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So it has been a while since I have been around a PUA site but have recently began practicing again. My most recent issue is with an HB9 who I am working on a project with. I have built attraction and noticed a great amount of positive body language as the last two days have gone by. My kino has been fine but it has been a struggle getting her to a higher attraction phase or establishing a date. She is a semi church girl but said she is beginning to 'try new things" so I am not sure what the next step for me is.
You’ve done a lot of the work already man.
The combo of attraction, IOIs and solid kino will get you most of the way there. The “struggle” is probably that she isn’t recirpocating as much as you’d like. Establishing a date is as easy as asking her…on a date. What’s stopping you from taking the conversation in that direction?
And somebody wanting to “try new things” is a huge IOI. Look at it this way, if YOU were a church boy and were asked by a heavy set woman of color how you feel about going outside the reservation a little bit, you would probably say a hail mary and reaffirm your dedication to christ. What if a perky blonde asked you? You would allude to the fact that “times are changing” and “I’m interested in the world and what it has to offer.” Why? Because theres attraction and you are qualifying yourself so that she sees you in a way that you think is favorable. This is most likely what is happening to you.
Did you ask “try to new things huh? Like what?” Because you should have. Talk about some healthy sexual tension right there.
Do you guys have any inside jokes or funny stories you guys share? Do you text? Do you have any means of regular communication?
Working her in a group or not is all about the vibe. Are you with friends that can distract HER friends? Is she friendly enough to isolate a bit with you or does she generally stick to her group? Does she shoot you glances or smile when you are across the room?
I don’t see anything wrong in calling her up to hang out. If your instincts are correct in that shes attracted in you, then this shouldn’t be that difficult. It looks like you are getting in your own head too deeply and are abandoning the basics: be confident and ask her out. Tell her you love rock climbing or tasting wine or knitting linen…whatever it is, pick something you are good at and have a passion for and these dates work themselves out.
Good luck man.