you know that guy who people always listen to. the one that who people obey when he tells them to do something. what is it that makes that guy that guy? why is he so respected? im guessing its a mixture of confidence, wisdom and the ability to beat the shit through people (or at least look like it). how do i become this guy?

The key is by becoming a keen observer, watch what he does, how he say something, watch everything and I mean everything, be the mother farkin hawk!! when you find out post a thread about it so everyone can learn

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So noone knows? I don't think I know anyone that is that great at this apart from the thugs at HS. I do know people that are more so than me.

Confidence in body language and speech. Its seriously just that, think about those alpha male guys you see as the center of attention and those guys who you automatically respect but don't know why. Now picture those same guys shoulder hunched, back arched, talking fast, maybe even mumbling. Now there not the kind of person you classify as the instant respect type or the alpha male. Even if people dont hear you speak just stand straight look confident and constantly smile and look like your having a good time and you will become one of those guys.

I am a skilled Public Speaker and I have read several books on Body Language. I command respect and attention everywhere I go, and I am only 5'8. I AM GREAT AT THIS. At my jobs, my bosses start treating me like I'm THIER boss and end up telling everyone what to do.

1. SPEAK LOUD. If you want respect you must speak louider than everyone around. This will cause them to look at you as the leader. Leaders ALWAYS speak louder than the followers. This is because they must be heard. Who speaks louder? teachers or students? The sergeant or the privates? The police officer or the criminal? The doctor or the nurse.

Speak louder and watch how everyone shuts up and listens to you. Watch how everyone does what you say!

2. SAY IT LIKE IT'S ALREADY BEEN DECIDED. Leaders make the decision. Don't try to find out how to get people to listen to your decision. JUST MAKE IT. When group is trying to figure out whter they want to go to the movies or a pizza place MAKE YOUR DECISION. TAKE CHARGE. Assume leadership and you will blown away at how many poeple follow. You will blown away, becasue some of the people who seem cooler, are older, or bigger than you will follow your lead.

So few people are confident enough to lead, because they are scared that they make the wrong decision and everyone will get upset.

THE KEY: Be leader. Tell yourself in your head over and over again. "I'm a leader."

When you lead, followers come running from everywhere! There are more tips but it would take too long to type. These are two that will really help.

Also, check this out: http://changingminds.org/techniques/bod ... t_body.htm

if you have any more questions, please message me. I have read several books on Body Language and I know how to command respect and attention as I am a very skilled Public Speaker.

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