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Thanks for the advice. I am not interested in cheating. But what you are saying makes sense and confirms my theory about what happens when you have a hot gf. Especially the part about not finding any other girls more attractive.
I have another question, my gf has an incredibly high bitch shield because she gets hit on so many times a day. In her job she is exposed to hundreds of guys that want to get into her pants. Now I was lucky with the situation I met her in as we have a mutual friend. But I would like to know for the future how to get around the bitch shields of girls that get hit on so much. As they are the only ones that interest me.
Ahhhhh! The infamous "bitch shield" lol. This can be a tough one and usually involve the "long hustle" the answer you seek is something you already know.
You mentioned that you met your girl through a mutual friend, it is basically the same principle. You have to approach without any indication of trying to pick up.
There is a couple of different methods you can use:
1) You have to approach in a "friendly" only mentality. Your present circumstance is ideal( you have a girlfriend) In your case, I would open up with a question seeking her opinion on something to do with your girlfriend ( ie: shoes/fashion/gift/dating advice) DO NOT show any signs of interest( do not hit on her in anyway, no compliments on her physical appearance. You have to seem genuinely not interested in her that way.
Women with a shield up are on high guard, Even if a man approaches with friendly words but still has the mentality of picking her up, a women can often still read the mans body language and will continue to guard, that being said, you must have the friendly state of mind only.
Think of it this way, if you become friends, she will have let her guard down, just as your GF did when you met her as it was through a mutual "friend".
2) If the girl is with friends, odds are they are less attractive then her. It is rare to see a group of 10's together. That being said, approach the group, but don't even acknowledge the 10, show no interest at all, keep engaging the less attractive women of the group, the 10 will let her guard down just to get " her just deserved attention" She will wonder why you're not trying to talk to her as she is the 10 of the group and used to all the attention.
Also if you engage her friend/friends away from her, her friend can bring you in.
Stay friendly, the long "pick up" is still warranted. Show no interest in her other then becoming friends. If you start a conversation, and it goes very well. You can attempt to remain in contact with her. but speculate friendship only. ( here's where the long hustle starts) She may still not want to give up the digits so be sure to stay in contact with her friends, its all about seeing her again( even if the friends are there too)
Ideally, you don't want to show any signs of interest till you are both completely comfortable with one another as friends. I found through my experience that the super hot chicks ( that are desired by most) given enough time will question why you are outside of the norm and eventually try to escalate themselves, to get the gratification/admiration they are so used to from men. By standing your ground you will become different then any other man and thus! more intriguing.
Two different methods, but the same path. Friends first is usually the only way to get through the shield. ( from my experience)