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Is this normal? [...] I am always the one that wants to meet her, never the other way around.
Is there some logic behind this? Or is the guy always suppose to be the one to checkup on the girl?
This is completely normal, and in my opinion YES, the guy is always suppose to be the one to call and checkup on the girl-
unless you're in a LTR.
If there's one post here that I agree with, it's Conker's:
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We are the men, we are meant to take the lead, where no obvious choice presents itself.
If it helps to know, I never call the guy, unless I'm calling him back. Why? Because
that's his job. I also have the same mentality when it comes to approaching guys-
he saw me, so if he likes me, he'll come up to me. And this isn't some old traditional piece of advice my mother told me one day during brunch. It's just something I believe- the guy should be the pursuer.
If he wants to talk to me, he'll call me. That's the way I see it. It is
not that (i) I've been raised this way, (ii) I don't like him, (iii) I'm not thinking about him, (iv) I'm taking him for granted.
So don't always believe theories like:
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if a girl really likes you, she will make an effort to be in contact with you, always.
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She clearly feels like she can take you for granted
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If she doesn't [call] then something is up, or rather her interest level has gone down.
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If she's not calling to tell you about the funny thing her cat just did, she's not thinking about you.
^Because although they may be true in
some cases, most of the time you'll find they're not. Bottom line?
If she's accepting to see you, she likes you. And contrary to popular belief, some girls really are too busy, or just don't like spending a lot of time on the phone. That's right, not all girls like talking on the phone! So don't take it personally if she cuts your phone calls short. Don't call her more than is necessary, and be the one to call her when you want to set a date- preferably at least 3 days in advance.
-Roz
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