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PostPosted: Wed Dec 01, 2010 12:11 pm 
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Gentlemen, what is the most effective way to set goals, with the aim of improving game/results and everything else?

I am currently familiar with the S-M-A-R-T method of goal setting (it has been very effective for my sporting success), but what is the best way to quantify PU success in order to set good goals?

Eg, would something like '200 cold approaches this month' be better than 'K-close twice in the next fortnight', or would aiming to 'get X amount of phone numbers' be best.

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PostPosted: Wed Dec 01, 2010 1:52 pm 
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What´s really important with goal setting when it comes to pick up is to know, that you can not set a goal outside your controll.

For example: Setting a goal of getting 8 phone numbers in a night might sound good, but it´s not within your controll, because you have conditioned the success of your goal on the other person.

But when you say: I am going to use the phone technique on 22 girl from 10pm to 2am with an intention to exchange phone numbers than that is a completely different task.

If you really use the phone technique on 22 girls, chances are that you are going to get a few phone numbers. So your goal is achieved indirectly, and you can measure it.

Focus on the ACTIVITY that will bring you the success you want. Focus on numbers of approaches- not number of phone numbers.
Focus on creating attraction- not in getting a kiss close.
Focus on advancing kino and amplifying attraction- not on f close.

The point is to focus on the activities that will get you there inevitably, and not on the outcomes.

But keep your overall outcome in mind when creating the activites.

"I want to be able to kiss any girl I meet within 20minutes of talking to her"
- Who would I need to be to be able to do that?
- What would I need to know, what skills would I need to have in order to do that?
- What activities will get me to the skills I want?

"I want to be able to have sex with a girl withing 2 days of meeting her"
- Who would I need to be to be able to do that?
- What would I need to know, what skills would I need to have in order to do that?
- What activities will get me to the skills I want?

etc.


Create a plan for yourself, a step by step plan.
Meeting
Phone number
Kiss
Touching
Having Sex

Than specify who will you need to become, and what are the skills you need to develop.

Than do the activities that will bring you to that skills. In about 6 months, you are a master PUA

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PostPosted: Wed Dec 01, 2010 5:41 pm 
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i made a list of things i like to have and to do for a year, i dont know really whats "SMART" but i have done almost half of the things and i have half year more to go since i wrote that list, brother you need to ask yourself "why i need to kiss or aproach 200 women" i mean what you get from that? ask yourself if thats a good goal, personally aproaching 200 girls is a bad goal what i get? confidence? i can get more confidence and more fun by joining a gym, buying clothes i like, start making something fun and interesting id like to do, a goal needs to be enyoyable, because its a GOAL not a TASK, ask urself what things you d like to do and why you want those things, then simply make a quick list and stick to it, review it every week and see ihow much are you working toward your goals, you need to see you list every week to be in focus with the things you really want, example:

*Do a back flip
*Get driver licence
*Get six pack
* bla bla bla bla

make it simple and short, then just work, dont think much about the goals but instead start moving.


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