Of course that still stands, but that does not defeat my point. The guy still wants to fuck your girlfriend, even if it's not mutual. He is still trying to bang her, even though he lacks the skill to close the deal.
Like my above response, just because your girl doesn't want to fuck her friend, doesn't mean the guy doesn't want to fuck her. If you have a hot girlfriend and she has male friends, they want to fuck her. Maybe they lack the skill or confidence to do it, or there are other reasons why they don't go through with it. But given the chance, under the right scenario with the right amount of liquid courage, they would try to bang her.

Hot girls always have a bunch of guys orbiting around them "being friendly", hoping they can weasel their way into their pants. Think about it realistically, not emotionally. You see a HOT GIRL, do you think to yourself "she seems like a nice person who would make a good friend" or do you think "I want to get into her pants"? That initial thought doesn't just go away because you get to know her. It continues. Women put guys into the friendzone, but guys don't do the same. Guys don't have a friendzone, they have mans rules which may stop them from sleeping with their friends girlfriends or family, but that doesn't affect their attraction. Guys are always attracted to sexy women, regardless of friendship status.

You may not like this fact of life, but that doesn't change it's validity. Also, you may know a handful of exceptions to this rule, but that doesn't negate the rule. There is an exception to every rule, but that doesn't disprove it. It actually reinforces because of how rare these exceptions are. If they were the norm, they wouldn't be the exception.

Clart Kent and Lil' Jon know their shit. Listen to them.

I agree. And would also like to add that if a woman has a lot of single male friends, then they are made up of guys that have banged her, are banging her, and those which are trying to bang her. This a huge red flag, for the above reason, and also because it indicates she has a huge need for male attention, more than one man can give.


And to the original poster, there is no easy way to handle this and no alpha way to handle this. There is only the option to leave or give an ultimatum. If you can't deal with this problem, you might consider leaving, because this problem with happen again and again, and you will end fighting the same fight over and over, every time some ex decides to check up on her status.

As for the ultimatum, if you decide to stay, you must put your foot down and tell her to change her number or block their calls and texts somehow. This may make you seem weak, but you would also seem weak if you did nothing while other guys were trying to bootycall your girlfriend. It's a lose lose. And again, if your not that invested in her and it bothers you that much, you should probably find someone else, because this problem will never go away.

This is that grey area, where conquering one's insecurities meets upholding one's boundaries. You shouldn't be overly jealous, but you should enforce respectful behavior in a relationship. You shouldn't seem possessive, but you shouldn't allow inappropriate interactions with past partners. You shouldn't show you care too much, but you should care if you are being disrespected. It's a no win situation. Depending on interpretation, you are right and wrong no matter what you do.

It's an awkward situation and there is no easy answer to this.

I told my girl no facebook exes, no exes calling, none of that, if that happens, is over, period end of story... I have my rules and my boundaries she wants to cross them, i am done next... My girl and i had that problem at the beginning guys calling and shit, she started to try to act sneaky, i dumped her ass, she ask for forgiveness i told her how it is... It has to happen early in the relationship, if too many boundaries cross you set the relationship for failure.

I agree with what Kalel's been saying on this entire thread it's the truth.

I see lots of thread not just this thread on the site about how to handle the "guy friends" and other guys on here respond with, "just be the alpha male and ignore them" or "just trust your girl she won't do anything" or "you should never confront your girl about not liking her guy friends that'll will just make her angry" or just make friends with her guy friends".

To me anybody who gives any kind of the response i've meantioned above has never dated a hot girl and/or dealt with this type of situation.

Being alpha doesn't mean being stupid and oblivous to these "guy friends" who's only interest is fucking your girlfriend. You only listen to advice about "how to just let things happen and let things work themselves out," only because you don't want to cause any conflict with your girlfriend at the risk of losing her. It's your job as an alpha male to recognize which of these "guy friends" your girlfriend doesn't need to be hanging around with.

I've successfully eliminated 90% of these orbiters/aquaintances/guy friends whom i know the only reason they were hanging around was to try get in my girls pants the other 10% i haven't met yet.

I'll write a post about it how to eliminate the guy friends later. I"ll be sure to include some the good things written here.