Looking for advice in what to do in this situation. thanks. We've been together over a year and everything was perfect before this.
Here's a brief background of what happened; Her mom had an office xmas party and one of her younger mid 20s coworkers couldn't attend with his GF so she invited my GF to come to the party as his date to spend time with her daughter as the ticket was already purchased. I was told she was just going to her mom's xmas party, no mention of the guy and being his date. They go, drink, dance, party, at one point they go out to the parking lot to do shots and on the way back in he kissed her and she let him. Night ends, and doesn't tell me what happened and claims shes hungover and feels sick. She continued to text him in my bed beside me the day after....
Here's their conversation I was able to grab off her phone. (normally don't do this but in this situation I want to know the truth)
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30.11.2014 06:03 PM: > Kris: Nicks on tv
30.11.2014 06:05 PM: < Kris: Hahaha Spock....I'm going to have to point it out to him
30.11.2014 06:21 PM: > Kris: He could totally pull that off for Halloween
30.11.2014 06:24 PM: > Kris: Also, I want to say sorry for last night, you're really funny and sweet and good looking, so that being said I don't want to fuck up your relationship or anything
30.11.2014 10:20 PM: < Kris: Hey sry I was at the gym. There's no reason for you to be sorry. I had a great time you last night and I'd be lying if I said I wasn't very attracted to you. Your gorgeous and really cool to be around.
01.12.2014 12:00 AM: > Kris: So jealous you have time to go to the gym!
01.12.2014 12:02 AM: > Kris: Have you ever cheated on your girlfriend before?
01.12.2014 07:13 AM: < Kris: No I haven't cheated on Julia before but I have in my previous relationship many years ago. I'm no saint by any means.
01.12.2014 08:13 AM: > Kris: Damn I was hoping I wasn't the one that made you break bad because from what I remember we kissed
01.12.2014 08:22 AM: < Kris: Ya you have a bad influence on me but that my fault not yours
01.12.2014 08:30 AM: > Kris: Do you still feel the same way you did Saturday or was it because you were drunk
01.12.2014 08:30 AM: > Kris: Also does anyone know
01.12.2014 08:33 AM: < Kris: To be honest I feel what I felt but at the same time I want to do the right thing. No one knows really...Nick knows some details
01.12.2014 08:38 AM: > Kris: Yea I know what you mean, it's hard to shake off
01.12.2014 08:40 AM: > Kris: Like all of it totally unexpected because I've never had that feeling the entire time I've been with Tom it's so weird
01.12.2014 08:42 AM: < Kris: I can relate to that, especially since I just met you and it all happened so quick
01.12.2014 08:44 AM: > Kris: I kinda felt like I already knew you my mom talks about you all the time
01.12.2014 08:46 AM: > Kris: Didnt know you were that handsome and had the same obsession with assassins creed that I do, I still might love it more though
01.12.2014 09:07 AM: < Kris: Lol I'm positive you love it more. I kinda phased out of gaming over the years. I'm a huge adrenalin junkie thou more so now
01.12.2014 09:16 AM: > Kris: Explains the motorcycle
01.12.2014 10:07 AM: > Kris: I think that to solidify that nothing is going to happen between us, because if we're going to do the right thing we should be doing that right?
01.12.2014 10:07 AM: > Kris: I should tell tom,
01.12.2014 10:08 AM: > Kris: Because by not saying anything would mean we have more to hide is my logic
01.12.2014 10:28 AM: < Kris: I think that's the right thing to do even thou it doesn't feel that way. I don't know about you telling Tom but it's not my place. My opinion would be not to just to not roughen the relationship. I personally don't plan on telling Julia. If it's possible I would really like to be friends
01.12.2014 10:38 AM: > Kris: I'm weighing the pros and cons right now and I'm not afraid to be alone, I'm good with or without him, I think he'll get over it though
01.12.2014 10:41 AM: > Kris: But yes I agree on being friends
02.12.2014 05:09 PM: < null: Have you seen the movie "what if"
02.12.2014 08:19 PM: > null: No, what's it about?
02.12.2014 08:24 PM: < null: Well I asked cause I saw it yesterday and it made me think of us meeting lol. It's shot in the gta as well. Give it watch when you have some time, it's somewhat of a chick flick.
02.12.2014 08:59 PM: > null: Lol that's sexist kris I like action movies too
02.12.2014 09:00 PM: > null: What If (2013)
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Wallace, who is burned out from a string of failed relationships, forms an instant bond with Chantry, who lives with her longtime boyfriend. Together, they puzzle out what it means if your best friend is also the love of your life.
02.12.2014 09:00 PM: > null: Hahaha just read the synopsis
02.12.2014 09:31 PM: < null: Hahaha I downloads and was glimpsing thru it & the only reason I decided to watch the whole thing was cause of the different parts of Toronto I recognized in it, without knowing the synopsis.
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Mate this was kind of heartbreaking to read. "Because by not saying anything would mean we have more to hide is my logic" was the kicker for me. Even when thinking of her relationship with you, the "we" was not you and her, it was her and him.
Ever seen Shaun of the Dead (you should do, good film)? Well drink it off, and when you crash into your drunken slumber for the night, be sure to write "dump cuntish girlfriend" on your fridge for the next day.