior, i.e. needy. Instead just be honest about your intentions.
I see.
It might seem needy, but I don't think it would if I said it in an "afterthought" basis. When I speak with people, I have a tendency to say certain things to myself. If I went to a cafeteria and looked at the food available, I might say, "oh, that looks like the sweetest candy" without actually telling it straight to the vendor. I'm not waiting for the vendor to react by saying "oh yes it sure is" or something; it's just my own observation.
Maybe you think I meant "saying statements and looking at the girl in the face waiting for her to make a response". I didn't mean that. I simply meant saying statements as a reaction to what she said.
My idea was that if I said random things out of the blue that sounded a little interesting (or even confusing), it might catch the attention of the listener. And when they are interested in what I'm talking about, then they become invested in what I have to say. Isn't this what they call the "social hook point" or something?
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Here, I'll start you off:
You: Hey, I think you're cute and wanted to say hi.
^ how I met my first girlfriend
Asking about restaurants etc is a waste of both of your times unless you were actually curious about it (which you're not, you've got fucking Yelp for that). Instead be honest with your intentions, and take rejections at face value and move on. Your time is far too valuable to be messing around and friendzoning yourself, or at least your time should be that valuable, if it's not focus more on getting your life on track.
So you also advocate direct opening.
Basically, you're saying that I should simply walk to a girl I find attractive, tell her she's cute, and then see if she likes me - if she doesn't, fine, I'll move on to the next girl, if she does, then good. Is that correct?
Do you think all these PUA "routines" then are somehow unneeded? Because a lot of what I've read regarding PUA seems to stem around generating interest without actually revealing your own interest.
I wonder myself if Mystery actually ever approached girls in clubs and told them directly that they're cute, and had succeeded with them. It seems to be contrary to his own methodology. Not that I'm saying that he's the only legitimate "guru" out there, of course.
P.S. Sorry if I seem a little too "skeptical" or something, I just want to find out what you guys have to say on these matters.