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The members here do not preach about abundance mentality because they want to create manwhores of us. It is exactly to avoid becoming too attached.
You can be attracted to a girl.
You can love a girl if you've been together for some time.
You can care about your beloved girl, and let her care about you too.
But you can not let a girl take over your entire mind. It just fucks you up, and the relationship too.
You see a lot of people here have a policy of fucking multiple women. Even if they have a girlfriend they would keep some on the side. Not because they don't love her but because they don't want to get too attached to a girl.
For me cheating is unacceptable. I'd rather take the risk. Because I think there is a deeper level than physically fucking other women. If you have a strong inner game and you don't just tell yourself, but truly believe that if this one leaves you right on spot, it takes you no more than a few hours to replace her you will never be too attached anymore, and yet you're still able to love your girl genuinely.
Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying a break-up doesn't hurt me, I'm just saying that I KNOW I can recover from a break-up in a month to the maximum, so I don't really fear losing my girl.
It took me a few years and girlfriends however to get to this level. You're going out once in a fortnight and that's just not going to be enough. Probably you don't have the money or the time, in which case I understand, but then try going out to cheaper places or try rescheduling your week so that you have time to go out at least once a week(the more the better)
Make friends. Start getting to know new people. Start rebuilding your life. Fill it with interesting, valueable men and women. Get a hobby. Start excercising. You will feel a lot better about yourself if you grow some muscles. See there are tons of things to do to improve your life and become more attractive. If you are more attractive, more women will be interested in you which will result in getting closer to the abundance mentallity, reducing your neediness, and increasing your chances to have a healthy relationship. Good luck, mate!
Thank you all for the comments, CMD, sorry bruv, didn't mean to I honestly went out and tried to get as drunk as possible because I knew I wouldnt come back to a club in a while. It wasn't good and I was thinking about my ex and it says something about the night if I was on the forum...
All I am getting is, don't trust a girl too much, if any, just trust yourself and better yourself. It makes me sad. Really sad, because as you can tell, i wear my heart on my sleeve and just want to be the best I can be for her.
The girl just left with the bf, we are going to study later today, i see her for how she is now, a slut, she fucked her boyfriend yesterday and now me, it actually makes me feel a bit sick i dont want to finger her and i want to wash my dick really thorough right now.
I just found out one of my old friends committed suicide today, I got cheated on, im now fucking a girl who has a boyfriend, im skinny as fuck, can't put on muscle because 1) i have barely any money to get gym membership, buy mutant mass, protein, food, and 2) go out and sarge
I feel so down