This. Word for word.

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RC dude, thank you for taking the time out to write me such a helpful and great message, that really was helpful and very encouraging to me. Thanks for being so kind, knowledge and patient.

I got you!! So, I'm really learning a lot with this position that I can use for future dates. I've only seen her once. Situations happen like this a lot. So, when I called her she did comply any instantly texted me the name of the song and she said "You're free Tues & Thurs. Got it, I'll get back to you, like I'll text you." (It was 1 AM, maybe because it was so late she forgot). My concern is, she agreed but she was suppose to let me know when she's free to hang. Tomo, is one of the days I'm free and she knows that and hasn't texted me.

(I believe I should have said, "when can you let me know?") But since I didn't, what do I do in this position because I don't feel I should text her again, yet I feel I may not get the day 2.

She's really making you her bitch lol. I wouldn't have even replied to her at all (hope you didn't? It's early here, can't remember if you said you did or not) ...she'd have eventually got in touch again, and you'd be 100% in charge (as a man should)

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Just noticed that both threads are from you. If she is saying it in a joking tone, it's not as bad.. but you still don't even slightly want to give the impression that you're ALWAYS available. She has to come second to your life purpose, no matter if you've been on 3 dates or married for 30 years. Got it?

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Have you got other girls you're tuning?

That phone call should have been short and sweet IMO. You can have one or two jokes, but don't continually keep the conversation going at that time of night, unless she's your girlfriend. Keep it short and sweet, and to the point IMO.

Especially the texts. Don't have a conversation all day through a text. This will let her know you don't have any other girls that you're talking too and that you're easy to get and too available, because if you did have other girls and you had better things to do you wouldn't be texting her all day until 3AM. Fuck that.

You may be trying too hard. Let go of the wheel a little and expect her to be into you. Be that cool blasze guy who doesn't give a fuck about the outcome.

I don't know the exact dynamics of you two because I haven't listened to how you intereact verbally or physically, but going off the little information you've given, I feel like you have one of two options;

1: stop texting her first completely. Show her you don't really care if you two don't go on a date because afterall you're a player with a handful of women you can choose from, aren't you?
2: Persist. Keep the texts shorter, more infrequent and more direct. Keep the phone conversations short and sweet and to the point of setting up a date, not to just talk like she would with her girlfriends.

Put a time restraint on the phone call because you're 'busy'

you: "hey (insert name) (chicks love being called by their name) how are you? I'm really busy at the moment so I can't be long, how does coffee on thursday afternoon sound?"

her: "Hello i'm good thank you! That sounds great! What time?"

you: "awesome, how does 5pm sound?"

her: "that sounds perfect:)"

you: "sweet i'll text you the adress, see you then:)"

or something along these lines. Short, simple, to the point, you show that you're a busy man and she's lucky to have you call her out of your busy life to make this happen.

David Deida wrote a book called "Way of the Superior Man" (I strongly recommend reading this) and he explains that women want a man with purpose in his life, that a man's number one priority should be his purpose, not his woman. That's right, a woman does not want to be your number one priority in life.

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You're welcome.

Having her be compliant in an initial interaction, like a cold approach either during the day or the club is something great to have. The point is she's already comfortable with you to some degree based off of how you present yourself, both physically and internally. It's a sign of mild attraction or intrigue at least. However, you shouldn't think "it's on" just because she smiled at you or complied with a request. There's plenty of ways to fuck it up still.
It's fine to gauge for compliance every now and then but don't transform it into a pinnacle of decision making.
Quit that. Why are you trying to find excuses for her? There are no excuses. And if there are any it's sure as hell not your job to provide them. You do your part, let her do hers. Don't attempt doing it for her.
Take it at face value. If she wants to see you she'll get back at you. In the meanwhile, do the sensible thing and stop thinking about her, do you and enjoy life. Pursue other women.
You should by no means have said "when can you let me know?". For about 346 different reasons. Also no, you should not text her and most importantly you really should not give a fuck whether or not you get a day 2.
Again, you did your job. Let her do hers. If she doesn't, who cares? no love lost.

It's like a dance dude. You lead, you propose the steps. And she follows if she so chooses. If not, find a partner who will. Don't go around trying to move her legs with your hands in the right direction. The time, effort and loss of dignity isn't worth it.

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Daniels, didn't find your comments helpful or kind. The purpose here to is help people, not mock them. I'd appreciate more mature communication...

Rampage, Awesome comment man! You're completely right. And, I did leave out a few things, like before I called her I said "I only got 5 mins, you free to chat?" The Convo was 7 mins. I said, I just got back from a party and know she's up late. We didn't have a long conversation over text. We texted like once every 1-3 hours. I just lead the convo towards logistics and broke it down for everyone.
You're comments were brilliant mate and very helpful. I made sure to state that she's not the prime focus. I have a career and am actually top focused with it, ha. Honestly, she said I come across as a player and am a pick up artist and said "Oh, I always wanted to meet you" I said, yes that's what I am, but it's not my identity - she throws a lot of tests. I passed them, and I think I really did a great job, we have a connection and witty banter when we interact. Thank you bro, you're awesome.

RC, you're comments were amazing and seriously made me think. Wow! Thanks for making everything so clear in such an intelligent way. You confirmed what my instincts said. I told her what I told her it's on her now, not my job to help her to text me. Let her do her job. I'm glad you confirmed with your skill what my instincts said, it helps me know I'm on a good path.

What's a good way to act in front of women so that they chase you. You seem to allude to that. And one important question to add would be, what do I have to do with women for it to be *"on". Really enjoy speaking with you. Thank you so much!

That'll probably be because I'm pointing out everything you did wrong. Nobody likes to know they're wrong. My comments were helpful, but it's more common sense than anything else... so I suppose I stated the obvious a little too much, I'm just shocked that you're so readily available for this girl. I don't understand how "Your purpose should always come first" wasn't helpful, but ok. I don't know how I can communicate any different to make it easier for you.

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Friend, I don't mind opinions. It's in the manner it's presented. Pleasure speaking with you.

So guys, as a quick update, I'm learning a lot and from all the helpful answers I got here, I feel I'm getting the hang of it. She texted me today with "Hey, I'm not going to be able to meet today, mister". I said, "Yo X, np. Let's reschedule, busy weds, when are you free" I thought this worked. It seemed to flow with what you guys said. Short sweet to the point yet, not honestly, not making myself too available. So, that's the way I handled her cancelation, to my knowledge you're always suppose to be cool with it and just reschedule like I did.

IF she texts back a time when she's free, be busy that day. You can't always be available when she is. I'd try set something up on Sunday or the next week because you're tied up until then.

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So, you're saying if she offers a date, say I'm busy that day but offer another one. She hasn't given me another day, yet she sorta' did that. It's difficult for me to try to figure out where she's coming from. I can't tell if she's hot or cold

She responds back with "I'm heading to canada later this week so probably next week"

I said, "Nice! Next week is hectic, I'll txt ya' and let you know when works" (As rage suggested) she said, "That's fine, no rush"

The first is good. drop the last text. Nothing more needs to be said.

In the meantime, you need to start gaming other girls. I feel like this will improve you 100x.

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Rampage, thanks bro! I updated my above post to what I texted her and her response. I'm not gonna' text her until next week. As well as a question in bold.

You really shouldn't have done this. You're playing games. Do NOT play hard to get - BE hard to get. Women will spot your games a mile off and find it pathetic, it never works in the end. The point is true that you SHOULD be busy, but there's no problem dating her if you're not.

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I'm sorry but this is just typical pua bullshit.
Playing games will result in you attracting women who also play games. And unless you're a masochist I have no idea why you'd want that.

It's encouraged to have a busy life. If you don't, build one. But pretending to be busy when you're actually free is not only needy in essence, but also quite pathetic. You gotta be authentic.
I agree with Daniels here. This shit will backfire in your face. Point blank.

That being said, get your mind off her. I'd text her a few light and fun back and forths every 2-3 days until I'm free and then suggest a meet-up.

Also, read my texting guide. You'll pick up some cool pointers.

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