So this Monday & Tuesday, I got fed up of only reading articles, so I decided to do something about my life and my approach anxiety and abolish it forever. Turns out I was a pussy at heart and failed miserably, my heart raced almost as much as when I leg press 500 lbs or deadlift 200 lbs.

Being ashamed and disappointed by how much of a pussy I was when it came down to it and how I flopped when I decided enough was enough, I thought "None of my friends want to believe in PUA, I'm too broke to afford a seminar, why the fuck don't I look for a wingman?". So I googled Ottawa PUAs Wingmen, and met up with two today, which was only a few hours after messaging them.

I approached SERIOUSLY for the first time today (none of that ask for directions then just let her walk away crap I used to do) and finally got some outside perspective of my approach, body language, opener, etc.

I could never get the words out, my mind would get absolutely clogged as hell, and I had absolutely NO idea what to say, even the routines i remembered just started playing hide-'n-go-seek through my brain sections and my heart starts racing so much you'd probably hear it from 2 feet away in complete silence. So now, about 9 hours later. It just struck me. "Why not use my approach anxiety to my advantage?"

And I thought of this awesome opener which is direct, honest, a bit humorous and straight to the point and would like some feedback. Here it is:

Me: Hi
Her: Hello
Me: Okay listen, I have absolutely no idea what I want to say right now, so I'll just go with how I feel. Give me your hand.
Her: *gives her hand*
Me: *Put it on my chest, maybe flex it accidentally for cool points?*
Me: See that? That's how my body reacts when it lays eyes on an adorable girl like you. My mom always told me this would happen with the girl of my dreams.
Her: Aww/That's so sweet/Omg/etc.

Just thinking if there's anything that should or shouldn't be in there before I test it in-field. Thanks in advance.

Edit: Going to try this today the minute I get back from the gym since its only 12 PM. Will post results in a few hours.

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Hey this is great that you want to get passed your anxiety on approaching. My wings would go back to basics when they had anxiety over approaching and went to what felt good. Try it and let us know how it goes.

Good Luck!!

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Interesting. Well, there are some rules PUA's use for AA to at least be reduced considerably, i'll name the ones on the top of my head:

1)3 Second Rule: You got 3 seconds from seing the girl, or the group you want to approach, to initiating the conversation with her/them.

2)Expecting nothing from the outcome: You should approach people for the solely purpose of having fun and practicing your social skills.

Approach Anxiety is never going away, it's a build-up mechanism in our brain, and it's done with purpose.

Good luck with it.

You could also use the: "Hi, im shy but I saw you and I wanted to meet you"

I try my best to stick to the 3 second rule, but its more like 5-6 seconds for me. As for basics, my approach anxiety is really crazy but I still have balls hidden behind all that nervousness, if I sincerely "decide" to talk to someone, I'll do it even if someone's holding me back and clinging to my legs.

I wanted to try those beginner 20 day routines to overcome approach anxiety, but they seemed way too slow for me, such as "talk to 5 girls and ask them for directions" then its the same for the next 3 days with only the amount of girls increasing and what you say slightly changing (like asking for an opinion + high five the next day).

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If you don't ask. The answer will always be NO.
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Awesome haha.
Same boat.. ive been successful at this before like "I dont do this often so im not very good" but somehow get some chatter going. Once a cute girl said "ur doing fine just be urself and she kclosed" was mind blown.
Just tonight ive never really looked at what ive been doing wrong and how to improve upon them but after so much wasted opportunities tonight I think its time to brainstorm. .

I've known about the community for a little over a year but I just recently starting practicing it.

If you don't mind man, I'd love to get more details of that story you just mentioned with being yourself.

If you want a good body language video, I came across this one the other day, I immediately downloaded it and reflected upon it for days, it really helps: (How to develop strong alpha male body language - 6 ways to do so today) http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UDRRsh_Dp-8

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If you don't go after what you want. You will never have IT.
If you don't ask. The answer will always be NO.
If you don't step forward. You will always be in the same PLACE.