Okay, for the sake of learning (since im not a skilled PUA at the moment) perhaps you (the more experienced and skilled) guys out here can tell me what you think of this situation, whether its a go or a no-go for you, and how you would approach it.

I get this random facebook add from a total HB.

I check out her profile. She is in LA (my area). Just moved there. Apparently she is married. She wrote a blog about how her husband got a job and didn't tell them they where moving till like now. So she is very new to the area. Oh and shes like 19.

Now, having been married at 20 to an 18 year old HB, i know that these marriages ain't shit. Doomed to pain and misfortunes with VERY few exceptions. (my opinion, yeah but i DO have experience here).

So anyway, back to the profile. I add her as a friend. She has this app on her profile where she can ask a question to all her friends that i really wanted to answer. The question was "Just curious, but what do you like to do on a first date?" heheheh. As you can expect, all the AFC guys are giving out answers like the following: Very nice indeed. However i had a little fun with it. My answer was:
Outragous!!! lol. Definitely stood out. I then send this chick a message that said,
Simple, i really wanted to be clever and funny the whole way through but, oh well.

The next day is get two updated in Facebook from her. One is a comment to my "wall" which is:

Not sure what to make of it, really.. ... And then i got a message responding to my message to her that went like this:
How are you?... How are you?. What the hell kind of question is that anyway. That's a one word answer and then you look and feel like and idiot for answering.

Okay well that is it. I know that a lot of you are thinking, "dude, this is just some chick online... go outside.." I know, I know. But i want to know how some of you handle situations like this. First of all, is there a shot? Second of all, what would you do to take that shot? I haven't responded for a couple of days but now its the weekend and i'm bored.

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well if she requested you as a friend theres always a shot...you just have to play your cards right because theres she obviously interested in you or something about you

throughout your convo i'd point it in the direction of asking why she requested you or something along those lines to see what she says

if she says im looking to get to know people around the area, build some comfort, but keep on with the cocky/funny and neg a fews times if necessary

eventually offer to give her a tour around town to a couple hot spots, either day or night, is she accepts, you are in

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Just make sure you don't get a link to her site in the quest of getting to know her

Perfect.. just perfect. Thanks
I laughed out loud on this one. Its so true. Thats craigslist for you.

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I sent this.. Not sure what to make of my approach. Perhaps to invasive? Then again, maybe its not bold enough. I guess I wont really know till i get a response (IF i get a response, for all I know this could be a "husband/boyfriend starts cracks down on facebook/myspace" sort of deal). Its interesting though. I'm enjoying the analysis. Anyone want to get deeply critical of my approach? I would be very pleased with some thorough input, that is, if this deserves thorough input.

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do you know for a fact she is married? If that is her relationship status on facebook you shouldn't take that completely seriously I know a lot of people who put they are married to someone of the opposite sex but its just a fun thing for them to put.

This was fine, but should've added "meet me 'here' at 'this time'".
ALL AFC stuff man. Asking her why she added you? No. You're eager to give her LA advice. Too eager. Asking her what she thinks? Not good. This just comes off completely eager, desperate, and AFC. Sorry man.

Thats a good point that I considered. But she had a blog thing talking about this guy she was width so I just assumed it was true.
Ouchy. So whats a better approach? I have a feeling that I'm just not having the right aditude about this. Obviously, the right words are not there and my position is being hurt because of it. Which is unfortunate. I think I'm coming in like its a little to early to try something bold, which is probably the mistake right there. Eh.. Any suggestions?

Either way i have a lot of learning to do. But i think this thread may be a good catalyst to my growth.

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It's never to early to be bold. NEVER. Girls love guys being bold.

Whoh, got this reply in the morning. Its a little freaky to me.
This is beyond me. Why is she being so vulnerable to a complete stranger? I'm feeling very compelled to meet and talk with here but I don't want to make any more AFC mistakes. Despite my intentions i actually DO have a lot to say about this and i kind of want to just talk with her. Total AFC, I know. This happens when a chick responds to me. I keep thinking like now that I have something I don't want to lose it and go back to my old AFC ways.

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My reply, and mind you, i feel like an ass for posting this convo on the internet. But it the only way i will learn.
Its Sunday, I'm figuring a nice coffee shop might be nice and non threatening. To me it seems like she is reaching for someone. I just need to know how to respond to her right. Its difficult for me.

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Reply: I think i killed it. I can just see this sliding into LJBF. Ill keep chatting and see where it goes. Comments?

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you should never have given her your number. especially over the internet. Not only because it makes you seem low value, but also as a privacy thing for you. I'd refuse to give my number to anyone unless i saw them in person or they were asking in order to meet me in person.
I would say just bail on this. I think the best way would be to send her a message telling her about a crazy weekend you had(make stuff up if you have to i guess so long as it sounds plausible), tell her something like "yeah so that kind of sums up my Los angeles in a nutshell" and then don't respond to any messages she sends unless she asks in it to meet up with you. if she asks why you didn't respond earlier, tell her because you don't like spending time online. I've never been in a position like this so i guess i might be keyboard jockeying, but maybe my advice will be good.

Honestly, the most important aspect for you at this point is to PULL BACK. Make yourself scarce for her. Sure, you're probably thinking . . . her husband is gone, she needs company, all that stuff. And, IF the story is true, then sure, you're right, BUT you don't have any way of telling if the story is true or not, UNLESS she gives you information that YOU can research yourself. Like looking through the local news. If he's gone missing, and she is seriously looking for him, it should be a news item. But, overall, PULL THE FUCK BACK. If she messages you a couple of times and asks why you are ignoring her, THEN you can talk back to her, but NOT the way you are now. Don't be so "into" her supposed stuff right at this moment. Mainly because it DOES show tremendous interest, lowering your value, AND you have no idea if it's even true. If she messages you a couple of times, TELL her that you need to meet in person, to make sure she's real.

Awesome. Thanks guys. That makes a lot of sense. I really appreciate your help and input. So i'm pulling out on this one for sure. Points for all you guys.

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