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Haha, I love Julien!
Since we have something in common ... I will reward you with content from Julien and Tyler of examples of being the Buyer and not the Seller ... Whether you like it or not ^_^!
Making the girl Invest on You Game
1) Making her react to you by controlling the pace and by asking consecutive questions with out caring for her answer.
- “Who are you and where are you from?”
- Use back hand compliments like, “Listen, you don’t have to keep trying to qualify yourself to me. I already like you.”
- When she starts to qualify herself, interrupt her with a question.
2) Be the buyer and not the seller by evaluating her.
- Say, “Hmmm” and “Interesting” after each responses.
- Say, “I am still evaluating you.”
- Ask her screening questions, “Can you cook?”, “Are you adventures?”
3) Command her to ask you questions.
- “Ask me where I am from.”
- “Ask me what I took in university.”
4) Qualify her, compare her to other people, ask how she became how she is.
- “You are very down to earth. A lot of people are posers. How did you become so down to earth?”
- “Cool you go to school? You must be ambitious person. A lot people don’t even know why they are in school. How did you become so ambitious?”
- “When you were you young what did you wanted to grow up as?”
- “You seem like you don’t judge people. A lot of people are so judgmental. I never judge people! How did you become so sincere?”
- “If the whole world was listening. What would you say?”
5) Push/Pull and Pressure on and Off
- Throw little pushes in your interactions like:
- “Who are you?” The girl responds. You, “Oh, like the dog! How old are you?”
- “Where are you from?” The girl responds. You. “Bitch! How old are you?”
6) Make her qualify for you.
- “Do you think I am shy?”
- “What was your first impression of me?”
- “Do you think I am the type of person who cares of what others think of me?”
7) Act bored.
8 ) Don’t try and just focus on making eye contact.
Most of these are from the Hot Seat 2 of Julien and Tyler's infield ... Plus I threw in my own content and other examples from others to illustrate the Buyer/Seller dynamic ^_^
Enjoy,
Donston
^^^I'm not sure I agree that all of that works... and most of it doesn't fit into every guy's personality or frame... however for a lot of guys don't have that to make it work...
All of these are you asking whether you qualify though:
- “Do you think I am shy?”
- “What was your first impression of me?”
- “Do you think I am the type of person who cares of what others think of me?”
The last tip is the worst tip of all... don't try and make eye contact? WTF? That shit is awful that is the biggest key to showing you are confident and building a connection... That shows you as value...
For him to say: Don't be the buyer be the seller with those statements doesn't make sense...
The comparison to sells doesn't go that far to me to reach into the concept of buying or selling... investing or not... Honestly the interaction should be pretty reciprocal... I get her to invest more than I do by simply making her more interested in me... this I suppose is the concept of being the seller however I don't put any effort into that...
With courtship both sides will have to invest in order to escalate to sex... this will never change saying who is the buyer or who is the seller is quite limiting imo...
Too many people don't realize the natural process is a series of qualifications for each other... first by looks then other areas... in fact the very first qualification happens the moment you meet.... where you guys decide whether her looks are good enough and she yours...
I mean when you study sells you realize they buy YOU not the product.... when you are buying you are simply buying her... honestly there isn't a lot of difference in the big picture because sells routines are a series of compliance tests where you lead them to a positive feeling and escalate... that's similar to courtship but very different in a lot of ways too...
The problem is while there are a lot of comparisons to pick up and sells... in fact they relate a lot they still aren't the same and there are key differences. Like the reality is both sides are buying and selling... they are buying you and selling themselves... you are buying them and selling yourself...
The key is when you realize you don't need to sell yourself but you without effort sell yourself because of how and who you are... Don't feel like you're trying out... just be yourself and you won't be results orientated... rather than qualifying... the natural process, attraction, and curiosity will take care of the qualification bull shit for you...
Peace and Love,
Vic
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