As I have been growing up and have been experiencing situations after situations, I have been thankful to never have been truly stuck in a certain mindset. I always fall but seem to manage to get back up. I never really blame anyone other than myself for being stuck in a situation and that has proven to be my most useful skill in life. I had a shit job I hated, cool, I got another one. I have a drama infested relationship, cool, I decided to part ways after finally coming to terms with myself that it was my own fault for still being there and enduring it.
I am fat. Cool. I go to the gym eat healthy. I lack fashion sense. Cool. I go to the store or check out people who are dressed nicely and adapt some parts of their style to mine to my liking. Not enough ? Cool, I look up fashion articles and do something about it. Am I wasting time with a chick who I know won't bang me but she keeps hitting me up, Cool. I contact her less and work on the ones that have a short fuse under their asses and ready to come back to mines.
Now to move on to other issues that other men think they can change by just pronouncing their beliefs. Oh you want to date a hot woman with a vibrant social circle and expect her NOT to flirt with other men nor hang out with her social group that include said guys ? Haha, if she was like before a relationship, she won't just do a complete 360 because you pound your beliefs down her throat. It MAY work for a bit but you are just throwing drama on to your relationship which will eventually start to fester.
Don't get me started on accidental babies. No baby is an accident. It happened because you didn't wear a condom.
My current favorite is the ultimatums that women try to place on me. "Give me monogamy or no sex". Priceless
Cheating men and expecting there to be no drama or just ....or reverse demanding monogamy from already cheating women.
Most of the time, the blame is on us. Not on another person.