haven't been on here in a while. i'm loving seeing this topic, as i got into it from a spiritual perspective, but immediately noticed the effect it has on women!
i started celibacy as a means for preperation for an ayahuasca ceremony. for those not familiar, check this vid:
https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid ... =1&theater
there's plenty more online as well. anyway, i'll continue...
i'll skip the story that led me there, and lead to what i learned; when you ejaculate, your body thinks it's creating another life. i feel the act drains you of your life energy, your spiritual energy. even if you're not a spiritual person, you have to agree, creating a life is a big deal! why do you think we're drained after sex/masturbation? Your body is tired from an attempt to reproduce. Cutting out the habit leads to a build up of energy. And great energy is a very attractive quality. You'll be more yourself, more the you that you want to be, when your energy levels are high you'll be more focused, more alert.
Its tough up until around the 3rd week, from there its easier, you dont think about it as much. That said, I've never lasted longer than a month, though I know people who have gone many months. This isn't to say you can't have sex, either. "Sex with conciousness" is how it was put to me; sex without ejaculation. Some of the best sex I've ever had. One time it actually seemed like the girl was trying to get me to break my celibacy, like she wanted to be make me ejaculate, because she knew I didn't want it, I'd told her about it. Had some seriously intense sex as a result!
And as for not lasting longer; sometimes this is true, but when I think I'm about to come, I pull out and tease her, start going down on her for a little bit until you feel safe to get back in there. Sex with conciousness.