Are you serious man? A girl in a serious relationship who wants to go on a 1v1 "date" is a big no no, nothing insecure about not accepting that, the fuck is this... Your girl is testing you and if you were cool them meeting it would be done with you in 2 months.... 1v1 so many things can happen....

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I don't know Neo, maybe my thinking is somehow flawed. But I know what would I do if I was in OPs situation.

If she doesn't like it she knows where the doors are.

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The thing is, based on her actions, I don't think the OP completely has her.

Three months is nothing, which is why I suggest the "play it cool" route for now. If she's telling you she loves you, will do anything for you, etc, then employ the "respect our relationship, no 1 on 1" stern route.

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I'm not saying your thinking is wrong, I'm asking the why? Cause I cant figure it out myself whats wrong with it and it seems like no one can verbalize why it is disrespectful or a "no no."

Here's how I'll break it down. Every guy has things that he likes and dislikes. Some guys are fine with their girl hanging out with a guy one on one because he trusts her to do the right thing. Then there's the guys that are not okay with it. It doesn't matter why he's not okay with it as long as he voices his opinion on it up front so she's not surprised by it. If she goes against what he says, she doesn't respect his opinion on that matter. To me, that's the only reason it would be considered disrespectful.

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I think that's the big "IF" here. No way to know how the guy in question really is, unless you know him well personally. The girl might not even know who she's getting involved with on a 'friendly' level.

Would you care of your best friend, who you trust and respect, bumped into your girlfriend during lunch hour downtown and they had lunch together? Probably not.

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A married co-worker of my girlfriend asked her to go on a bike ride yesterday.

Alone.

She gets hit on everyday, mostly by guys who don't have confidence and who try the friendzone route. She's a sweet girl with a hostess mentality, so she falls for it often.

She ran it by me after we fucked last night (where most of our talks happen) and I told her it wasn't appropriate as I've never met the guy. She agreed, said she wouldn't like it if a girl asked me to go into the woods alone. She texted that she couldn't make it, and that it probably wasn't a great idea.

The guy texted back: "Well, I was busy anyhow today. Tell him I'm happily married. Don't worry, we'll try next week". He completely ignored my girlfriend's friendly "no" and tried bullying his way into a get together, which creeps me out.

This might be the first guy I go alpha 1.0 on with her, lol. I'll simply show up at the store after a gym session and have a nice chat. The guy is a new employee, apparently thinks he can boss my girlfriend around. That shit isn't going to fly.

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If he's going the friendship route, we know that 10's don't fall for that and the guy will be eaten alive. Lol.

Seriously, why would you go up to her job and talk to some guy? Let your girlfriend handle it. You told her "no" and she's told him "no". There's no reason for you to go up to her job and swing your dick around. She'll just tell him no again. If he keeps pushing and you intervene, she's not going to learn how to handle these situations on her own and will constantly need you to come save her.

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I like that advice, thanks.

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If it's your gf might as well ask her what's up. You don't want to hurt her social life but why is she interested in hanging out with other guys alone? I know my gf would want to castrate me if I was hanging out alone with other girls. Why even put yourself in that position if you care about your relationship.

Maybe I'm just an overly jealous type but if I was in your situation if my gf was even considering this and the guy wasn't a flaming homosexual I would honestly be questioning if I still wanted to date that girl monogamously.

That's an interesting scenario, I know personally for me, my best friend would never imagine of asking my gf out to lunch. After having his gf live with us for a year, I never did anything with her alone either, I don't even get friendly with my friends gfs. In my opinion getting close to your friends gf is disrespectful beyond being inclusive of them when they are around.

I think that's where the coincidence of the 'downtown bump-in turned lunch' differs from the 'ask out for lunch' ... but that's a fairly specific scenario.

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My best friend wouldn't ask my girlfriend to lunch if he bumped into her downtown.

This has far more to do about projecting an insecure sense of self, than the situation at hand.

If you can't trust your girl around people, you have to ask yourself if there's any basis behind this. If not, then its frankly your issue - if you can't handle a girl who can handle herself then find an insecure girl who'll agree to your ridiculous conditions.

It's called CO-DEPENDENCY, and a lot of you guys will vehemently deny this, but the reality is if you're giving a girl an ultimatum for hanging out with a guy - and the simple fact that you're giving an ultimatum to begin with says either something about the state of your relationship, and/or something about your insecurities being projected onto others.

If it's the later, then I wonder what most of you guys would do in the reverse situation where it was an attractive girl wanting to hangout with you whilst you were in a committed relationship. I would hazard a guess in that you would go along with it and let whatever happens happen - and this is why you'd take issue with your woman doing the same, as you don't even trust yourselves.

This is when you have to ignore all the PUA stuff my man. If you're in a serious relationship with the girl, be upfront and honest with her about how you feel. If there's anything I've learned about relationships, it's that good communication is key.

Tell her it makes you uncomfortable. But make sure you tell her like a man. Not like an insecure little boy. I'd also see it as an opportunity to give her a little lesson on me. Something like this would be good:

"I trust you and I believe you're faithful in our relationship. However, it makes me feel uncomfortable that are going out to eat with another guy. I don't think you quite understand that no guy is interested in hanging out with you and not trying to sleep with you. And it's not that I don't trust you... It's that I don't trust him. And I'd really prefer you not put yourself in a situation that is going to make me question whether or not you've been faithful. If you could cancel your lunch date with him, it will make me feel much more at ease."