I've decided to start this jurnal to share with you my experiences during the next 21 days (the duration of the exercise) hoping that it will others, and also help me to stay motivated to complete all the missions.

Short description of the "Demonic Confidence Challenge": It's a psychological conditioning exercise with different missions aimed to eliminate approach anxiety.
If you are planning to do this challenge read no further, it is required that you don't know the missions before you actually have to do them.

Thoughts at the beginning:
I should mention that this is my second attempt at this challange, i've tryed it before in the winter and due to several reasons(cold weather, started late in the day; but afterall it was all my fault) i've failed on mission 5 (had only 23 instead of 30).
Today is first day and unlike last time I know that it's possible to get rid of approach anxiety or at least diminish it. I'm doing this exercise because I like being challanged and achieving goals ( can't stand the fact that I failed it the first time and I find it unconcievable to fail again).

I think it will be fun to witness people's reactions, i'm sure some of them will make me laugh. I'm sure it will be an adrenaline rush too.

Since this challenge only requires me to do things and not the people I approach if I fail it's only my fault. There is no reason to fail. I will do it even if it gets me slapped or in a fight on the street.
Let the FUN BEGIN!


Since today is the first day i'll be back later to tell you how it went, stay tuned and bring popcorn.

Day 1 report:


With great shame and dishonor I report that i've only done 8 out of 30. I started late due to the fact that my car got scrached and had to handle it and had to wait for a delivery that came way late... Then, when I finally got started, not long after that, the rain started and nobody was left on the street.

Anyway, all my fault. Tonight i'll listen to the stasis module and tomorow i'll start it in the morning to make sure I get it done.

Day 1 mission:

I have to ask 30 women the time. I don't have to wear a watch and I can turn off my cell so it doesn't ring.


Debriefing(..or how it went):

I approached 30 women and asked them for the time. I only approached women that I found attactive (or tryed my best to do that...had some surprises when some turned around lol) that were either alone or with other girls, not with boyfriends.
About 26-27 told me the time, most of them were nice, few of them made some grimase (as in bleh...what a hassle) yet they answered or a girl that was with them did.

Attractive women without boyfriends seem kind of hard to find at this time of year in my city...

Not much more to say here...pretty straight forward exercise. Stay tuned for day 2.

Edit: Had some trouble asking women right and left what's the time out of irrational "fear" of looking like a fool(and being called on it by someone noticing). Yes... I know I shouldn't care what others think about me, unfortunatly that's not something that I can control consciously...hence the reason i'm doing this exercise.

Day 2 mission:

Today I have to approach 30 women(I'll make sure they are attractive) and ask for the time, but unlike yesterday I will be wearing a watch or holding a cellphone in my hand. I won't advertise my watch (or cell) and I won't make any excuses for it either; unless she asks me about it, in which case I can tell her "I want to make sure I have the right time".
I don't have to offer an excuse unless she asks for one.



I'll go out now and tell you later how it went. I hope i'll get some intersting reactions today.

Day 2 COMPLETE:

I asked 30 attractive women what time is it while wearing a watch. About 26 of them told me. Some noticed my watch and still answered.
So far I didn't approach women with boyfriends or kids, thinking if I should...

I found this interesting. Made me think of a "compliance" test...

I thought about asking girls that were running to stop (just told them "stop", one word, bit different then simple stop in my language): told about 3-4 of them, one of them laughed the rest ignored it. None stopped. I thought would of been fun to see if any would stop, if they did i'd ask them the time...then tell them to "wait there" as I walked away, I bet it would make an interesting reaction.

Looking forward to see what tomorow brings.

Day 3 mission:

I have to approach 30 women (that I find attractive) and ask them the time while pointing at my watch.


I wonder what reactions i'll get...stay tunned if you want to find out.

Day 3 COMPLETE:

I'll start off by saying this was my fastest day (completed the task in shortest time). Got motivated by the fact that was late (again...lots of stuff to do but still my fault) and pushed myself to not avoid sets regardless. So I "opened" left and right regardless of the fact that some of them were sitting few meters apart.



What reactions I got:

-most of them answered, I thanked them and moved on

-some called me on the fact that I had a watch (and pointed to it as I was asking); How the conversation went: "Don't you have a watch?" "Yes, I do. But I don't see the connection. Is that a reason for you not to tell me the time?". Or some variation. After that some answered.

-one group refused to tell me because one of them jokingly didn't like my shirt

-due to the fact that my eyesight is not perfect and light was getting low I approached some girls with their mother (they probably were at least 16...but hard to tell with all the makeup they were wearing, nice job mommy). Their mom gave me deadly stares and told me to check MY watch, and pulled her daughter away from me. It made me laugh. Later on I saw them again walking my way, she pulled her daughter away from my walking path again and gave me deadly stares. I assured them I mean no harm as they passed by. That made me laugh even harder after they passed...the immage of her pulling her daughter away as If I was some kind of predator was just too funny.

-one milf and two younger ones (I thought they might be mother and daughters?) played into it and asked me if I want the time from just one or all of them(I wasn't looking at one in particular as I was asking). After one answered I asked them each to tell me. They did and I thanked them. I was a bit surprised, as I was getting close I expected a harsh reaction. I guess it's just education difference, I wouldn't get mad about it either (unlike some did)...but maybe the ones that got mad just had a bad day or I interrupted a really good conversation.

-I asked about 3 of them twice, hard to tell the difference after about 20 "sets". One group started yelling "OMG it's you again, go way, we already told you the fucking time time. If you'd at least take the fucking watch off...", in a rude manner. I didn't let myself be affected by it back then so I won't insist on it much now.

-After asking a few groups that we're close to eachother one of them wished me luck ironically by yelling "I really hope it works out for you dude" (I guess they didn't consider this to be a great pickup line), I asked them "what?(do you hope it works out)". I hope it does too (finishing the program), but we were talking about different things obviously. They we're thinking that i'm trying to pick up girls with this "line", wasn't true obviusly.

-one girl at the end pointed out that it's kind of weird to ask the time if you have a watch, I concurred: "It is a bit weird isn't it?", she told me anyway.



What I learned today:

- There are different types of girls and you'll get different types of reaction, most of them have nothing to do with you or with what you can control

- It's great not to care what people think about you

- You can get a good reaction even with this "opener", I guess how you look and maybe body language and obviously the girl's situation has more to do with it then what you say at first.

- I learned to detach myself from their reaction and focus on what I do

- I realised in my "subconscious" (I knew it conciously long ago) that this is a number's game and you must get over any type of reaction

- I learned to be curious about people's reactions without letting myself be affected by them


And I did all this after one of my shittiest days (outside of PUA). Maybe for some ain't much, maybe for some is. Just detach and live life.

Stay tunned for tomorow's mission and feel free to comment.

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Keep walking...

Pretty interesting lol, can you send the stuff to me?

Day 4 mission:

Today I have to go out and ask 30 women (that I find attractive) for directions toward a place fairly well known (post office is suggested) and try to make the conversation last as long as possible.
I need to push each conversation to last longer than the last using everything I can think of, asking just one more extra question each time. It doesn't matter if they walk away.

I haven't decided what location i'll ask about today. Probably try a few different ones depending on my location.
But I decided that today i'll have fun, and i'll try to make a conversation last one hour. Yep, one hour starting from "Hi, can you tell me how I can get to ....?". Do you think i'll make it?
Might be a good oportunity for some #closes too.

Come back later to see how I did.

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Keep walking...

Day 4 COMPLETE:


I'll start of by saying that I did manage to get an over one hour conversation...but with a guy. He overheard me asking for directions then he offered to help and as we were going "the same way" we chatted on the way. No, not gay...and I blew "helpfull bystanders" off before...he was just interesting guy to talk to.

As for the girls...some of them offered to show me as they were walking the same way, chatted on the way. Nothing notable.
Almost all of them were nice and like the first day when I was asking for the time(even more so than the first day, these days everybody has a watch or cell) this seemed a genuine question and they were trying to help me.

I could of pushed some conversations more but I was getting tired and I saw myself at the end not trying to make it last by all means...I walked alot and it took alot of time even though about 1/3 of them didn't know how to help me.

Not much to say about today, just that it's important to pick a well known location ( I tryed a few different ones with different stories).

Sorry for the not so detailed field report, just writing whatever comes to mind...maybe i'll edit it tomorow after I get some rest.

Stay tunned for tomorow's mission.

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Keep walking...

Great read - I especially like your "What you've learned" break down to some posts.

Day 5 mission:

I have to find 30 women (that I find attractive) , wherever I may be, and pay them a compliment. The compliment HAS TO BE non-sexual. Basically anything that I could say to my sister or my mother (shoes, purse, hair, clothes, smile).

30 women, a nice simple compliment, in rapid succesion.


I'll come back later to tell you how it went.

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Keep walking...

Missed the day. I'll listen to the stasis and start tomorow as early as possible (latest at 12:00).

Aparently according to the rules I need to start over for starting a day. I'll continue posting with day 5 as I get there.

As promised, I restarted the exercise and got past day 5....soooo


DAY 5 COMPLETE:

Since I restarted the challenge from day 1 I convinced a friend to do it with me, it's more fun if you have someone to talk to.
I'll mention though that we're doing it separately so there is no interference.

How day 5 went:

I'll start off by saying that it wasn't easy. I just suck at giving compliments. I very rarely do it and they are always sincere (the reason why they are rare...most people don't really deserve them).

So today I had to come up with something decent on the spot in a few seconds. After I saw the girl I had a few seconds to notice something about her attire and make it into a compliment.
I did make some compliments that were somehow undeserved...I needed the numbers. But I noticed that those women that made it easy for me (they had something that deserved complimenting) took it nicely...probably they put the work into it and they were wishing (or expecting) to get a compliment for it.

What reactions I got:
-most of them thanked me
-I think some of them didn't hear me as they were either talking to eachother or on the phone and walking by fast
-one of them that was in a group, after she froze up, the group or her corrected my compliment (I said that I like her haircut), aparently they didn't like the word I used in my language for haircut (probably she was looking for coiffure instead...)

How i'm doing so far:
-I definetly got more balsy
-I definetly care way less about what other think about me
-I don't really care about women's reactions anymore
-I learned to aproach this with curiosity, even outside missions I said things to strangers to get reactions or after I was done I modified the mission to see what happens if I do something a bit different-am observat ca multe din preconceptiile pe care le avea in legatura cu reactiile oamenilor (si ale barbatilor) sunt gresite.
-Most people seem very timid and non combative, willing to put other's happyness and comfort above their own, I can say now with all sincerity that I am not like that.