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PostPosted: Thu Apr 10, 2014 1:01 am 
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I've learned that for affirmations to be effective there has to be emotion involved.. Can I use negative emotion to gain confidence? It's a lot easier to invoke sadness and anger to apply to the confidence affirmations .. It's really hard to be happy and feel abundance to try to build confidence and self esteem when there's so little there. I can cry and feel sad everyday during the affirmation.. If I direct that would that help?


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Nope. There's no real power in hating everything and being sad. Make positive changes in your lifestyle and learn to love yourself and what you do. Happiness isn't a trick, it's a decision.

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I've learned that for affirmations to be effective there has to be emotion involved.. Can I use negative emotion to gain confidence? It's a lot easier to invoke sadness and anger to apply to the confidence affirmations .. It's really hard to be happy and feel abundance to try to build confidence and self esteem when there's so little there. I can cry and feel sad everyday during the affirmation.. If I direct that would that help?
you cannot apply emotions, because you can't control them, emotion is a reaction program that has a goal and effect towards something, like if someone hurt you, you may react with anger to make him stop.
affirmations help you to change reaction towards something, by changing your sub-programming, for example you convince yourself that woman likes you, the result will be in projecting confidence.

~Vlad


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I've learned that for affirmations to be effective there has to be emotion involved.. Can I use negative emotion to gain confidence? It's a lot easier to invoke sadness and anger to apply to the confidence affirmations .. It's really hard to be happy and feel abundance to try to build confidence and self esteem when there's so little there. I can cry and feel sad everyday during the affirmation.. If I direct that would that help?
you cannot apply emotions, because you can't control them, emotion is a reaction program that has a goal and effect towards something, like if someone hurt you, you may react with anger to make him stop.
affirmations help you to change reaction towards something, by changing your sub-programming, for example you convince yourself that woman likes you, the result will be in projecting confidence.

~Vlad
Vlad, seriously?

Yes, you can control emotions. Emotions are triggered by meaning, not by situation.

So if I give you 1 milion bucks to spit to your face, and you agree to it - how will you feel if I spit to
your face?

But how would you feel if I spit to your face for no reason?

So it's not about the situation, it's about the meaning.

So if you change the MEANING of the situation, you'll change the emotion connected to it.

If you want to build your confidence, affirmations are not the place to start.

Instead, you start with your beliefs about yourself, your insecurities and the reason why you don't
have confidence.

Then you invoke that little power you have inside and you awaken it.

My 2 cents.

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Follow the 4 staples of Self-Efficacy.

http://psychology.about.com/od/theories ... ficacy.htm


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PostPosted: Mon Jun 02, 2014 10:38 pm 
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It's not a product... It's Albert Bandura's theory of Self-Efficacy... :?


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