| FR #8
Nighttime
Another night without it being too productive. But although I didn't get results per se, I did realize some things about myself that are going to help me on this journey of becoming a freakingly awesome PUA. We headed out with the guys downtown and initially it was a cluster f--- meeting up with some of the other guys, things get disorganized, etc. I'm new to running events for a lair so this was a learning evening for me in that regard as well. Well, after getting through that initial confusion and what not, my wing approached and I winged him for a warm up. There was a HB7 and her friend was a UG. He opened them up just asking them about the local scene and what not(he's not from here, so good information and good excuse to open, I can dig it) and there were pretty cool at first. But they started talking about buying drinks and he asked them if they were going to buy him one, and they reacted pretty negatively. They were a goody girl kind of type, when he challenged them, they didn't take to it. But hey, I've used the same line and I've gotten mixed results, really depends on the girl. But we got kind of shut out of the set, but nothing really to be bummed about.
After that initial approach I had to deal with more group shit, but I eventually said screw it and Bart and I hit a bar, but it wasn't really popping. So, we left and met up with a wing and he opened up a mixed set and so we winged him. We talked to the UG while he talked to the HB7. The UG really wasn't feeling us, but we kept her distracted. I think she was just a miserable person; she did not like to smile. We started seeing some signs that they wanted to get out of the interaction (putting her purse on, etc.) so we ejected, idk if my wing number closed or anything but she wasn't anything too special.
After this, we were walking around downtown and I saw a 3 set, with a HB8, and two HB7s. I came up to her and asked her if her jeans were torn like that when she bought them or she made them like that. I then ran into someone on accident and just made fun of it, like I didn't care. (well, I really didn't) And I was getting some positive signs from her, but I could tell she would take some work. But her friends were pulling her away from me and giving me that get lost eye, so I didn't really get a good chance there.
After this we headed up to another bar, I opened up a HB8 sitting by the guys bathroom sitting on a chair. And she was a straight up b!tch. I just asked her why she was sitting next to the bathroom to which she responded do you see any other chairs anywhere in an incredibly negative manner. Honestly this girl was just making me mad that I just went into sarcastic mode with her. At this point in the night I just did not care one bit. Needless to say the interaction was not good, but I really was waiting for the bathroom, so I irritated her long enough until it was free.
After that I opened up a HB8 that apparently worked there. My wing was messing around negging her in a indirect way, just talking to me and seeing if she would catch on(if anything else it cracked me up) and he left and I opened her up saying hey sorry about my friend. He's an a-hole. She didn't hear what he was saying, so it made for a somewhat interesting convo, but she was pretty negative as well and threw up the b shield, and left me as soon as the bathroom was free.
After this we left and I just did not care about rejection at this point. There was a UG that my wing opened up and he introduced me to her, but she actually turned out to be really cool. She wasn't all that bad, but thick for my tastes. I just talked to her and after realizing she had a good personality I started introducing some sexual language in the convo. I was watching a lot of simple pickup videos so I was being vulgar, stepping out of the safe zone. She was cool with it, and if anything I stayed in the interaction too long. I could tell she was feeling me, but I made the mistake of sticking around and not being open to leaving the interaction at a whim. I got the number close after my wing came by and helped speed up the interaction, but after about 5 more minutes I tried to kiss close and I got denied. I can only attribute this to being in the interaction too long, really my game was solid. That was the kind of night it was, but, I'm kind of glad I didn't. Her personality made her attractive, but I can pull better girls than that.
After that, we were about to hang up the gloves for the night, when we saw a homeless guy just breaking it down in front of wall street, and he had gathered quite a crowd. So, I opened up a 5 set with 2 HB7s, a HB6, and 2 UGs. I went up to the one 7 and I asked her if she would give me 5 dollars to dance with the guy. She laughed and said no, but I dared her to do it, and we ended up fluffing the shit for a while and I was talking to 3 of them, while my wing was talking to the other two. Eventually, I stepped out of my comfort zone and danced with the homeless dude (I would NEVER have done this a month ago even) and the girls were laughing about it, and I think it boosted me in their eyes because I just didn't care. I think I stayed in the interaction again for too long. The vibe changed completely once one of the UGs realized she was missing her car keys. I tried to number close the HB7 at this point and she asked me why. I told her because she was cute, and I was obviously flirting with her. She came up with a lame excuse that she lives too far and yada yada, so they left. I feel like if I would have tried earlier, then I would have definitely gotten a number close. But after the car keys incident their entire demeanor changed.
After this, the night was pretty much done. We headed up to pita pit and I saw a HB8 sitting by herself. I told the guys that one of us had to approach, so I ended up doing it after my wing said it was mine. I just came up, pulled up a seat, and told her that she looked interesting and I was going to talk to her. She told me she was waiting on her friend, so I just joked around about the employees being slow, how maybe we could help them out, then we talking about baking, and cooking, and she was pretty cool. I could tell a couple of times I was too enthusiastic about some of the things she said, and smiled a bit too much. I tried to number close but she said she was talking to somebody. I countered each of her excuses but she gave me the, you're not getting my number face, so I ejected on a positive note. One of my wings told me that I appeared like I was leaning towards her too much afterwards. Showing a little too much interest. Some good feedback I'll have to work on.
Overall, this was a night about my AA. I think that daygame has really helped me minimize it. I really don't care about approaching anymore, and I have great self-confidence. I believe this will translate well for my overall game. However, I still have plenty to learn. This is only one component of it. I also hit my goal of at least 5 approaches (I think I got about 10.) I also limited myself two 2 beers a shot and a mixed drink. This is big for me! Me being more sober actually gave me more confidence. Huh.
Learning Points
For future meetups, we're going to be organizing differently, so I don't have to worry about lair stuff, and getting organized and having it directly impact the amount of sets I'm in.
I have to show a bit more disinterest in my interactions, especially evident talking to the HB8s and above.
I need to limit my time in interactions. I have to show the willingness to leave at a whim.
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