Sometimes when i am talking to a girl, subconsciously i look at her lips.Then i realize that i am looking at her lips and i look back to her eyes.Is this a problem?

Hey!

I've read several books on body language so maybe I can help you.
As far as I know, there are three types of "gazes":

- Social gaze:
inmagine a triangle from her eyes untill her mouth/chin. If you look in this area it is the social gaze.

- Business gaze:
inmagine a triangle from her eyes untill the top of her head (so basicly, looking above the eyes), this is a business gaze. (people who do business together usually use this gaze to AMOG)

- Interest gaze:
Inmagine a longer triangle from her ears untill her stomach, if you look in here, this is the interest gaze.

Funny things about this:
- If you are in the social gaze, you show interest.
- if you look at her breasts, she knows you are in the interest gaze instead of the social gaze, and then she knows your interested (basicly the reason why you should never look at her boobs while she sees you)

To answer your question. There is nothing wrong with looking at her mouth in this scenario. Only thing I can think of is that by looking at her mouth, you are thinking of kissing. (btw, if she does the same, she is also) So make sure that does not give your game away. However, social wise, it is accepted as normal as far as I know it.

greets,

-Q

Thanks Qbrain

I've read in different books and around the internet different names. I've read in books eye to eye to lips is the intimate gaze(this is what I refer to it as), I've read that it was the eye to eye to crotch is the intimate gaze. Everyone seems to refer to it differently, but everyone agrees that it is better for escalating.

I consider the social gaze the business gaze because I don't look a man I'm socializing with in the lips sorry, it doesn't happen. I look at the lips to build sexual tension and let her know what I want, a kiss.

I agree it is normal to look a woman in the lips when you talk to her, you should continue doing it but I would personally look to the eyes as well.

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i have always been terrible with maintaining eye contact until reading a lot of stuff on this site. i always used to look at the lips/mouth when anyone was talking. now i look people right in the eye. you can gain a lot of information from women when you look them in the eye, as well as express interest from the way you look at them. it's very subtle but extremely helpful in building attraction. i would consciously try to increase your level of eye contact with women and see what happens, i figure you will notice more subtle hints of attraction, as well as appear ore confident. when the time is right do the triangle gaze from eye to eye to lips and back. this does work.

Never heard about the triangle gaze (eye to eye to lips) untill today. I don't remember if it was in 1 of the 5 dvd's from the mystery method I watched, or from The Game from style, which I was reading a bit today.. but still a very interesting thing...

Gonna try this out in the field, thanks!

-Q

I don't think it's an immediate problem but I agree with what is said above.

I'd like to point out it may depend also on her height, if your looking at her lips especially if she's not as tall as you are, you could be falsely demonstrating signs of submission there or be accused or inappropriately checking out her 'goods'.

You can utilize looking at her lips to your advantage. Do not look at them too long or too much, this might come off a bit creepy or like you're deaf or something. But, paying attention to the lips is a subconscious sign of attraction, and the girls know that!

Use it selectively to show a girl you are interested. Do not let your eyes go ANY further down than the lips! Looking at the chin is awkward, at the neck is "aggressive", and the breasts...well, you know.

However, the "friendly" range of eye-movement/contact is from eye to eye, down to the lips. Basically the immediate face. As we all know though, looking straight into a girl's eyes while she's talking to you can do wonders.

Also, you may lick your lips quickly or bite on the bottom lip ever so slightly; but use this especially sparingly! It definitely communicates attraction.

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personally i don't think its a problem. I look at a girls entire face, sometimes i do a quick run down of thier entire body for a second or two, it's kinda natural, hard to resist. I feel like it's better to just go with the flow, not try to rigidly control everything you do, it's just not natural. When your about to kiss a girl what do you look at? Her lips, like the whole time. At least i do, usually. Keep eye contact like 75% of the time as a rule of thumb i guess? just dont look around/ act ancy/ act like you're uncomfortable. Where you look doesn't matter to such an extreme, at least in my opinion; i mean unless your just staring at her boobs constantly haha!