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Again, apocalypto.. I still feel that our situations are fundamentally different. When you text/call your girl, you get no response. When I text/call my girl, I get a happy person on the other end of the line. . She tells me she loves me, she jokes with me, she talks to me, she tells me she wants to do things with me, she invites me to her parents' house, etc. . If she didn't do those things, then I would be worried. .
And again, I am just saying that I am irritated by the fact that I always have to be the first one to initiate contact. . I posted this thread to get some advice on how I can change her behavior, that's all. .
Apocalypica is right.
just because she has "always been that way",
doesn't mean "that way" is acceptable.
from the beginning, almost in a MORE CALCULATED fashion than apocalytica's girlfriend, your GF made a conscious decision to be more detached, more standoffish, more aloof, etc.
your GF is manipulating you through her taking predefined steps to maintain her POWER in the relationship.
which basically means you are dealing with an emotionally-cold psycho.
you say:
- she SAYS she loves me
- she SAYS she likes me
- she SAYS this
- she SAYS that
it doesn't matter what a girl SAYS...
it matters what she does.
and your GF has a fundamental disconnect between her words and her actions.
that makes her a liar and a manipulator.
LOOK
if you "love" someone and "like" someone and want to "be with" someone...
then you don't PURPOSELY NEVER CALL THEM FIRST,
OR TEXT THEM FIRST,
OR SET UP A MEETING FIRST,
etc....
you are being played by a psychopath-in-training.
FREEZE. THE. BITCH. OUT.