Hi,
I would recommend you guys to read book on "What to say when you talk to yourself" - Shad Helmstetter.
The whole process of the Shad is pretty much like the NLP hypnotic programming (listening to audio tape), but is conscious. One element which in my opinion make difference in life. When we face some kind of situation in life we consciously or unconsciously evaluate the whole experience. After we evaluate what that situation mean we start talking to ourself and create a state of mind. Whenever we face shitty experience in most cases we are in negative state of mind. So when we catch ourself in state of fear, rejection, etc. instead of going listening to audio tape to feel better about ourself, we can consciously "affirm" ourself and create desirable state. When we have this power consciously we can use it whenever we want.
Peace
