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People feel confident about different things in all different areas and that confidence comes through experience. I feel 100% confident with women because I've done it so many times where as I'm not confident jumping out of a moving vehicle because I've never done that. Confidence doesn't mean shit. You can make yourself "feel" confident any time you want if you know what that feeling is. The only way to develop confidence is by gaining COMPETENCE which comes through EXPERIENCE.
1.) Confidence doesn't mean shit? That is a ridiculous statement.
2.) You are not confident jumping out of a moving vehicle because you are afraid to. You are afraid to because you would expect to get hurt.
3.) Confidence comes from expecting something good to occur. Fear occurs from expecting something negative to occur or (for anxiety) being unsure what will occur. Confidence is all about mindset. You can build confidence with a positive mindset and with words of encouragement. However, experience has a stronger affect on your mindset than mindset and words of encouragement.
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It's not about how you just take the pain. Life is always going to hit you hard... It's about being able to stand back up and hit that mother fucker right back. Women can deal with discomfort too. Just because you deal with discomfort, doesn't make you a "man."
Did you get this from Rocky Balboa?
"It's at the borders of pain and suffering that the men are separated from the boys" Emil Zatopek. This is almost self-explanatory to me. Yes women can deal with just as much pain as a man, but traditionally a quality that defines a man is his ability to deal with discomfort and keep going. The ability to deal with discomfort is discipline.
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Like all of your other posts... About 2 or 3 paragraphs in is when you start rambling about EVEN MORE retarded bullshit. So it begins... Wtf is this even about? Frame Control? Congrats dude... You're posting more rehashed garbage that is ALL OVER this forum already. Instead of just writing short novels about shit, why don't you teach the other thousands of posters how to implement this in your own way instead of talking about street basketball games.
-Everyone has feelings, but character is how you react to them. Your Identity is your character under pressure. Your identity is the specific way you react to pressure. This means when something hurtful happens to you like you loss your job, your gf of 3 years cheats on you, or anything emotionally overwhelming happens to you instead of doing something incredibly ridiculous you behave rationally.
Never cry. Never complain. Just work.
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Actually, the problem most guys have with their "game" is limiting beliefs or success barriers. There is such thing as mental masturbation... Read, for example... Your own posts. Actually, I wouldn't even classify those as mental masturbation. You just use the word confidence over and over again. I consider myself to be a pretty open minded person and I can't even read through the whole thing because it all seems so retarded.
1. The number one problem guys have with the game is the inability to deal with their emotions effectively. More specifically, fear. They either don't have the confidence to remove their fears or the discipline to accept fear.
2. Guys don't talk to girls because they are afraid. When guys do bring themselves to talk to girls they do it in a nervous and shaky way because they are afraid. Guys take disrespect from girls because they are afraid to stand up to her. Guys get Amog'd because they are afraid of confrontation. Guys get clingy because they are afraid the girl won't like them. Guys try too hard because they are afraid. Guys can't deal with rejection because they can't deal with shame.
3. The game is 70% emotional. If you can get past your emotions or deal with your emotions all this shit is easy.
4. chaning your emotions is all mental. That's why I don't believe in mental masturbation. However, I do believe in wasting time....
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Yes. You should just "be yourself." But if "being yourself" doesn't work time and time again, there comes a time when you realize that you suck, what you are doing is wrong, and you should change. You admit that "YES, THERE IS SOMETHING WRONG WITH ME! I WANT TO CHANGE!!" and you fucking do it. You don't sit around and look for the "perfect strategy" you pick a way and go. You figure it out along the way. Some women do want a man that appeases her and compromises for her... I call those guys DOOR MATS.
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1. At the end of the day everyone has values and values are relative. What you like ain't what I like. There is no good or bad way to be.
Just be what makes you happy.
2. This way of thinking is a recipe for insecurity. You don't start thinking something is wrong with you just because someone doesn't like you. Some girls like BMWs, some girls like hummers, and some girls like a prius understand that.
3. Compromise is the only way to get women sometimes. If you push to hard you will lose her altogether. You push the line as far as you can and then when she likes you more then you push further.