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Very good advice here! I do the tip thing too, it never fails. :)

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Have you thought about posting field or lay reports? I think mst guys could learn alot from how you react in different situations given you detail the good parts i.e what body language you notice, corresponding phrases, getting them in bed etc.

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SexAddict911, I can totally believe that you are a massage therapist, you could even be a romantic novelist ! Your care and attention to the way you write and frame your sentences exhibit those qualities. But you fail the test of having a temperament of a guy who has slept with multiple(100s) of women.

You just don't have the structure and frame in your game (from your advices) to pick up soo many women. Also, anyone who has been around women would tell you that a cool temperament and frame control are key to success. You dont have either of them. You cant stand getting challenged which further raises doubts about your ability to be successful when tested by women.

However, some of your advices are good, esp. the ones about developing a social group outside of university and school etc.. other ones such as eye contact walking up etc. are also fine. You must have been around, even slept with 10 or may be say 20 women but you are still not there No matter how much you scream from a rooftop.

In a crowded Bar/Club with loud music and high energy and hundreds of people engaged in something or appear to and attractions being sparked by the minute, you mean to say you walk around waiting for 3 IOIs or eye contact before you even move in!! - Good luck with that You are wasting your time. I move in with one or non - just walk in and try spark that attraction. Dont waste time to get noticed !

Anyways you have a good number of followers in the thread so hope you can give them responsible and good advise. - Good luck.


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What are the main features in your style of game?

Do you have an outline/model of what you do?

Scenario: Night, club, bar scene.
The game is different based on whether or not you plan to visit this club again. I usually always assume i will be back ( unless it is far out of town or I am on vacation)

I do not have any outlines or model of what I do, but I do have some rituals that I tend to follow.

If you arrive at the club early, it is a good idea to spend some time with the staff. Being very polite and friendly can help you later on in the night.

Even before entering, talk to the door man establish a good rapport with him, get his name. Be extremely friendly. Try to be memorable. ( this can help you in the future if you frequent the club again)

I usually always look for an attractive bartender, ( male or female) I will order a drink and then offer a very big tip 5-10$ I will then say to them, I am giving you this tip now to ensure great service from you, there will be another big tip at the end of the night. This usually gets you served first approaching the bar when crowded. The reason I look for the most attractive is because they usually have the most eyes on them when it becomes packed.( while customers are waiting for drinks) So when you come to the bar to order another drink and they serve you first, it usually makes others wonder, what is so special about you.

Talk to the bouncers, establish a friendly rapport, get their names and remember them. You never know when you may need their help. ( being seen with bouncers can often help you establish a sort of don't mess with this guy attitude from other alpha males in the club)

After I have successfully worked the staff, I will then seek out a spot in the bar where I can see the most. I spend the next 30-60 minutes observing ( I will rarely work game right away unless it presents itself to me)

I will also do many laps of the club getting myself seen and trying to establish eye contact with as many beautiful woman as possible. When eye contact is established as I walk by, I will usually smile or make some sort of positive gesture then keep walking. ( I am not approaching anyone at this time)

What I am looking for is simple tells, wedding bands/engagement rings, boyfriends, signs of interest- extended looks, smiles, smirks, attention, positive energy, dancing style, drunkiness ( too drunk is no good for my game) cock blockers...etc etc. All of these things are observed when trying to find a mark.

I will only pick one mark at a time, sure there may be 10 girls i want to work on, but i will only focus on one at a time.

A very important element in a club setting is your comfort around other alpha males. It is wise to always find friendly ones, based on over heard conversation etc. A very easy way to establish a friendship with them is to show your interest in the women in the club. ( As a hot woman walks by, observe her then look at the other guys observing her, then as she is gone, comment on how hot she was to the other men and what you would like to do to her) It's a form of mutual bonding, as all of you have the same intentions.

Never address a group of men, usually one or two men at once. Groups tend to have a group mentality and you can often be seen unconsciously as an intruder but by talking to one or two members of the group can easily bring you into general acceptance.

Easiest way to get respect from guys in a club, is to be good at dancing. Dancing is the best possible tool to have in a club setting, the better you are, the more respect you will garner. ( If you are not in anyway an alpha male, i suggest you learn to dance well) It also sets you apart from the rest. Almost any dance floor in any club anywhere in the world is usually 80-90% women. Then out of the 10-20% of men on the dance floor, how many are dancing well or even dancing period. If you are on the dance floor dancing well, you become a very small percentile, thus making you unique.


Becoming comfortable in your present setting is essential to starting your game in the right mind set. The better your mindset, the better your game.
Its amazing sexaddict to see that u r doing alot of stuff that I have seen in movies and read about. I can actually picture it. I know it can be done, and it shows in your experience. I can see a guy who is well groomed, is healthy looking, who has a good self image, has the comfort of not worrying about himself and can just lay back and just start charming people. Everything u do and say is written in movies, literature and is in the PUA world. Please take it as a compliment as it is not meant to demean ur talent.

I am just smiling as I have not met someone who could do all these things with class.

It takes a great actor to make great lines come alive on stage.

Before I did PUA stuff. I did spend 10 years of reading about sales and behavioural pychology. Ur use of language shows that u have read such stuff to be able to describe what u do. I can only assume it made u better at doing what u do. I only say this as there is a familiarity with the language. Some guys may have thought u were using pua language. I guess those guys were not aware that those psychological terms have always been around.

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SexAddict911, I can totally believe that you are a massage therapist, you could even be a romantic novelist ! Your care and attention to the way you write and frame your sentences exhibit those qualities. But you fail the test of having a temperament of a guy who has slept with multiple(100s) of women.

You just don't have the structure and frame in your game (from your advices) to pick up soo many women. Also, anyone who has been around women would tell you that a cool temperament and frame control are key to success. You dont have either of them. You cant stand getting challenged which further raises doubts about your ability to be successful when tested by women.

However, some of your advices are good, esp. the ones about developing a social group outside of university and school etc.. other ones such as eye contact walking up etc. are also fine. You must have been around, even slept with 10 or may be say 20 women but you are still not there No matter how much you scream from a rooftop.

In a crowded Bar/Club with loud music and high energy and hundreds of people engaged in something or appear to and attractions being sparked by the minute, you mean to say you walk around waiting for 3 IOIs or eye contact before you even move in!! - Good luck with that You are wasting your time. I move in with one or non - just walk in and try spark that attraction. Dont waste time to get noticed !

Anyways you have a good number of followers in the thread so hope you can give them responsible and good advise. - Good luck.
I thought what he just described was very similar to Gambler, working the room, warming up sets, approaching one by one. It would take less approaches to score than otherwise, don't you think?

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SexAddict911, I can totally believe that you are a massage therapist, you could even be a romantic novelist ! Your care and attention to the way you write and frame your sentences exhibit those qualities. But you fail the test of having a temperament of a guy who has slept with multiple(100s) of women.

You just don't have the structure and frame in your game (from your advices) to pick up soo many women. Also, anyone who has been around women would tell you that a cool temperament and frame control are key to success. You dont have either of them. You cant stand getting challenged which further raises doubts about your ability to be successful when tested by women.

However, some of your advices are good, esp. the ones about developing a social group outside of university and school etc.. other ones such as eye contact walking up etc. are also fine. You must have been around, even slept with 10 or may be say 20 women but you are still not there No matter how much you scream from a rooftop.

In a crowded Bar/Club with loud music and high energy and hundreds of people engaged in something or appear to and attractions being sparked by the minute, you mean to say you walk around waiting for 3 IOIs or eye contact before you even move in!! - Good luck with that You are wasting your time. I move in with one or non - just walk in and try spark that attraction. Dont waste time to get noticed !

Anyways you have a good number of followers in the thread so hope you can give them responsible and good advise. - Good luck.



damm this is annoying, ok the person who brought up the massage therapist and club owner stuff was me, going against his advise, and i regret it.. Second, the only shit that matter is putting the penis in a vagina for some people... for other developing a relationship a gf or whatever... Who cares about stupid ass structure, anyways... Most methods and whatever to sleep with women very similar, for example i had never heard of 60 yoc or Gunwith till about a year ago, they do the same shit that i been doing since before there was pua community...Some naturals have the charm, confidence and experience to get away with not so perfectly smooth pua masturbation methods...Please guys if you have a question ask if not, go to another post, stop with the nipicking and whining already, i for one enjoy some of the stuff his writing, cool...And if you still decide to nipick at least read the ENTIRE POST...

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Just a couple thoughts...

@Marc

I'm not trying to defend SexAddict911, but I know a guy that has been with around 200 chicks and he gets pissed off pretty damn easy. To be honest, he lets other control his emotional state a fucking lot.

The PU community is always preaching you have to have some calm, clear mind and not allow yourself to be affected by other people emotionally in a negative way. Thats all fine and dandy but its not needed to fuck lots of women.

@SexAddict911

I wonder, how many times do you go clubbing a week?

To me it seems like you pay a lot of money when you go out. You pay the club cover, then you tip the bar tender 10 - 15 bucks at both the beginning and the end of the end of the night, and you spend money on the drinks in between.

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What are the main features in your style of game?

Do you have an outline/model of what you do?

Scenario: Night, club, bar scene.
The game is different based on whether or not you plan to visit this club again. I usually always assume i will be back ( unless it is far out of town or I am on vacation)

I do not have any outlines or model of what I do, but I do have some rituals that I tend to follow.

If you arrive at the club early, it is a good idea to spend some time with the staff. Being very polite and friendly can help you later on in the night.

Even before entering, talk to the door man establish a good rapport with him, get his name. Be extremely friendly. Try to be memorable. ( this can help you in the future if you frequent the club again)

I usually always look for an attractive bartender, ( male or female) I will order a drink and then offer a very big tip 5-10$ I will then say to them, I am giving you this tip now to ensure great service from you, there will be another big tip at the end of the night. This usually gets you served first approaching the bar when crowded. The reason I look for the most attractive is because they usually have the most eyes on them when it becomes packed.( while customers are waiting for drinks) So when you come to the bar to order another drink and they serve you first, it usually makes others wonder, what is so special about you.

Talk to the bouncers, establish a friendly rapport, get their names and remember them. You never know when you may need their help. ( being seen with bouncers can often help you establish a sort of don't mess with this guy attitude from other alpha males in the club)

After I have successfully worked the staff, I will then seek out a spot in the bar where I can see the most. I spend the next 30-60 minutes observing ( I will rarely work game right away unless it presents itself to me)

I will also do many laps of the club getting myself seen and trying to establish eye contact with as many beautiful woman as possible. When eye contact is established as I walk by, I will usually smile or make some sort of positive gesture then keep walking. ( I am not approaching anyone at this time)

What I am looking for is simple tells, wedding bands/engagement rings, boyfriends, signs of interest- extended looks, smiles, smirks, attention, positive energy, dancing style, drunkiness ( too drunk is no good for my game) cock blockers...etc etc. All of these things are observed when trying to find a mark.

I will only pick one mark at a time, sure there may be 10 girls i want to work on, but i will only focus on one at a time.

A very important element in a club setting is your comfort around other alpha males. It is wise to always find friendly ones, based on over heard conversation etc. A very easy way to establish a friendship with them is to show your interest in the women in the club. ( As a hot woman walks by, observe her then look at the other guys observing her, then as she is gone, comment on how hot she was to the other men and what you would like to do to her) It's a form of mutual bonding, as all of you have the same intentions.

Never address a group of men, usually one or two men at once. Groups tend to have a group mentality and you can often be seen unconsciously as an intruder but by talking to one or two members of the group can easily bring you into general acceptance.

Easiest way to get respect from guys in a club, is to be good at dancing. Dancing is the best possible tool to have in a club setting, the better you are, the more respect you will garner. ( If you are not in anyway an alpha male, i suggest you learn to dance well) It also sets you apart from the rest. Almost any dance floor in any club anywhere in the world is usually 80-90% women. Then out of the 10-20% of men on the dance floor, how many are dancing well or even dancing period. If you are on the dance floor dancing well, you become a very small percentile, thus making you unique.


Becoming comfortable in your present setting is essential to starting your game in the right mind set. The better your mindset, the better your game.
lol what... he asked you for a model of what you do...

The only thing that you described a MODEL of what you do, is to the STAFF.
Yea sure, tip them, get friendly with them, ask their names, get to know the bouncers. ok thats your model....

After that you just described your MODEL of meeting women as:
- Sitting on your own for 60 minutes not doing anything just observing (ugh thats creepy as)

- Walking around the club, looking at girls in the eyes and passing by not doing anything, maybe just a little gesture (cringes)

- Observing the alpha males and how to address them.. Then "As a hot woman walks by, observe her then look at the other guys observing her, then as she is gone, comment on how hot she was to the other men and what you would like to do to her" (lol duuuuuuuuuude, seriously?)

- DANCING to win over the ALPHA males respect.... (lol what)

Sorry man but he asked you to describe somewhat of a model or outline to your game, and you just got as far as describing what the toothless ex veteran creep in any RSL does on a friday night....

Not anywhere in that did you mention even MEETING a girl.

As far as you got was to this:

- get comfortable in your present setting is essential to starting your game in the right mind set. The better your mindset, the better your game.

(So what the fuck exactly is your game???)

Sure it might be hard for you to explain, but youre the one who started this thread!! The answer you just gave was..... lol....

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SexAddict911, I can totally believe that you are a massage therapist, you could even be a romantic novelist ! Your care and attention to the way you write and frame your sentences exhibit those qualities. But you fail the test of having a temperament of a guy who has slept with multiple(100s) of women.

You just don't have the structure and frame in your game (from your advices) to pick up soo many women. Also, anyone who has been around women would tell you that a cool temperament and frame control are key to success. You dont have either of them. You cant stand getting challenged which further raises doubts about your ability to be successful when tested by women.

However, some of your advices are good, esp. the ones about developing a social group outside of university and school etc.. other ones such as eye contact walking up etc. are also fine. You must have been around, even slept with 10 or may be say 20 women but you are still not there No matter how much you scream from a rooftop.

In a crowded Bar/Club with loud music and high energy and hundreds of people engaged in something or appear to and attractions being sparked by the minute, you mean to say you walk around waiting for 3 IOIs or eye contact before you even move in!! - Good luck with that You are wasting your time. I move in with one or non - just walk in and try spark that attraction. Don't waste time to get noticed !

Anyways you have a good number of followers in the thread so hope you can give them responsible and good advise. - Good luck.
I thought what he just described was very similar to Gambler, working the room, warming up sets, approaching one by one. It would take less approaches to score than otherwise, don't you think?
I posted my take on Skilladdict911 after reading his advices to others and not just based on one particular style though I think the university/college advise was good.

There is a difference between working a room and scoping around in the room.

I don't know Gambler's method but w/o hijacking the thread I'll try to get to this in short - the rituals that the OP suggests is fine but not congruent with the results that he is suggesting. With practice one gets better with ones techniques and the amount of time executing it shortens (You tend to cut out all the BS steps that you do when you initially started with)

Skilladdict911 waits for 30-60 mins observing, unless 'game presents itself', do laps around the club and all those additional steps. Anyone who has been at bars/clubs or social gatherings will tell you right off the bat the things that could get you results and get you there quickly.

His way is fine, but long ended, slow not likely a method that would be used by someone who has slept with multiple women night after night. Anyone who has been successful at bars and clubs would discount the waiting around for 'game to present itself' and additional steps that the OP suggests.

As for scoring, you don't need to work the room for that, neither do you have to act and be social - all that is done by one to make oneself comfortable at the venue, or entertain oneself by talking to a lot of people or to reduce the risk of rejection. For sex you need to trigger a set of emotions - you want to score Go start a banter right off with a girl or have an argument and be willing to stick with it.


Again at SkillsAddict911 - your advises are not bad, don't be discouraged. Its just that your communication style and method is not congruent with someone highly successful with women - And there is nothing wrong with that. You for sure know quite a few things about being a social person and even if you get some of these guys to understand a few things that would get their foot in the door.[/b]


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I've read the thread, and as most people, I was sceptical, but as the pages went on it became more and more convincing that you have competence behind the numbers. 800 is a scary big number, but so is 20 years, and I'm reading good tips from you. Congrats, you got me as a reader. Keep up the good work.
I agree with you Beetle. I not only believe him as see him as a humble person. I dont see him bragging about his number, hes only trying to help.

Keep it up SA!

I though that a place like this would have more open minded people, bit less haters as well. but anyway..

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What are the main features in your style of game?

Do you have an outline/model of what you do?

Scenario: Night, club, bar scene.
The game is different based on whether or not you plan to visit this club again. I usually always assume i will be back ( unless it is far out of town or I am on vacation)

I do not have any outlines or model of what I do, but I do have some rituals that I tend to follow.

If you arrive at the club early, it is a good idea to spend some time with the staff. Being very polite and friendly can help you later on in the night.

Even before entering, talk to the door man establish a good rapport with him, get his name. Be extremely friendly. Try to be memorable. ( this can help you in the future if you frequent the club again)

I usually always look for an attractive bartender, ( male or female) I will order a drink and then offer a very big tip 5-10$ I will then say to them, I am giving you this tip now to ensure great service from you, there will be another big tip at the end of the night. This usually gets you served first approaching the bar when crowded. The reason I look for the most attractive is because they usually have the most eyes on them when it becomes packed.( while customers are waiting for drinks) So when you come to the bar to order another drink and they serve you first, it usually makes others wonder, what is so special about you.

Talk to the bouncers, establish a friendly rapport, get their names and remember them. You never know when you may need their help. ( being seen with bouncers can often help you establish a sort of don't mess with this guy attitude from other alpha males in the club)

After I have successfully worked the staff, I will then seek out a spot in the bar where I can see the most. I spend the next 30-60 minutes observing ( I will rarely work game right away unless it presents itself to me)

I will also do many laps of the club getting myself seen and trying to establish eye contact with as many beautiful woman as possible. When eye contact is established as I walk by, I will usually smile or make some sort of positive gesture then keep walking. ( I am not approaching anyone at this time)

What I am looking for is simple tells, wedding bands/engagement rings, boyfriends, signs of interest- extended looks, smiles, smirks, attention, positive energy, dancing style, drunkiness ( too drunk is no good for my game) cock blockers...etc etc. All of these things are observed when trying to find a mark.

I will only pick one mark at a time, sure there may be 10 girls i want to work on, but i will only focus on one at a time.

A very important element in a club setting is your comfort around other alpha males. It is wise to always find friendly ones, based on over heard conversation etc. A very easy way to establish a friendship with them is to show your interest in the women in the club. ( As a hot woman walks by, observe her then look at the other guys observing her, then as she is gone, comment on how hot she was to the other men and what you would like to do to her) It's a form of mutual bonding, as all of you have the same intentions.

Never address a group of men, usually one or two men at once. Groups tend to have a group mentality and you can often be seen unconsciously as an intruder but by talking to one or two members of the group can easily bring you into general acceptance.

Easiest way to get respect from guys in a club, is to be good at dancing. Dancing is the best possible tool to have in a club setting, the better you are, the more respect you will garner. ( If you are not in anyway an alpha male, i suggest you learn to dance well) It also sets you apart from the rest. Almost any dance floor in any club anywhere in the world is usually 80-90% women. Then out of the 10-20% of men on the dance floor, how many are dancing well or even dancing period. If you are on the dance floor dancing well, you become a very small percentile, thus making you unique.


Becoming comfortable in your present setting is essential to starting your game in the right mind set. The better your mindset, the better your game.

Ok so build up lots of social proof, scout out the "no" girls and the "yes" girls and dance.


All valid pre interaction tips but what I was after was how do you open, how do you escalate, how do you close. More during and after the interaction sorta stuff


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But you fail the test of having a temperament of a guy who has slept with multiple(100s) of women.


Do you know many people with multiple( 100's) of experience, and if so, what is there take on this?

Assuming to know my temperament based on a couple of post towards someone that has repeatedly insulted me, seems a tad assuming. If you think that is a bad temperament, you should see some of my friends ( lol) that also have very high numbers, I am the calmest one of the bunch. When i am in PU mode....I am just that in PU mode, nothing really frazzles me. Not even Gorilla's trying to box me out ( more on this later in this post)


You just don't have the structure and frame in your game (from your advices) to pick up soo many women. Also, anyone who has been around women would tell you that a cool temperament and frame control are key to success. You dont have either of them. You cant stand getting challenged which further raises doubts about your ability to be successful when tested by women.

I am still trying to understand what exactly is meant by the word "structure" and "frame"

However, some of your advices are good, esp. the ones about developing a social group outside of university and school etc.. other ones such as eye contact walking up etc. are also fine. You must have been around, even slept with 10 or may be say 20 women but you are still not there No matter how much you scream from a rooftop.

I have had 2 week vacations where i have made those numbers, lol.

In a crowded Bar/Club with loud music and high energy and hundreds of people engaged in something or appear to and attractions being sparked by the minute, you mean to say you walk around waiting for 3 IOIs or eye contact before you even move in!! - Good luck with that You are wasting your time. I move in with one or non - just walk in and try spark that attraction. Dont waste time to get noticed !


I am curious, how successful are you on a regular basis, with your method of "move in one or non, just walk in and try to spark attraction'?

If you read the the first phrase in the post you will notice, that I mentioned " if you get there early" As far as the rest, yes I always take time out for my observations.

But I always do take time out for my observations, for me, these are very instrumental to my game. You may see it as wasting time, but i see it as time well spent. Allow me to elaborate.

When i was much younger, I always went in cold. got a head full of courage and just went for it. Sure it work out sometimes. But over the years, i discovered that their were always so many variables with this approach.

Going in cold can have horrible consequences. I am not talking about rejection( although being rejected a few times in a row can sure effect one emotional state) I am talking about the unknown variables.

Does she have a boyfriend
( did i just waste the last 15-30 minutes)
Is there guy friends there that will immediately box you out ( add booze, maybe even try to start a fight)
Is she simply not interested or are her friends huge cock blockers that love nothing better then to try and demean the approaching

I could add quite a few more unexpected variables.

Although there is ways to get around any of these variables, why bother?

Being a good observer can allow you to discount that mark and move onto another.

Don't get me wrong, i believe any woman anywhere can be picked up. But throughout the years, the art of pick up became much more then just going in half cocked. It became a science, an art, a state of being.

There is nothing more flattering to ones ego then finding a mark, reading that mark then going in for the kill and doing it successfully. ( talk about a confidence builder) Also during observation you can see other men trying and seeing her type of reactions towards specific advances. It gives you opportunity to observe her body language as well as time to interpret such actions.

It may seem like a big waste of time but I can assure you, if you develop your skills of observation, you would be amazed at the information you can obtain and interpret.

A mind full of intended information is a confident mind. Pick up may rely on quick wit and sharp answers, but the more you observe your target, the easier it will be.

I appreciate your polite manner, and I wish you the best of luck in your future seductions.

This post reminds me of a phrase I once heard in a movie.

A father and son bull are sitting on top of a hill staring down at a field full of cows.
The son says to the father, " dad, lets run down there and fuck one of those cows"
The father replies " no son, lets walk down and fuck them all" ;)

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What are the main features in your style of game?

Do you have an outline/model of what you do?

Scenario: Night, club, bar scene.
The game is different based on whether or not you plan to visit this club again. I usually always assume i will be back ( unless it is far out of town or I am on vacation)

I do not have any outlines or model of what I do, but I do have some rituals that I tend to follow.

If you arrive at the club early, it is a good idea to spend some time with the staff. Being very polite and friendly can help you later on in the night.

Even before entering, talk to the door man establish a good rapport with him, get his name. Be extremely friendly. Try to be memorable. ( this can help you in the future if you frequent the club again)

I usually always look for an attractive bartender, ( male or female) I will order a drink and then offer a very big tip 5-10$ I will then say to them, I am giving you this tip now to ensure great service from you, there will be another big tip at the end of the night. This usually gets you served first approaching the bar when crowded. The reason I look for the most attractive is because they usually have the most eyes on them when it becomes packed.( while customers are waiting for drinks) So when you come to the bar to order another drink and they serve you first, it usually makes others wonder, what is so special about you.

Talk to the bouncers, establish a friendly rapport, get their names and remember them. You never know when you may need their help. ( being seen with bouncers can often help you establish a sort of don't mess with this guy attitude from other alpha males in the club)

After I have successfully worked the staff, I will then seek out a spot in the bar where I can see the most. I spend the next 30-60 minutes observing ( I will rarely work game right away unless it presents itself to me)

I will also do many laps of the club getting myself seen and trying to establish eye contact with as many beautiful woman as possible. When eye contact is established as I walk by, I will usually smile or make some sort of positive gesture then keep walking. ( I am not approaching anyone at this time)

What I am looking for is simple tells, wedding bands/engagement rings, boyfriends, signs of interest- extended looks, smiles, smirks, attention, positive energy, dancing style, drunkiness ( too drunk is no good for my game) cock blockers...etc etc. All of these things are observed when trying to find a mark.

I will only pick one mark at a time, sure there may be 10 girls i want to work on, but i will only focus on one at a time.

A very important element in a club setting is your comfort around other alpha males. It is wise to always find friendly ones, based on over heard conversation etc. A very easy way to establish a friendship with them is to show your interest in the women in the club. ( As a hot woman walks by, observe her then look at the other guys observing her, then as she is gone, comment on how hot she was to the other men and what you would like to do to her) It's a form of mutual bonding, as all of you have the same intentions.

Never address a group of men, usually one or two men at once. Groups tend to have a group mentality and you can often be seen unconsciously as an intruder but by talking to one or two members of the group can easily bring you into general acceptance.

Easiest way to get respect from guys in a club, is to be good at dancing. Dancing is the best possible tool to have in a club setting, the better you are, the more respect you will garner. ( If you are not in anyway an alpha male, i suggest you learn to dance well) It also sets you apart from the rest. Almost any dance floor in any club anywhere in the world is usually 80-90% women. Then out of the 10-20% of men on the dance floor, how many are dancing well or even dancing period. If you are on the dance floor dancing well, you become a very small percentile, thus making you unique.


Becoming comfortable in your present setting is essential to starting your game in the right mind set. The better your mindset, the better your game.
lol what... he asked you for a model of what you do...

The only thing that you described a MODEL of what you do, is to the STAFF.
Yea sure, tip them, get friendly with them, ask their names, get to know the bouncers. ok thats your model....

After that you just described your MODEL of meeting women as:
- Sitting on your own for 60 minutes not doing anything just observing (ugh thats creepy as)

- Walking around the club, looking at girls in the eyes and passing by not doing anything, maybe just a little gesture (cringes)

- Observing the alpha males and how to address them.. Then "As a hot woman walks by, observe her then look at the other guys observing her, then as she is gone, comment on how hot she was to the other men and what you would like to do to her" (lol duuuuuuuuuude, seriously?)

- DANCING to win over the ALPHA males respect.... (lol what)

Sorry man but he asked you to describe somewhat of a model or outline to your game, and you just got as far as describing what the toothless ex veteran creep in any RSL does on a friday night....

Not anywhere in that did you mention even MEETING a girl.

As far as you got was to this:

- get comfortable in your present setting is essential to starting your game in the right mind set. The better your mindset, the better your game.

(So what the fuck exactly is your game???)

Sure it might be hard for you to explain, but youre the one who started this thread!! The answer you just gave was..... lol....
I do not have a specific structure or frame, I simply follow my reads and react accordingly. I depend on the information I have obtained and my wit.

I explained some routines I commonly use, so that you the readers may better understand how I operate.

The problem with having a set structure is if it fails, then what? what if it kept failing one night? do you just go home in defeat?

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SexAddict911, I can totally believe that you are a massage therapist, you could even be a romantic novelist ! Your care and attention to the way you write and frame your sentences exhibit those qualities. But you fail the test of having a temperament of a guy who has slept with multiple(100s) of women.

You just don't have the structure and frame in your game (from your advices) to pick up soo many women. Also, anyone who has been around women would tell you that a cool temperament and frame control are key to success. You dont have either of them. You cant stand getting challenged which further raises doubts about your ability to be successful when tested by women.

However, some of your advices are good, esp. the ones about developing a social group outside of university and school etc.. other ones such as eye contact walking up etc. are also fine. You must have been around, even slept with 10 or may be say 20 women but you are still not there No matter how much you scream from a rooftop.

In a crowded Bar/Club with loud music and high energy and hundreds of people engaged in something or appear to and attractions being sparked by the minute, you mean to say you walk around waiting for 3 IOIs or eye contact before you even move in!! - Good luck with that You are wasting your time. I move in with one or non - just walk in and try spark that attraction. Don't waste time to get noticed !

Anyways you have a good number of followers in the thread so hope you can give them responsible and good advise. - Good luck.
I thought what he just described was very similar to Gambler, working the room, warming up sets, approaching one by one. It would take less approaches to score than otherwise, don't you think?
I posted my take on Skilladdict911 after reading his advices to others and not just based on one particular style though I think the university/college advise was good.

There is a difference between working a room and scoping around in the room.

I don't know Gambler's method but w/o hijacking the thread I'll try to get to this in short - the rituals that the OP suggests is fine but not congruent with the results that he is suggesting. With practice one gets better with ones techniques and the amount of time executing it shortens (You tend to cut out all the BS steps that you do when you initially started with)

Skilladdict911 waits for 30-60 mins observing, unless 'game presents itself', do laps around the club and all those additional steps. Anyone who has been at bars/clubs or social gatherings will tell you right off the bat the things that could get you results and get you there quickly.

His way is fine, but long ended, slow not likely a method that would be used by someone who has slept with multiple women night after night. Anyone who has been successful at bars and clubs would discount the waiting around for 'game to present itself' and additional steps that the OP suggests.

As for scoring, you don't need to work the room for that, neither do you have to act and be social - all that is done by one to make oneself comfortable at the venue, or entertain oneself by talking to a lot of people or to reduce the risk of rejection. For sex you need to trigger a set of emotions - you want to score Go start a banter right off with a girl or have an argument and be willing to stick with it.


Again at SkillsAddict911 - your advises are not bad, don't be discouraged. Its just that your communication style and method is not congruent with someone highly successful with women - And there is nothing wrong with that. You for sure know quite a few things about being a social person and even if you get some of these guys to understand a few things that would get their foot in the door.[/b]

I find the word " congruent" floating around a lot in my challenging posts. I am curious, I am 38 yrs old and I have never heard that word used so often, why is that? Is it a common word in the PUA literature. I am truly curious.

You mentioned that my style or "lack of" is not congruent with a man that successful picks up huge numbers of women. I notice that when you say this, you are referring to other men. I ask you this respectfully, do you know such men? Can they verify to you that my style is in fact not "congruent" to theirs.

The reason i may seem defensive is because, I know who I am and where I have been. I am not bull shitting anyone. SO yes it can get rather tiresome. I would much rather devote my limited time to the people who are respectfully seeking my advice. But I now know that it is inevitable.

In all honesty, I welcome the challenges, I am not talking shit, I really do have the experience I claim. I am very confident that defending myself will eventually shows it own validity.

The truth shall set me free! :)


Note: A night club setting is very different then any other setting in life. Its the only place where women are actually looking around at men at everyone. Giving off tones of body language through dance, gestures, or pure drunkiness. It's the best possible time to be observant. I find day game to be much better suited for cold approaches. There are no true reads, women tend to not even look at you or give off any signs and signals.

There is a time and a place for everything.

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@Marc

I'm not trying to defend SexAddict911, but I know a guy that has been with around 200 chicks and he gets pissed off pretty damn easy. To be honest, he lets other control his emotional state a fucking lot.

The PU community is always preaching you have to have some calm, clear mind and not allow yourself to be affected by other people emotionally in a negative way. Thats all fine and dandy but its not needed to fuck lots of women.

@SexAddict911

I wonder, how many times do you go clubbing a week?

To me it seems like you pay a lot of money when you go out. You pay the club cover, then you tip the bar tender 10 - 15 bucks at both the beginning and the end of the end of the night, and you spend money on the drinks in between.
Yes I have spent far too much money over the years. I used to hit the clubs quite often, on average 3x's a week. I was also a club promoter for a few years, then was lucky enough to open up a small night club with a friend. Man those were some good times but that's another story. lol.

Note to self: do not sleep with your staff then hire more and repeat. lol.

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