Hey guys,

I have been seeing a girl for about the past 2 months.

We are not "boyfriend and girlfriend" but we might as well be... we hangout 2-3 times a week and the whole vibe is "we are together". Which is what I am looking for because she is a quality girl. (if she wanst i wouldn't be investing and she wouldnt be either)

Literally day 2 of our relationship she told me how she was going to be doing an internship for 3 months in a different state (which is about a 4 hour plane ride away) for her last leg of her doctorate degree. She is leaving next week!!

We havent had the "talk" yet about what we are... because why complicate things? but I really do value our relationship at this point and see a future together. I also plan on visiting her when on spring break because ill be near her (this was planned to see my buddy, not her, and it just works out that shes close to him)

She will also be returning to the area after the 3 months so its not like she's going to stay out there forever...

**Also, she is emotionally invested in me for the obvious reasons


Which brings me to my question.


Any thoughts on how to handle this situation? I really dont want to come off as the guy whos trying to "lock her down" before she leaves... but like I said we are getting to the point of defining the relationship. Should I just ignore and let her bring that up and just play it cool? How would you guys handle this?

Thanks again!
Duke

I'd say what I wanted. Girls are insecure just like guys are and trying not to scare someone away with being more serious than they are.

Yeah I probably will just tell her how I feel and see how shes responds. I am confident enough that she feels the same but it is a unique situation.

Are you in college?

I am not no... im 26 and she is working as a intern doctor right now. she is 25

What needs to be said?

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I agree it is assumed we are together but we havnt really logically communicated this. Do I / we need 2?

It's only 2 months, do you NEED that?

Or do you need some sort of verbal commitment from her, that insures she won't put any other penis in her vagina while she's away?

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you are right I dont, im just overthinking this whole thing... thanks guys!

Until she brings it up, you're not in a relationship. Just thought I'd throw that in there.

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I 100% agree sounds good

Any updates?

We had dinner last night (she left this morning) and she didnt say/bring up a "relationship" so we will leave it alone for now.

Also, as a side note, this girl is not on the pill and is not wanting to be on it anytime soon.

Long term I am not sure how this will affect our relationship, but I am not going to lie I am a little paranoid about it. And I use protection every time... anyone ever dealt with this in a LTR? Every LTR iv been in they were on the pill

thoughts?

What relationship?

What are you going to do.... See other women? Where are you right now

What do you mean exactly? What we have right now FEELS just like a relationship but its not bc we are only 2 months into it...

if you were to ask her if she is dating/seeing anyone she would say yes she is... and me.

ITs not "official official" bc we have not had "the talk about it"

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I really dont know what Im going to do lol I still plan on going out here and doing me... if something comes along I will prob go for it, but that not my intent (if that makes sense?)

My main focus is now on my business and getting to the next level in work.