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There are a lot of posts here where a guy blames their ethnicity for their failure, and the most common reply is people saying race has nothing to do with it. I don't agree with either.
Race communicates a lot. If you're white and you don't believe race matters, try travel to Asia and watch your value as a man skyrocket then tell me it doesn't make a difference. This is because in most Asian countries being white communicates positive things (wealth is obviously the big one).
What is communicated depends on the cultural context. Values are not universal. And that's where some people get into trouble. They project the values that are important to their own culture, but these values may not rank as important to the culture of who they are approaching.
For example. I live in Australia and work as an electrical engineer. Most Aussie girls respond to this job as neutral, it is perceived as a good but nerdy profession, generally they'd much prefer the trades person on the front line getting dirty than the designer in the office. Asians ALWAYS respond much better to my job, because they put greater emphasis on education, specifically in math and science areas. And are more social class orientated.
The important part is to display the values that you do have that are also culturally relevant or valued by your target.
Where the uneven battlefield arises is if a woman has had little contact with your culture. They can attach whatever stereotypes they have about that culture onto you, sometimes this works against you (the asian nerd stereotype) but sometimes it can work for you (in Aus the French may be stereotyped as romantic and good lovers, African Americans as fun and charismatic, etc). If it works against you, then breaking her preconceived idea about your race or culture will help you to win her.
An example of this is DJ Fuji. He is an Asian PUA with a huge mohawk. The mohawk works for him because it is incongruent with negative stereotypes about Asians such as conformity, shyness or nerdy.
It's true and sometimes you have to break the stereotype in order to give your real personality a shot at getting the girl.
I see the main thing is Differences and Commonalities and they can either draw you closer to the girl or push you away. its a fine line but never count yourself out. it maybe a Difference a girl is looking for rather than a Commonality and vice verse.