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1) How would you approach a woman walking in the opposite direction to you?
2) How would you approach a woman walking in the same direction as you?
3) How would you approach a woman sitting alone or as part of a 2/3 set in a coffee shop/restaurant etc?
I love this question. I've struggled with opening women during the day myself, and realized that the
main
challenge is bringing yourself to EXPOSE your intentions while being in a situation where that isn't
considered "normal".
So when you go to a club, it's
"normal" that a guy will approach a girl and make a move on her. But if
you're walking down the street, what's
"normal" is that you mind your own business and walk where you
need to go.
So the first shift is to overcome this limit of what is "normal".
Let go of any shame or holdbacks you may have about
starting a conversation, and more specifically wanting to meet women while being out during the
day.
Accept is as a "normal" thing. Say to yourself,
"This is cool. It's normal"
Now to your specific questions.
1. How to approach a girl walking in the opposite direction
When you see her walking, walk towards her and when she's really close, slow down your
steps and say,
"Hey, I don't normally do this, but I just wanted to say, you look
absoulutely amazing..."
Then give it a pause so she can process it, and when you feel she got it say,
"If you were blonde,
you'd be definitely my type..."
Or whatever hair color is opposite of hers.
This is an extremely
strong push-pull that takes a girl on this emotional roller coaster, where at first
she is flattered and uplifted, and then has the rugg swept below her feet again.
But it's really important to
open with energy, slightly excitment and here's the KEY - being ready and
OK with walking away from her soon.
Don't try to linger or "try" anything really. Just focus on meeting her.
After she says thank you or whatever she says, say,
"So where are you headed?"
There is something really attractive about a guy who is FREE to say what he wants with confidence,
and not being afraid of what ppl would think of him or what the girl is going to do.
Again, the key is that you aren't needy or insecure...but that you show that you're comfortable.
2. If she's walking in the same direction
You can use the same line, but with this strong distinction - never try to pull her by her hand or
stop her in that way. Also, never talk BEHIND the girl like
"Hey babyyyy, nice asss"
No.
If she's infront of you, catch up with her and when you're side to side with her shoulder, then say:
"Hey, I saw you from over there and though you were really cute, wanted to say Hi. What's up?"
Again, be very direct and blunt about it. Don't try to hide or beat around the bush.
Direct approach immediately establishes attraction, because you have to have balls to do that.
3. If she's in a restaurant
You can basically do it
2 ways. One is direct, the second one is playful.
So the direct way is to walk up there and say,
"Hey, I saw you from over there and though it is
totally unfair that you'd be sitting here all bored when there's a guy as handsome as me so close...so
you mind if I join you untill my friend shows up...?"
The approach is basic, cocky & funny. The friend at the end is a time constraint, where you let her or them
know that you won't be sitting there for ever.
Here's the second way - playful.
If you're at a restaurant with a waiter, take a napkin and a pen, and on it
draw the criss cross game,
and start it. Then call the waiter and tell him to take the napkin to the girl you want, but don't let
him tell her who is it from.
Tipp him so he wants to do it.
Play the game,
ask the waiter to bring it back and forth and when it's done, if you lost - write
"I lost, you
have to buy me a drink now" and if you won, say,
"I won, you have to buy me a drink now"
The key to everything is really confidence. You won't go far if you feel insecure or needy.
Play around with it, and if you are having challenges with approaching women because of Approach Anxiety,
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