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I don't talk when I go out. I don't look approachable
Any idea how to solve this? This is the whole point of canned routines. Are you sure it's just not approach anxiety? I am confident that is the problem. You are not having fun. Treat clubs like a playground for adults. Not a PUA field
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Poor eye contact
Easy fix, but when you talk to 100's of girls this will develop till the point that the girls look down instead of you
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I'm too nice when I talk and I don't bring up any topics that are more than boring
Again, this is the whole point of canned material. Do your homework
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I never bring up the topic of sex
why would you? You are not talking to women, you are just choding in the corner by yourself
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I don't get on the dance floor and if I did, my social status would be diminished permanently
This is false, it is better to be the bad dancer that is having fun in his own world than the expert dancer trying to impress people to get girls. Again, you're just being scared.
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by the time a club gets packed and super loud
Why not go to bars or do daytime approached instead? You are obviously relying on alcohol. This is evidently too much of the deep end for you at this moment in time
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Also, the fact that I live 20 miles away in a nice house I just bought. Messes up logistics in the back of my mind.
Focus on solid phone numbers. It is still possible to get dates regardless of living situation. Figure that out AFTER you are getting frequent dates. Again, night clubs are more for SNL's so you should really try some day-time stuff?
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Do you go out alone? I always do.
Not really, I like to meet other guys that do the same thing. I do online game when i'm all alone...Why not find pick up guys in your local area and find some wingmen? This can be a massive boost to your progress with people on the same path
I would highly advise you take a boot camp or one on one training. You are just not independently making shit happen, it's so easy to chode when you are on your own in crazy sensory overloaded environment like a night club
I can tell that you're brain is going haywire right now, focus on one thing at time
You are too busy focusing on getting same night sex with 10s' - Scrap that.
You should be focused on your sticking points which are:
- Not being alone
- Canned lines
- Approach anxiety
You can blast these sticking points within 1/2 weekends. Then create the next line of sticking points.
Focus on them thing's for the time being, sex is a long way off for you just yet. Be patient, focus on the actual problems themselves, one a time.
It's like you are learning all these detailed compound exercises and then standing in the corner of the gym not even lifting weights. That isn't progress.