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I do love to watch Bandler but the content you take away from it is so little. Dilts I tend to avoid (I find he over complicates things).
I don't pay much attention to Bandler's content, I'm modeling a guy who models others.
I was watching a video of his where there were a lot of professional/psychiatric/skeptic types, so the audience mood wasn't optimal. Over the course of the day, he managed to pull a little trick, he conditioned everyone to start salivating on command. I was actually stunned not only because he got under my level of awareness to do such a thing, but because people who completely thought he was full of crap and had no respect for him AND should have noticed what he was up to in light of their fields of work would be effected in that way.
He was amused about how rattled the audience was.
So, I started reviewing his videos and instead of really paying attention to what he was saying, I watched what he was doing and puzzled about what he was up to and it was a real eye opener. For instance, his tendency to put on the role of a half-crazed psycho bullshait machine at times is
excellent for overloading the critical factor and shutting it completely off. Then, he does some very interesting things that aren't noticeable if you're paying attention to the content of what he's saying.
As far as Dilts, he does over complicate things and I purposely study his stuff because of that much like I study DRiker and then go the other way with Ledochowski. I picked this method of learning from Dr Paul Dobransky in his Mind OS series.
His model of psychology includes the concept that Genius is Education + Experience. So, if you want to be a genius at something, get a bunch of experience type learning which isn't linear, get a bunch of education type learning which is linear, and you're filling up both hemispheres of your mind. Keep them balanced and when your mind is able to use either type of learning depending on the situation AND can combine them at times to come up with new things you wouldn't be able to do without having actually learned them at all.
I have lots and lots of "Ah-HAH!" moments by doing this. Those Ah-HAHs are when something clicks between all of that information and the education + experience combine and my understanding of something jumps up to a whole new level. I view it as my left brain seeing a match to something, my right brain seeing a match to something, and them both syncing up and building a bunch of new connections much like a PU geek type hanging out with a Biker type suddenly understanding each other and comparing notes and both becoming more successful.
So, though it's boring, I plow through Riker type stuff for a week, then Igor type stuff, practice it all, and my mind keeps making new connections VERY FAST by doing it this way.
Another way of looking at this (paraphrase of one of Dobransky's examples)
A hypothetical guy who ONLY studies education/linear type stuff usually ends up a geek who knows lots of stuff but can't deal with things when they don't go as planned....he can't wing it....
and he feels trapped/limited quite a lot.
A hypothetical guy who ONLY studies experience/non-linear stuff usually ends up as a guy who can never get it together in a coherent way, he excellent at winging it, but he's really scattered and almost always ends up way off of the course of what he's trying to get to and
feels lost at times.
A hypothetical guy who does both has the balanced power of both of those and is a genius who's far more powerful than just adding the education and experience together in a math like way.
So, Dobransky's advice is that if you're feeling stuck, and you're too heavy on the education side of something, concentrate on the experience type and vice versa.
I'll tell you what, it may sound like not a big deal, but there is a really cool side-effect he mentioned and it's this: by paying attention in any situation where things aren't working out and seems like you're stuck, you figure out which is the problem, education or experience,
you gain the ability to accurately see where someone else is very easily and accurately.
I can see in a short amount of time of interaction with a women (extremely accurate if I can see her either under pressure and/or in several different environments) if she is a "fly by the seat of my pants" type, a "i do things methodically in a by-the-book" type way, and variations in-between. And, I can even see these levels in different things that they do because it may be the opposite for some things. This, of course, is because I have internalized it for myself so that there's a background monitor of where I'm at, so my mind automatically keeps tabs on that in other people.
I gain reference experiences by saying something that can confirm my view.....like if a woman appears generally far into being an Experience/non-linear type, and appears scattered, I might make a comment about how much late fees for bills are or something similar.....I know I'm accurate because I'll almost always get a "oh yeah, it costs me a lot, it's ridiculous how much they charge" type comments. The ones I've viewed as heavy on the education/linear type and seem a bit anal retentive, will probably reply something like "i just pay my bills on time and don't worry about it". My accuracy increases the more I test this sort of thing.
Dobransky has an excellent model. If you haven't seen MindOS or him with DDeanglo "Deep Inner Game" (I actually like DIG more), I highly recommend you see one of them. Basically, you build your own psychoanalyst, internalize it, and fix/understand yourself ("Know Thyself"). The side effect is that you can see the anxiety/anger levels in people at any given moment clearly, as well as how their boundaries are set up (or not), and lots of other great stuff that he never mentions in the courses because they'll be different for different people.
I never get surprised by people in general unless they've got a drug or other addiction that is running their behavior (I look for that and stay away from the druggies). For instance, (just one of many many examples) I don't have any moments like "omg, I never realized that girl was a controlling biatch!", I can see it very clearly within a short time no matter how she tries to hide it because I can see the micro-behaviors of her subconsciously fighting with not getting her way even while at the same time she's behaving pleasant....I can see what's going on better than she can. This isn't the goal of his model in those two courses, but it us a side effect that's going to happen anyway.
Again, I highly recommend Deep Inner Game or MindOS if you aren't familiar with them.