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So what I’ve learned from gaming girls is that one of the worst things is to act needy or desperate (because I’ve done it too many times in the past!). Usually if a girl is into me I just hook up with her, but I like this particular girl more than a random person. From my experiences, I finally learned that I should learn back and act cool when a girl’s into me
Well, this situation happened to me last night. There was a special black tie event at a club. I knew this HB8 from before, but I saw her last night and she wanted to go to the club together. So we were alone going there, but after we got there she disappeared. I eventually saw her later and she was definitely into me.
*this is my main problem*
After I saw that she was interested I didn’t know what to do. I tried to play it cool and act disinterested, but may have done too much by talking to another girl at the bar when I was with the HB. Afterwards I think she wanted to make me jealous because I saw her hooking up with another guy. She may just be kind of slutty, but I’m not entirely sure. I know she is single though. Eventually I just acted too disinterested that she left with another guy that she knew!
So my questions are: 1) What should I have done when I saw that she was attracted to me. 2) Is there anything else that I can do to help my position now? I’ve done a good job working her until last night.
When a girl is into you/giving you IOI's, it's ok, and even good, to give them back to her equally. Just don't give her more than what she's earned. In other words, one for one, equally.
Now, you need to show her one or two IOI's. Obvious ones. Then, calibrate from there. Don't give her more after that w/o her giving to you, but that should let her know you're still interested. Then, go from there.