| Okay son,
Man up, wtf. You have a terrible case of oneitis here.
Rule #1: don't give a fuck.
If you genuinely care for this girl your chances of bagging her are diminished by over 9000 percent. BUT,
she genuinely likes you and wants to jump ship with her bf, so here is what you do (thank me later):
i. she is ready to bail on her bf but she needs you to prooooooove yourself because this is what they do. the way you prove yourself is by being the man. this means having balls.
ii. use your balls and do one of two things:
ii.i. next time you kiss her or she kisses you, go caveman. DO NOT HOLD BACK. Get wild with her take her and OWN her. If you do not feel comfortable doing this she will never stick with you and will simply do this same shit again with someone else (more on this later). Do not merely escalate, although let it escalate, but once the line is crossed do not look back, rip her clothes off, go down on her, take her head and make her go down on you, and then rail her until she cannot walk. she is now yours.
ii.ii. if you don't have the balls for ii.i then you can simply give her the ultimatum: "k, i like you, you like me, you have a bf, ditch him and be with me or fuck off." something to that effect. this works well if you're both good people, and you might be, but i don't think she is. she is a ho and simply wants to be treated like the little slutty girl that she is.
iii. OKAY great you got her!! - now the real trouble begins, because a girl like this craves only ONE thing: attention. you must keep her in line. if you pussy out and bring out your giant vagina (don't worry i have one too bro, but you gotta keep it away with a girl like this) and don't take complete control of the relationship she will get very bored, very quickly, and jump ship as soon as she has found someone else to wrap around her finger. The good news: keeping her tame is not that hard. Just continue to be alpha in the relationship i.e. make the decisions, guide the conversations, lay down the law, don't be needy, don't play her games, apologize when it's your fault but never apologize for wanting sex or when you're in the right. Remember at bottom that she is just a little girl and wants you to be her daddy. If you can do it, you will have a great relationship. Never threaten to end the relationship unless she has broken "the rules". The rules are simple: i. don't cheat ii. don't act like you did with me with other guys (because what we have is just so magical and special - barf ect) iii. don't lie. If she breaks the rules, lay down the law, completely freeze her out and move her into "dead to me" territory. DO NOT RELENT, EVER. If you want to forgive her, make her work for it (she will love that anyway), but it's most likely over.
iv. You didn't get her! - SO WHAT - there are so many others out there - GFTOW and balls up because you're the man and she's just another histrionic nightmare.
You're welcome.
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