| So I have been working on an HB6; she is on the younger side and enjoys being interested in.
I worked my way up with DHV's and cocky funny, to the point where she wanted to meet up; she kept hinting at me asking her, but for some reason I wanted her to ask me first...which she did (after a week) which was risky because I could have had lost her interest or jumped into the LBJF zone quickly.
The date she asked me to ended up falling through. Awfully coincidental, but I froze her out for a day and then played the "I'm going to be silly about it, but I got butt hurt." Again, might have been another mistake because admitting her ruining my evening is a sign of DLV....however, it worked for the time being.
I got a call last night to meet up with her at a restaurant with a bunch of her female friends. I was just coming from one of my martial arts classes so I told her it would be a little. I got home, sallied up, and then met her at the place. Now comes the part that I am looking to be critiqued. I know what I have done right/and done wrong to this point, but I need another point of view for this latest portion:
I get to the restaurant - they are at a four person booth with four people; me being the fifth I had to squeeze in. I would have loved to be across from my target so I could get eye contact and maybe some under the table KINO, but I decided being pushed right up against her will give me the unintentional (in her eyes) KINO (to get her comfortable with closeness) and will allow me to keep my focus on other people and not IOI her too much.
****Question:was this bad? At this point, I have already gotten IOI's and given IOI's. To then turn it around and look mainly disinterested might have fumbled something?*******
So I start off by pulling some attention onto me - went into a partial DHV story (was a sorry story) but then also played the "exhausted, tired, and hungry so Im not going to be entertaining" skit.
******This was a good choice IMO, because then anything that I say or do that makes them laugh or enjoy themselves is going to seem like it is totally non chalant and just rolls right off of me (inserting their instant judgement of - if he is tired and this fun and funny, he will be even cooler when he is energetic).*****
I throw in a couple jokes, get some table laughs, then the topics change and I am fucking LOST. They all work at the same place so they started talking business. I couldn’t think of a story I could pull off, and I couldn’t insert anything worthwhile into the conversation....I sat there getting pushed out. One of the girls there was funny as shit; I was laughing my ass off, but the problem is I couldn’t compete with her. She drew all the attention and the HB6 didn’t really turn focus at all. By this point, 30 minutes after I got there, I got wrapped up in not knowing what to say or do that I stopped even trying to gain interest from the target.
*****Problem/Question: What does someone do when a FEMALE member of the group a target is in, is more entertaining than you? When you can't pull any of the attention to yourself....*************
So that is about how the night ended. The chick was telling stories and the entire group of girls were chit chatting about stuff I knew nothing about. I didn't want to get any KINO in besides the inadvertent stuff - the three other girls are very protective of this one.
I also felt like if I would have tried to change the subject I would be interrupting and it would look like I was trying too hard to pull focus (which then puts a lot of pressure on me; thing better be DAMN good).
End of the night came another thirty minutes later when the restaurant was closing- we all left the place together; I was saying later to them, and I was going to go for the HB6 and try to get at least 5 minutes alone...but right as I was about to talk, one of the chicks throws her arms up (the funny entertaining one) and hugs me; she talks about how she had fun, blah blah blah. Then I turn to the HB6 (target) and for some reason...which is probably the biggest oopsy of the night....I say "have fun, I gotta jet" then I gave her a fucking ONE ARMED HUG. I wanted to get some intentional KINO on her, but at that point it didn’t seem possible.
Anyway, that is what happened. I feel as though my actions earned me a quick spot in the LBJF zone. I didn't neg her, and I didn't run any stories, I didn't give her much attention, nor make any impression of myself being awesome. Does not seem like a success to me.
I am thinking about giving her the brush off for a day because she did nothing to earn my time, and gave me ZERO of hers. But then again, I didn't do anything that was entertaining to GET her time.
Maybe I should think up a good excuse instead? _________________ [color=red:7c51ae7520]email is a better option: thelockestar@gmail.com[/color:7c51ae7520][/size:7c51ae7520]
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