I'm a college student. I confessed to her four days ago at midnight. She was a little surprised and said about what a great guy I was and how confused and torn she was. At the end she said she couldn't give me an answer right away. I said take your time. But I knew I fucked up, had a rough night. The next evening, she wanted to talk. I was prepared to be friendzoned or shut off. But it turned out she really wanted to talk, she talked about the main reasons behind her hesitation
1. we share the same social circle and our classrooms are just across the hall so it would be embarrassing to run into each other later on if we broke up
2. Through her last two breakups she draws the conclusion that guys become less interested once they are in a relationship while girls or at least herself is the opposite, she thinks she doesn't know me well enough and i don't know her well enough either.
3. She said she has admiration for me, but not exactly the kind of feelings she thought she would have for someone she would fall in love with.
Then she asked me what do I look for in a girl and how torn she was and how she's afraid of losing me both as a lover and a friend...at last she again said she couldn't decide right now and kept me waiting again...
and now it's been three days since the last time we talked... Do I still have a chance? P.S. We are on summer break right now and we live in different cities, we talked online. Is there anything I can do when we are face-to-face?

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The moment you feel like you need to prove your worth to a girl, is the moment you need to absolutely walk away.

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They call me the cat whisperer, cause I know exactly what the pussy needs.

Classic mistake: trying to talk a girl into sex. Ignore all the stupid, non-issue objections.
1. You don't even have a relationship and she's already talking about the consequences of a breakup.
2. Her previous relationships failed, well duh, that's why you're talking about this in the first place.
3. Of course she doesn't have the emotions she would have for a lover, you ain't made love yet.

What you want from her, perhaps among other things, is sex. Sex is physical, so focus on the physical connection. No talkie, only sexy. The good news is she sounds reasonably interested. Take her out dancing or something, enjoy yourselves, go for the kiss, etcetera.

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I've been through this a lot. All you have to do is to prove her wrong.

Withdraw from her slowly so she can notice that you're not really after her and that you have better chances with other girls. With this withdraw, you will grow in her eyes. What you've been doing I'm guessing is that you're playing the therapist part where you listen her stories and try to solve them. This is good, but it doesn't do any good if you continue like this. Show her that you're different, she's probably been fooled before a lot. Try to raise your value in her eyes by withdrawing, giving her a small break to rethink things, then going in as a completely changed man, a stronger one.

The only reason she's saying no is that she's not seeing a REAL man in front of her. You seem like a great guy, but in order to get her, you have to "B*tch" around a bit. Make her follow you and lead her.

Walk up to her and before you say anything kiss her. Don't go in there all shy, nervous, and unsure of yourself. Man up, take what you want, and shell love it. If there is any insecurity it wont work. Whats the worst that can happen? If she declines, don't apologize.

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The worst that can happen is that she could slap his face very hard. No one likes their space invaded like that plus he barely knows her.

I think she basically rejected you here and put you in the friend zone. Your only chance I think is to stop talking to her; freeze her out. Forget about her for a while and make her see how it feels to be missing you. Maybe then you have a chance, but honestly, this is a tough one.

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GFTOG. (go fuck ten other girls) whenever this happens, GFTOG. if you dont she will not come back ever. what i mean by gftog is pursue other women. she will come back if she wants you, and if she doesn't then who gives a shit, you got with the other girls you where after. this is foolproof.

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