Hi, PUAs and AFCs. I'm a 21 year old male who lives in Murfreesboro, TN. I like writing, philosophy / debate, computers and mind-altering substances.

I am more than just a regular AFC. I'm not only still a virgin; I haven't even kissed a girl. (I have gotten numbers, but I wasn't the initiator) In the past, I have relied heavily on medication for my source of confidence. Now, I am no longer on the same cocktail and probably won't be, and my confidence has sunk to preteen level lows.

I have read "The Game" and "The Player's Black Book".

My goal is to be the image I want for myself. With your help. In "The Game" it talks about other PUA's striking down every flawed mannerism, personal appearance problem, or whatever to improve that person's chances to succeed. I've probably scared away most responses with everything I said before this paragraph (views and no responses), but I'm not trying to look for end-all-be-all wisdom. My goal isn't to have someone take my hand and baby-step me through my problems. I just need to know where to start. Please don't just say "go fishing". NLP ideas? Ways to build confidence on budget and time restraints?

Thanks for any who have the balls to respond

Welcome to the game my fellow pua. Do you have any more questions? Feel free to ask them and I will make a video or audio pertaining to your specific questions. I don't like typing..

-Arash aka Achilles

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Hello Crimefridge,

I really hope you'll find all of the stuff you need to grow on this forum - I know I hope to do the same.

Don't feel bad about about your AFC status and lack of experience. In fact I am only one year younger than you and am at pretty much the same level. I'd recommend you accept your situation and try to realize that you cannot go any lower. After you get that, starting to try stuff out in field will still feel daunting but at least you'll have something to keep you going.

I really hope you'll stop using those mind altering substances you mentioned, since self control and the ability to face yourself is part of the game. I think you used them to escape from your perception of you life. So let me tell you that you can change - if you're wiling to put in the time and effort.

Now... for some tips to get you started. First of all - keep reading more books. There is a Sticky in one of the sub forums that contains some really good recommendations on what you should read next.

Building confidence on a budget? Well.... try going out first - for no reason that just walking around. Look at people - see if they look at you. If that makes you feel uncomfortable, keep reminding yourself that they won't give you a second thought, they have their own problems, etc... Then in time, as you get used to going out more and more, start saying hello to people. You will feel discomfort, so always ask yourself - would I rather be where I was before, or would I rather change?

Good Luck! And don't think most people here don't read posts

Black Jack