Ok so it began with me and this girl that was inlove with me.We dated 1-2 times then i said i don't want to hang anymore , and that i want us to be only friends ( and i was feeling it ) and on the same day i chose another girl to be my GF.I was not happy with my choice and i told the first girl i liked her ( i really did then ) and told her to wait bcz i cant break up with the girl i was dating now. So i broke up with her and made the first girl my GF. And here is the problem - so we started to hang out, she was very happy , and she had interest in me -she was showing it. And we were like 1 month , everything was okay , we were so happy.Then suddenly one day she cried and told me she is awful to me and im perfect and i dont deserve this , she said she couldn't love , that sometimes she feels neutral. We had sex the same night and at the morning she said to me that she thinks she loves me. We started to see eachother a bit less bcz we had things 2 do and i saw how she started she started to be distant from me (i mean she messaged me very oftenly i had to be the first one to write) but me feelings for her grew even more. I got pissed off and told her what's wrong and she said the same thing that she feels neutral sometimes. A day after a friend told me she told her best friend that it wasnt the same like at the start , she hated herself for hurting the people who loved her , but she had feelings for me. I got really sad and told her i know and i told her that i will give her time so she can figure does she wants to be with me or not. She got very depressed when i said that to her and yeah I said im sorry and that I didnt want it to say it in that way that i want to break up with her.Okay but that didnt change the fact that sometimes she was so annoying and careless and i went from sad to even sadder everyday.I told her that and she said nothing has changed ,she was the same girl as before but sometimes I was too inlove with her and stuff.She started to get busy all the time , and 1 day she came at my house , it was very passionate and at the same day she was like before.And 1 day after the same annoying , careless girl.One night i went to her house and we talked about that again , she told me that if I didnt said that at the starters (when i said i want to be only friends) she would be inlove with me right now , I told her im sorry ,she said she forgives me and i said i was going to fight for her , so she can love again and i kissed her . The day after she was answering me with 1-2 words at SPAM and i got overemotional and told her some things like "i cant take this any longer " she answered me with something like "I am busy , i answer u when I can .. what r u doing , stop it" and at morning i called her and told her im sorry she was sleepy and had no reaction but still she was distant again. So she told her bestfriend that when i was "badass" she liked me more.And this night she came to sleep at my house , she was acting distant again , barely kissed me i always made the first step , then we got all passionate again but didnt had sex.She was very tired but we hanged up to like 4 am. and then we fell asleep. At the morning she was hugging me like before like she really cared about me and stuff , but again barely returned my kisses (mby bcz she was too tired). And she said to me that she doesnt care that much like I care about her(not with these words but it ment that,That was before the sleepover it was the day i went overemotional). So yeah i wanna know what 2 do , how to be so she falls inlove with me again, hang out with her more , or be more distant dont return her messages and stuff. By the way i didnt answer her 1 night all day and she started to spam my phone and yeah i felt happy bcz she showed some interest.
(Excuse me for my english if u can't understand something)
Thank you for your time.

Tip: please use paragraphs. That was absolutely painful (in the eyes) to read. Firstly, you cannot make a girl 'fall in love with you'; she either will or she won't. You can only aid the process- by being the man, being the best in bed you can possibly be and by NOT giving her too much attention. After decyphering that almost unintelligible post, I can conclude that this girl is psychologically/emotionally unhealthy; either she has very low self-esteem- thus unable to accept/reciprocate affection or she has some kind of split personality disorder- both would be a deal breaker for any kind of relationship for me as it would just result in hurt. I can't really advise you of the best course of action to take here, because the situation seems way too vague and inconsistent. Firstly, you screwed the potential of this relationship up BIG TIME, by dumping her then deciding to take her back.

I can however give you some pointers that MAY help:

1. Don't show her more affection than she shows you, EVER.
2. Do not become clingy/needy or chase her. If she withdraws, you do the same.
3. Ask her HER TRUE FEELINGS for you- if she refuses or gives you vague/bullshit answers, cut her loose. If her response is negative or gives any red flags, also cut her loose.
4. If you cut her loose, DO NOT EVER initiate contact with, let her be the one to initiate it.

It sounds like this girl is not 'in love with you' AND that she has serious mental issues. I'm sorry man but this sounds like a deal breaker- for me, at least.

Good luck to you!

I asked her about her feelings towards me , she said i was being to needy ,clingy, made her angry , killed her emotions and that she doesnt know if she wants to be with me . In result i said "from now on we are only friends".

So i have this very good female friend who is like best-friends with the girl, she msged her and they talked about me and her : Well yeah i screwed myself with the first pick , then getting her back.But she really had strong emotions for me ,but yeah what she said to me that i was getting too much into her private space these days and i killed her emotions.

So after 2-3 hours she msged me and told me how i was doing ( i was actually okay i didnt even care and acted like before ) i answered her with something like "uhm i am good why shouldn't i be" she said she cried and she was very sad. I acted so badass like i dont even care for her and we had a chat like before , she started msging me so much and we had one moment that i was caring for her bcz we were discussing her medical problems - i told her i will always be for her and never give up on her (but told her not in a relationship way) , told her also that our relationship was a mistake , she said it wasnt and i said something like "well if u say so,if it wasnt a mistake it shouldnt have continued that short".

Well yeah i acted like i dont care the chat was like before when we dated , she started to share again.
The problem is i want to get her back i realize what i have dont and i wont do it again ,but i need some guidence how to get her attention again like before ,because if we start again i will know how to behave and she will not regret it , but here is the lack of emotions on her side , so yeah what should I do?

You need to cut out ALL contact with her- for a month or two at least, like I said. Do NOT be friends with her- bad idea. Stop texting/calling/e-mailing her, even meeting up with her- cut off ALL contact. If you do somehow end up bumping into her, make an excuse to leave. Always appear aloof and uninterested. You need to make HER CHASE YOU now, because it sounds like she's lost all attraction for you and is just using you as an emotional tampon- by venting her feelings upon you etc. Just NEXT her- cut her loose. This will allow you to test the waters- if she still has feelings for you or not- you will know if she contacts you; if she doesn't then she is not attracted/interested in you- pure and simple.

The lack of emotions could also very well be the fact that you broke up with her- very bad idea. It usually destroys relationships and trust. It still sounds like she is not really into you enough and she has even admitted this, so you need to let her go man- at least for a while. Once you both lose ALL feelings for each other, then you can consider dating again, but I'd advise against it. Tell her you have decided that you are NO LONGER ATTRACTED TO HER- that you apologized for breaking up with her and she is still 'playing games' and you WILL NOT tolerate it, cut her loose and break all contact. Leave it at that. If she gets back to you, ignore her for the first week or so, then get back to her, but keep your texts VERY short and ONLY text her if she texts you first, always, but don't give her ANY indication of you two getting back together again. You should remain aloof and distant for as long as possible. Let me know how it works out for you.

Questions:

1. How often did you two have sex? I know this a very personal question to ask, but good AND frequent sex will keep her attracted- plain and simple. You seriously need to caveman fuck girls and learn how to make they cum hard with your tongue/fingers to keep them attracted.
2. How long have you two been dating?

She's not in love with you, she likes it when you're a badass and act like you dont give a fuck. If you want to play badass and be in a relationship with her just do it, but that's a lot of effort and hopefully you want to act like you care about the person you date. Move on.

We dated like almost 2 months. Well she was a virgin so we had sex once.We tried the day i broke up with her but yeah didnt happen bcz she was too tired and it couldnt happen and if it did it wasnt going to be good bcz of her need for sleep.

But the first time we had sex it was awesome she cummed like 3-4 times and on the same day told me she thinks she loves me.

Yesterday she msged me and i answered her in like 1 - 2 hours she got sad and told her best friend "damn where is he" , she told her "mby he is watching a film or something" and she said "he better watch a film"
she asked her "lol why" and she answered with "well.. i dont know .. ".And i acted very badass and she spammed me all the chat with some random shit and stuff and i was answering with "yeah, okay" well yeah i kinda showed lack of interest.And at the end i said "yeah im off to bed , good night" and she was like "good night (hug) ^^ " and i turned off my computer without any more messages. She told her best friend she thinks she wants to be alone , but there is a chance of we getting back together.

Only two months and you started to show 'neediness'?...not a good idea man, but salvagable if you play your cards right.
Well done!
Well done! Keep it up. If she doesn't end up wanting to get back together it is HER loss and not yours. You need to start believing that, motherfucker because there is an ABUNDANCE of beautiful, sexy women out there for YOU that WANT YOU and WANT YOU to fuck YOUR brain into THEIR brain. Don't keep ignoring her when she initiates contact- just don't show any emotion. Just keep the chat light and playful and don't convey any 'neediness' to her. Let her be the 'needy' one in the relationship, since that's how its SUPPOSED to be. Read page 3 (my lengthy post) of this thread here: post753111.html#p753111 if you want an abundance of sexy women in your life begging to put their lips around your dick 24/7!!

So yeah i was acting like this for 1-2 days (i am feeling it but not all the time).

She said to her bestfriend that she thinks for us to be together again .. but .. instead of being happy that makes me angry , because she is concedering that because i am acting like this .. what a foolish girl. Im gonna say to her "I need some time of thinking if thats a good idea" , if she says she wants us to be together again .. so is that a good idea of saying it if she asks me that?

First Edward, you flip flopped on her -- not a very manly trait. You liked her then you didn't and then you came crawling back to her and told her you did. Oh man, that's really lame. Then of course what happens next my friend. She flip and flop with a double personality on you. Why, because she is getting back at you the looser. Girls are sharper and smell a rat when you flip flop. Once they sensed they had power over you, then they play you like a guitar, which is why it's so painful to read your story. Sorry, been there done that.

When you are dating 2 women and you're not sure which one it is, DO NOT TELL ANY OF YOUR WOMEN that you are still thinking about. When the opportunity cums, JUST BANG them and find out yourself which is the better of the two. Keep a sense of mystery around them as long as you can. If one isn't giving you the pussy, then choose the next one. No sex, no glue to the relationship you know. If this is a relationship you are looking at. If you are the LTR type, then play it a little slower but date firm. Wanna show the Alpha side of you.

When you first created "doubt" in the beginning of the dating ritual, you are giving mixed messages to her. Women only react to your actions; words do not usually mean anything. So your actions are a reflection of her attitude towards you, so you can only get pussy rewards and XO from her if you project firm manly responses and her emotional responses would be through affection. Get it. I can already see that you are bopping like a yo-yo, so you expect her to provide to manly boost to make you whole so you don't bop? This will never happen. If you want to turn things around, you need to project to her firm and positive messages and keep sending those through actions. Don't text,msgs and leave phone messages to her or get info from her friends. The only way to find out if these work is to see your GF respond back to like it was before, but it won't be the same. Why? Because you showed her your weak card. Once a woman knows your weak side, they know which button to push when they need power over you and that's the only downside you will face when you insist in dating her. Go date other girls and start fresh and don't show all your cards all at once either!

Ok so we hanged out and she got jelous at one point when i hugged a girl , she was acting like she has some interest in me.But the thing is that she told her best friend "why should I get back with him , i type to him first all the time ,he doesnt do anything"

you're dealing with an emotional manipulative woman (could be a Borderline Personality Disorder chick), the best thing to do is to walk away and cut all contact. You will never have a healthy relationship with people like these. They'll just screw with your head over and over again.
You want her to be like before... Not going to happened. That was the honeymoon period and it's gone.

Today she went to my apartment and we studied together , then she went to sleep .. i turned on the music , took a shower,went and hugged her , we fell asleep we kinda hugged then she woke up and we started talking about somethings when u sleep where do you go .. stuff like that.. then she wanted me to make her something to drink and i said whats the magic word .. and eventually we played like this and she said please and i said mm nah and gigled we laughed a bit and then she said she had to go and i said nah im not gonna let you go and i said i will let you go if you kiss me then she said no , and we started laughing about something and at the end she pulled out her phone and waited 1 minute bcz i told her after 1 minute i will let you go and watched the clock at the phone i got pissed and let her go , told her that im sorry for my mistakes and i realized what mistakes i made but too bad after we broke up and said "okay? " and she said okay .. i got grumpy and didnt talk to her the whole time to her bus stop we were with some friends. She asked me whats wrong - Am i sad , am i mad i said no. She asked me why i was acting this way i said - because I can .. her bus came and she tried to hug me and i didnt do anything ,only said goodbye and she said goodbye and went off. Now im sad and pissed and everything..

She msged me out of nowhere and she asked me if I want to be with her.
I asked it doesn't matter now , she doesnt , why does she ask me.
She answered so i can be sure.
I told her i want to be with the girl who made me happy and the girl which i had fun with.
She said she is seeing that.
I asked her why did u ask me that?
And she said : well.. i dont know , because i was thinking about stuff
I asked "About what stuff"
She said : "well ... that i feel good with you , except when you get all annoying"

I wanted to say something like "but this girl i wanted is already gone"
So.. i don't know actually at one point i want to get back with her and take only sex from the relationship and nothing more so i can't hurt myself .. but what if she can change.. im rly confused