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Hey L.A.
What should I've done else in those situations:
1) Location: Bus
After a minute or so I stand up and walk to the girl, just for the sake of making a first approach or opening or whatever you guys call this.
Me: "Hey, do you want to drink a beer with my mate and me?"
She: "No, sorry"
Me: "Okay"
and I hop out of the bus...
2) Location: Pause of a classical concert (usually I don't go to classical concerts), they were three girls, we were 4 men.
Me: "Hey, do you want to drink a coffee with my friends and me after the concert?"
She: "Maybe, hehe, but we're here with our parents"
Me: "Okay shouldn't be that much of an obstacle?"
She: "We'll see"
I turn around again to my friends. After the concert she just leaves.
Soo I don't know whether it's appropriate to ask this questions here, though I guess it is, since the thread's called "ask L.A. Tripp" and it's in the noob section.
Please note that english is not my first language, so the openings wouldn't have sounded so clumsy, I just tried to translate the content.
I thought perhaps I just should have said to them something like: "Hey, blabla serious question. blabla... Would you ever sleep with a guy who still sleeps with his teddybear... blabla..." But I don't feel comftable with this stuff yet. Should I just try one of those? I mean, it can't get worse

My thorough is though that someone already used such an opener with that girl, and this would be quite strange if two guys just say the exact same "mysterious" thing for an opening.
Actually I've got also a few other questions but I'll save them for later

If my post here would be total inappropriate or so, so I don't post even more bullshit. Shows how inconfident I am of myself, doesn't it?
Thanks
Hey Level. First of all, welcome to the forum.
Second, no your qestions aren't stupid, or inappropriate, or anything like that. Good questions. Obviously from your statement about your confidence, your inner game needs work. Your confidence. That's one point we need to work on.
Now, for someone to open a girl by asking immediately if they want to grab a beer w/a guy they don't know isn't good. And it makes it worse for someone that doesn't have confidence to do that. You may get luck from time to time with that, but overall it's not gonna be effective.
For the situation with the bus, that was over before it started. Nothing to do about that one except using a different opener.
With the second situation:
"Me: "Hey, do you want to drink a coffee with my friends and me after the concert?"
She: "Maybe, hehe, but we're here with our parents"
Me: "Okay shouldn't be that much of an obstacle?"
She: "We'll see"
I turn around again to my friends. After the concert she just leaves."
The opener obviously needs to be changed, as I've already mentioned. But, you had their attention, believe it or not. The first line from her was a test, to which you gave a good answer. When she said "we'll see", instead of you turning around to her friends, you should have been confident and direct and pushed her on it. Forced her hand so to speak. If she was of legal age, and if it was still possible that she could have been with her parents, then step up and tell her to introduce you. If she introduces you, great. Make friends with the parents. They are just obstacles. If she came clean and said she wasn't with parents, she would have likely thrown another test at you, to which you would have to blow throw it too.
Just don't ever cower down or turn away when they test you like that. Blow through the tests, unless you just aren't interested in the girl.