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Unfortunately nor pua nor afc approach me ,not because I am ugly but because I am really intimidating. I just read a few books about body language etcetera and turns out my body language is really dominant I have black hair and straight brows ( not submissive ) etc
When I finally happen to talk to an afc I get bored we talk small talk, and I feel like I cant be bothered, also the guys I end up attracting are never dominant real men because I always end up being the teaser, the hard to get one , the one that makes the first move etc..why is this?
Dominant men are dominant. They want to identify, stalk, and pursue their target before finally seizing it for themselves, like a lion. This is true when they're buying a car, when they're deciding what career path they want to take, and, of course, when they're picking out girls they want to get with. Submissive guys are like hyenas: they wait for scraps to come their way, and usually get stuck with whatever the lions don't really want. Dominant men are weirded out by aggressive girls because they don't want to be out-dominated (emasculated) by what they see as a target or prize, whereas submissive men are so desperate to take whatever they can get that they don't even care.
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Basically decided to join this site to improve skills on women so I am wondering does it work by a women on a women ?
And by a women on men ?
I don't know much about women picking up women, all I can say is that, based on my experience, bisexual girls are totally insane, sometimes in a fun way and sometimes in a dangerous way. But yeah, you're on your own with that one. As far as women picking up men, here's the situation: if you have a fat, ugly girl, looking to get laid by a normal, decent guy, it's probably not gonna happen unless the guy gets really drunk. Guys decide whether a girl is attractive or not based on her physical appearance: everything else is secondary. If a girl is even moderately pretty, then she has a pretty good shot at hooking up with any guy she wants: just telling him that she's willing to
falace him will almost always do the trick.
The attractiveness of a guy through the eyes of a girl, on the other hand, is based on his ability to provide "security" through physical, social, or financial means, depending on the environment. Game is, essentially, advertising yourself to girls as being a "high value" individual who is capable of providing these things, even if that's not actually the case. Since guys can manipulate how they are perceived in terms of social and financial standing, they have a lot of control over their level of attractiveness to girls.
To attract a woman: prove to her that you're a high value individual who guys want to be and who other girls want to be with.
To attract a guy: look hot. Make it obvious to them that you are a prize that they can compete against other guys for and eventually win for themselves.
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I also want to attract other types of men and I want to be the one to approach because that keeps things fun for me so that I dont get bored...Unfortunately I read somewhere that women should never approach men because the aggresive approach turns men off. is this true?
If you want to attract every guy on the face of the Earth, dominant ones included, you need to make yourself into the ultimate prize. Now, I don't know if you're hot, or pretty, or whatever, so I can't make a concrete statement on this, but if you're at least somewhat pretty, you have a good shot at attracting whoever it is you want to attract, as long as you go about it the right way. You don't have to be submissive, but I'd definitely tone down the aggression. One of the hottest, most desirable girls I've ever met is this girl from Russia whose personality sounds similar to yours. She doesn't aggressively chase down guys, but she lets them know she's ready to play, and that, while getting with her is definitely in the cards, it's going to be a challenge. Submissive guys rightfully assume they don't even have a shot with her: only the confident guys will pursue her. They talk to each other about how hot she is and how much they'd love to get with her. The fact that she has a personality like the one she does makes it like a competition or game that not every guy can win. Needless to say, other girls are intimidated by her because she's the Lamborghini to their Geo Metros.
Didn't mean to write a novel there, but that's what I think, based on my experience. Anyway, welcome to the site. It's pretty cool to see a chick on here who actually knows about this stuff.