| I gotta disagree with this post completely.
IF you're in a relationship with a drama queen, or a freak by Wolf's definition, then I can concede this can have a positive effect with regards to keeping a woman invested. My preference is to remove these women from my life if at all possible. Why? Because I've actually found that there are women, rare sometimes, that are good girls. These women are mature, have been with dickheads, seem to have had kids, and ultimately have just reached a point in their life that they will tolerate a certain level of drama if they feel the relationship is worth it, but they won't go out of their way to seek it.
In other words, I think this works for you and your girl because she's a typical drama queen. My girl, and the type I am now attracted to, is not. She doesn't need drama, she doesn't want drama, and the fucking is best when there is little to none present.
How would the situation you describe unfold? Well, it has, and it goes like this. I blow off a date or an arrangement, and she files a complaint. I acknowledge that the complaint is valid, and make up for it with a different date, and I fuck the shit out of her to the tune of 3 or 4 orgasms and we call it even. If roles are reversed and I feel disrespected, I tell her why, she acknowledges, and she makes it up to me with a different date and she fucks the shit out of me and I get to get off once or twice and she may only cum once or twice.
In any event, I don't have to act like a douchebag, neither does she, neither of us has to worry about creating any extra drama, and we both know the other will acknowledge when a wrong has occurred, and if we don't agree on that, it's likely one of us is being a selfish, snotty little bitch. I like very much having a woman I trust will make me realize that, and I know for a fact she feels the same way. The relationship helps both of us be better than we might be without it, which is what keeps us both invested.
In summary, rather than stooping to a level at which you play by a drama queen's rules and give her a level she needs to be invested, I'd opt to remove that from the relationship. If acting like this is a condition of a relationship, you can have it and I won't fight you for her.
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