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I feel like it is a shit test because she would think she's got me right where she wants me. Also I would be investing too much, we have been talking quite a lot and I think she does like me. SO maybe it's a way for her to see me? Do you think it's too much investment on her part?
I don't really think it is a conscious shit test mate. She is probably all for meeting up in Amsterdam and would like the idea of you going and meeting up with her. But a lot of girls also like the idea of a well to do man get down on one knee for her, offer an expensive ring and commit solely too them. Only to flirt with other men, lose all respect and divorce them years later, taking most of what they've got.
I think that part of you intuitively understands that by going that far out of your way just for the hopes of meeting up with this girl you've only met once you are putting her on a pedestal. I think you're jumping like a dog at the first stick she is throwing and getting a little over-excited at the prospect. Although it might not be conscious for her at the moment this attitude you're displaying could lead her to lose respect for you in the long run.
You really have to be careful with which frame you're setting up, what do you really want with this girl? Because by the sounds of it "this could be something beautiful" is giving off all the wrong vibes. It sounds like you're in love with this girl before you've even fucked her and she is one of the only girls in your life right now, even though you only really have an internet relationship. I think you need to get it into your head that she is nothing special, and if you are on a 'pick up and seduction' forum then any girl that is only vising your city for a small while should be seen as a weekend of good sex.
That is why I asked, would you really be going too Amsterdam if she wasn't, and do you honestly not have other things that you could be doing and other girls too speak too other than her?
If you want too know how to get her to meet with you when she comes to London and turn it into a great time for the both of you then feel free to ask. But, other than that, do whatever the fuck you want.