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Dude then what are you looking for with your OP? Cuase it looks like you're just looking to blow off steam or for people to agree with you.
Personally, I don't know you, I only know what you wrote; and that's what you want people to know of you. I know you're insecure and have low self-esteem. The reasons why you do would probably best be handled by a professional therapist and not on an internet forum (no disrespect to this forum I think it's great).
And personally, if what you have written is true and you have only slept with prostitutes in your life, then you definitely need professional help. Because, you weren't always 40-something and you weren't always bald. You were younger once. So these are just things that have come with time but have not changed the fact that you cannot interact with women.
And if I choose to believe you and believe you have good social skills, I'll say you are (curiously) over-estimating yourself in this respect. Because from how you have interacted with a lot of helpful people over the last 10 pages, you have only showed confrontational skills. And if this is also how you also interact with women, then your lack of success comes as no surprise to me. Don't blame it on anythng else.
Seek help dude not argumentes and open your mind. Peace.
Thanks Dr Phil, and no I don't need therapy or any of your shaming langauge and insults. I know how to interact with women, or anybody else for that matter, I have mainly worked with women most of my life, and got along with virtually all of them famously.
I am not confrontational at all, but at the same time I am not someone who gets brainwashed easily, unlike many of these PUA fanboys who claim they are good with women, but probably couldn't score a fuck in a brothel with fist full of fifties, at least I am honest about my cursed luck with women.
What's wrong with seeing prostitues?, they provide a coping mechanism for lonely men like me, and contrary to media stereotypes most men who see hookers are actually married men, and whenever I see hookers I treat with the upmost respect and kindness and they appreciate that.
But to answer your intial question, all I have wanted in life is to meet one woman (I am not player, casanova, serial womaniser etc), that I could settle down with and enjoy a happy relationship, I am not looking for a HB10 or a supermodel, as these women are out of my league, but I value a womans personality more than her looks.
There are many men in my predicament, I know of 40 to 50+ year old men who are virgins, or have never had girlfriends, and no, they are not deformed, smell bad or are creeps, they are just decent guys who have simply been dealt a bad hand in life (like I have). It seems that as a man if you admit to being challenged by dating, the PUA industry, its fanboys, women and society unfairly demonise you and slander you with insults and shaming language.
The old saying that "there's someone for everybody" is a myth, and sadly some men through no fault of their own, will die alone.
OK now we're getting somewhere. First off, I haven't insulted you AT ALL, or used shaming language. But we can agree to disagree on that for the time being.
You have said exactly what my 35 year old friend said to me the other day when I asked him what he wanted. A nice girl to settle down with.
Down points for him: He however isn't the best looking guy, is overweight, half-asian (in a latin country) and not rolling in money (to address your concerns).
Up points: sociable as hell, good background, smart, family company on the up.
His only sex is though prostitutes as well. He has had one GF, and that ended about 12 years ago. I do not consider that a fulfilling sentimental life.
I wanted to help him so I started taking him out in the field, sending him reading material, and trying to help him begin to understand women (he has a lot of women friends who just leech him because he's just too nice and dumb.
But guess what happened?
Instead of reading what I sent (I also went to his house for one-on-one classes), and working his inner game, getting nice clothes (I offered to help out in the looks department).... He just kept watching TV, going out with the same stupid girl-
friends who do NOTHING for him, and basically has not wanted to WORK AT ALL at becoming a better person for some woman to fall for. He has NO IDEA what to do in order to get women, but will also refuse to game or practice with me yesterday when out at a club.
I used the analogy of the overweight guy who wondered why he didn't lose weight while he continued to be a couch potato and eat pringles. You have to WORK for things you want in your life. This DOES NOT include closing yourself off and ignoring sound advice.
In any case my friend, you sound a lot like him. I am 38 divorced with a kid, and can still get 21 year olds contrary to all logic living in a very conservative country. Thanks to confidence and listening to advice and practicing like hell. I also crash and burn, but you can't make an omelet without breaking some eggs.
If you continue the prostitute way, good for you. I know a few pros as friends (never used their services) and some are nice and fun girls. But it's work for them, therefore I could consider sex with prostitutes like jacking off, because you have not established a human connection that stuck enough for you to have a sexual relationship without money. They might help you take your mind off your problem... though that is not what you should be seeking IMHO.
Too many similarities with my friend man.... There are people with your mindset all around the world.. You are setting your own limits. You are not going to get what you want putting down ANYTHING (including PU). As I said, you weren't always 45 or bald. You've been doing the same wrong thing for decades, but don't wanna figure out what it is.
More insults, if you had bothered to read my other posts, you would know that I have tried all different types of methods and nothing worked, so I resent your assertion that I have been doing exacttly same thing because I haven't.
The only reason you are good with women is because of your looks, don't claim that it was PUA or any other of that pop-psychology.
And of course prostitues only do for it the money and it's only work for them, Captian Fucking Obvious, don't you think I know that? I don't go to hookers to find my wife, I am not stupid.