The thing is this, by succeed with girls you start expecting them to like you. When you expect girls to like you you stop trying hard, you aren't needy, and you don't try to impress.

By getting rejected or having inexperience you feel like girls might not like you. This fear causes you to act needy and try hard.

Its all emotional.

Great Conversation! This applies for so man guys.

Considering your post is titled "Problem with sparking sexual attraction" then I must ask: Have you been eating any "funny" mushrooms lately?

What????

As far as the rejection argument you guys are having...

""Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results." - Albert Einstein

If you're constantly getting rejected its best you look back and tighten up your loose screws.

And that quote comes from, what I would say atleast, a pretty damn successful guy...

In my opinion you just have to let go of your Ego and enjoy what you're doing.
"The Fear Of Being Disliked" is an egoic fear, since you're identifying with your mind and body at that point and becoming unconscious.

May I suggest that you looked at your thoughts as mere thoughts and not yourself? At your looks as just looks and not YOUR looks?

About being rejected constantly, you have to watch your thoughts and your body, what is the issue causing your failures? Don't blame yourself. Blame your thoughts, blame your mind, blame something that is not you, because you don't know who you are and you don't even need to know.

"Eckhart Tolle's - A New Earth" would be a good read for anyone who wants to stop being afraid of "getting hurt" emotionally or egoically. Read it if you must.

The solution to this problem is to welcome and embrace being disliked.

Being disliked has helped me get laid. Of course it's nice be liked but if people don't love me, I want them to hate me. Anything that provokes an emotional reaction either way is good.

The worst possible situation to be in as a man is not to be either liked or disliked. It's being just "ok" or "alright" because this means you are mediocre and boring. ... i.e. Not fuckable!

Churchill was a man of tremendous self-confidence. When all other leaders were losing heart, he still believed Britain would defeat Germany. He is remembered for his optimism in a very dark time. Once again its about expecting to succeed



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"WHAT IS OUR AIM???? VICTORY!"

I can't understand why anyone would ignore their emotions. You protect your emotions and build them up stronger. Having strong emotions makes you strong.

I didn't say you should ignore your emotions. I simply said that if you become more conscious it causes less or no feeling of threat at all. You can still build up the emotions you want and handle the emotions you don't want.
It's actually easier to handle your inner being if you're more conscious.

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