I wouldn't imagine it would be this tough.

I mean I don't think about her like "omg I miss her I wish we we're still together" but I think about her like reminiscing stuff we did together etc.

I know that it won't be my last girl for sure, but what will it take to completely stop thinking about her? I mean each time i'm driving my car I think about her it's crazy.
Every day I think at least once about her.

At this point I think that i'll only STOP thinking of her and shit we did when I find a new girl I like more.

I've banged loads of chick since its been over, but there's only been one girl that I met and I thought to myself "Damn that chick could make me forget my ex", unfortunately I don't want to try and get involved with her because she clearly still loves her ex who just left for 7 months to South America. So that was a bright spot.

Any advice on how to stop thinking about her? As I said, it's been 8 months that its over, and i'm not in the sissy-talk mode and whining mode, i'm more in the "remembering past times mode" and each time I see stuff that reminds me of her.
I'm not saying to myself "oh I wish we we're still together", i'm saying to myself "when will I stop thinking about stuff we had".. To be honest I didn't think i'd still think about the times we've had today.
But you know, you think about Christmas, and who you past it with last year, and New Years Eve', etc etc.
Not sure really if you guys will be able to understand what i'm trying to say because it's hard to pen it down exactly.

I know the feeling you spent so much time with the ex you have lot of memories together. Even if you are fucking other women you'll still think about her if you don't form any kind of relationship with these new women besides just a one night stand or the occasional fuck buddy relationship.

You can't get hung up on the qualities of your ex no two women are the same you have to be open to the qualities that the new girl brings.

Basically you need to 1st accept the ex isn't coming back 2nd find a hotter girl than your ex and stick with the new girl you'll see memories of the ex will soon fade and you'll realize your ex really wasn't that great after all.

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Yeah you nailed it, it's exactly that.

I'm extremely picky, and i'm the type that will only settle down with a girl if I truly like her, orelse i'll just keep living the single life of fuck friends and one-night stands. So it make's it tougher/longer to find a girl that "fits my standards".

I've excepted that my ex won't come back and that we won't get back together, now all I need to do is find a better girl.

I kind of knew all of that in my mind before, but I was looking for like a quick fix, or any tips in the meanwhile.

Thanks for your response, you we're spot on!

Christmas, why did you two break up in the first place?

She dumped me because I became an AFC. She loved the badass dude I was before, but as the relationship evolved I finally started to have feelings for her, and I became jealous and wasn't a challenge anymore.
Being "in love" for the first time I was certainly smothering her. I learned from my mistakes though, and after she ended things it was weird and it was on/off like "lets get back together" then "lets not".

She hates me now, hates me for all the reasons she used to love me. Also probably because it didn't pan out like she had planned, and that I turned out to be the biggest cliché of all.
I've definitely wondered about that. And it probably might be a factor. I had to hustle pretty hard to get with my ex who at the time when I started flirting with her had a boyfriend, so i'm tired of working so tough, then again, hard work pays off.

I've told myself that I would definitely pursue the chick when I stumble upon her, but i'm not actively trying to meet her. Probably should.
I perfectly understand what you mean and I embrace that theory. I have no hate towards her, which is funny because she is the angry, but she is also the one that dumped me and caused all the ruckus.

I know i'm good at picking up chicks, the only thing I need to work on is opening strangers. I only get with girls that I meet through friends, and we live in a small city where everyone knows everyone and i'm not afraid to say the girls are smoking. I never really went out towards an unknown woman because I don't know how to open, and that all the openers I read online are so crappy/cheesy. The only one that worked correctly was "Whats your name?" and it happened with... my ex.

You don't know how to open?

lol

Sometimes "Hi how are you?" is enough.

Don't used can shit; it has a limited shelf life and most of them women have already heard before or can smell that its canned from a mile away.

Use your surroundings as reference material. E.g. you're in mall, dab so cologne on either hand and go around asking women which you think smells better. You are walking down the street, ask a girl what time it is. You are at the gym ask her "I've been really trying to learn that exercise! Can you guide me through the process?"

Think of a bunch of venues and things you could say in each one.

seems like really good advice and a logical way to come up with genuine openers.

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I had a friend (a sociopath actually) who was ridiculous with his openers. He'd often say things other guys would consider unconscionable to say but he had a way of saying it that was diarming (e.g complimenting a girl on her ass). He'd also walk right into a restaurant, sit in a booth of girls without so much as a second thought and engage in conversation - it was very surreal at times, almost like watching a movie. I noticed, however, he had a lot of the same openers he'd use depending on the context. But above all else, he had balls bigger than a Brahma bull (so I'd presume cause I wouldn't want to see any evidence).

ah yes, sociopaths

i've studied them well

funny the things that having a conscience will stop you from doing in life

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what dr. house brings to medicine, i bring to everyday life (an extreme dose of cynicism), don't listen to the curmudgeon!

I usually open with situational stuff. Just like reacting to what is going on at that time in that place.

Good, so get to work, I don't see a problem.

I don't have problems meeting new girls or people. I have problems meeting girls that are "as good" as my ex was. Not only physically, but mentally.

I'm trying, I really am. But its tough man. Especially during the holiday season.