Hey! I'm getting back into this shiznit. I'm trying to improve my game by consistently approaching an amount per week working on small steps at a time. I think I learn better by doing a little of something as apposed to a lot of nothing. By that I mean it's better to do a few approaches daily than trying to do 20+ in a day. That's why I'm aiming for 20 approaches per week, ideally sticking to 5 per day 4 times per week (though I'm flexible with that). I'm gonna keep updating what I do each week or what I learn each day I sarge, so that I've got a consistent diary of the things I learn in the field and how I progress.

I'm proper out the loop with this. In the past when I was gaming consistently, I was very routine dependant, then I went through a stage of trying to be natural and being very anti-routine. I found going out without a game plan or structure actually stopped me gaming at all. I kept telling myself all I have to do is subconsciously believing in yourself and whatever I say will be right. But it's very hard to be that way without actually getting the real life experience and success. Now I have a game plan but am flexible with what happens. I don't rigidly stick to a routine stack but I keep them in mind so I'm prepped when I go in. Anyway, let's crack on with the field report

....AND SO IT BEGINS;

Week 1 Day 1 (2approaches)

I went out for some day game late on sunday afternoon. It wasn't too busy and there weren't any sets or chances to approach. I'd been asking functional openers asking people 'Do you know where Doc of the Bay is?' I actually managed to get a facebook close off a girl for that, but I'd also had a number of occasions of being ignored. I have to say, I think the times I was ignored was down to poor body language and what was going through my head at the time of asking. This time I wanted to work on being direct. I saw a few women I should have approached but didn't due to nervousness. Shortly after, I saw them those women on both occasions with their boyfriends so maybe I was better leave them alone. I missed a couple more opportunities and got pissed off at myself so I went into Starbucks.

I got a coffee and walked upstairs. When I got there it was pretty empty but there was a 2 set sat down on one side and a hottie sat on her own at a big table. I decided to sit by her at the same table, but not in a way or at a close enough distance for it to seem weird. I didn't start a conversation with her. I simply pissed about with my phone and she soon left. I was annoyed at myself for not making any approaches as yet but was still nervous. I noticed the 2 set sat down just at the table by me. I kept thinking of how I needed to say what I wanted to say, eventually, grew some balls and approached them on the way out. I said 'Hey guys, this is gonna sound weird, I can only stay here a sec, but you guys seem really interesting and I had to find out what you were like, how's it going?' They looked at me a bit confused and I just laughed and said 'You guys blatantly don't know what to say do you?' 'Do you mind moving your bag so I can sit down for a sec?' I said to the hot blond of the 2. She moved it and I sat down and got chatting. I leaned back on the chair and made sure not to lean in to see too needy. I felt weird myself but ploughed through. It turned out 1 girl was Spanish so I had stuff to talk to her about as I've stayed in Spain with a Spanish family and know a bit about the country. I didn't stick with it for too long, I ended up leaving early with the feeling that I could have carried on the conversation longer but it still gave me the confidence boaster I needed. I'm particularly nervous going direct but in situations like that, but I feel it's probably the best thing to do.

Town was pretty empty at this point as it was 4pm and all the shops were shot on a Sunday however I did see a hottie walking down the street listening to her iPod. I was more pumped to approach her after my last set. I ran to catch up and walked beside her by the traffic lights. I straight up said to her 'This is gonna sound a bit random but I really like your sense of style.' She smiled and said thank you. I introduced myself and started a conversation with us both walking in the same direction. It was all pretty natural with me making sure not to ask her too me interview questions one after another but at the same time finding out about her. It was all a cool convo and we were getting on like friends. We eventually got to the point where we had go in opposite directions. I was so busy just having a normal conversation with her I failed to seed any events or attempt to spark any attraction. I just simply asked her if she was on Facebook. Her reply was 'Umm possibly' I took that as her not being too willing to give it so I just said, 'Don't worry about it. It was nice to meet you.'

It was pretty shit that I only managed 2 approaches because I did miss some opportunities. I went pretty late in the day so I didn't really have many hours to practice. I would have done better to have left earlier and be quicker to jump on opportunities. I still get fear set in though.

Week 1 Day 2 (Night Game) 8 approaches

I had done a shit job trying to approach during the day so I had to do some catching up. Aiming for 20 per week I was planning on doing 8 on night game.

My original plan was to do something I'd not really done before. Going in with direct to group openers. I've done opinion openers tons of times, but I've found they're less and less congruent with how I am and want to be. I feel starting a conversation off the back with 'Can I get your opinion on something' quite besides the point, even if I root it.

I walked ages round the block to try and get my head into it as I was nervous, but I eventually plucked up the courage to step into the first bar. My plan was to go straight up to the first group I saw with 'Hey you guys seem like fun', but I pussied out and decided to go straight to the bar and order a Guiness. From there I realised I was already a loner looking round the bar and not interacting with anyone, i.e committing social suicide. With that I decided I'd already made it more difficult for myself so I went straight upstairs. I pissed about with my phone pretending to look occupied by the toilets in a vain attempt to get my head into the game. The door opened to the upstairs bar and I noticed a 2 set of a 7 and a 8.5. I walked through the doors and straight up to them and said 'Hey you guys seem like fun, how's it going?' They were pretty weirded out by my approach but I carried on by introducing myself. They introduced themselves to me and I attempted to transition with the my opinion opener, 'Who do you would be the worst nannie, Britney Spears or Jordan?' We debated about it briefly but I could tell I was giving off a poor vibe, I was still nervous and not in state and not really knowing where to take the conversation next. The HB7 shit tested me by saying, 'That's not a good chat up line' I laughed nervously and said, 'Ha ha I like that.' In a shit attempt to be cool when in fact I came across like a flaccid penis. They both were giving each other the eyes indicating that both hoped I would leave. At that point I knew I'd lost the set. I left by saying, 'Have a good night'. In hindsight I would have done better with that shit test by saying, 'Wow that's assumptive of you. I'm not trying to chat you up, I don't really go for blonds.' But hey I'm out of practice and wasn't that practiced even when I was gaming consistently.

I decided to down my one solitary pint for the night (driving later) and leave the bar. That set made me a bit angry but I just reminded myself that it's all a learning curve. I'm back starting pretty much from square one again.

I decided to go to the big club Oceana-not my favourite place with the highest quality women in my opinion but good for practice as it is a big club with a lot of peeps. I walked in and approached the first set I saw. A big 6 set of Oriental HBs. I stepped in with the real simple high octane opener 'Wooo! Hey guys how's it going?' It definitely got their attention as they all looked at me and said 'Ok' but in the moment I didn't feel comfortable and know quite how to transition. I ended up ejecting very quickly and going to the toilets.

I walked out and saw a 2 set of one guy and a girl. I walked up to them and with a bit of a confused look on my face, which managed to get their attention. My mind had gone blank. I bullshitted by coming up with the first thing that came into my head, 'Have you guys seen a tall ginger guy and I short brunette with girl at all?' 'No not at all.' 'Oh I'm supposed to be meeting people in here but I don't know quite where they are, hey you know what, you guys will probably be good to ask this question. It's a bit random...' I then went on to the 2 part kiss opener. Things kind of dried up after that, I wasn't too interested in talking to that 2 set anyway. I ejecting and walked over to the a 3 set of HBs. I came in direct, 'You guys seem like fun, hows it going?' I had to repeat myself which killed the mood a little, I then tried to transition with, 'You seem like the evil one of the 3 that leads the others astray..' I don't think that is necessarily a bad transition but I said it without any kind of congruence and thus pretty much lost the set. I soon after that left the club. I wasn't really in state and hadn't done much to shout about. I couldn't think quite how to transition with the direct to group opener. I almost went straight home doing the classic I have done sooo many times since learning about this pick up thing. 'I'm gonna go home, buy some more material and learn yet again. I'm not quite ready for this yet.' For the about of material I have studied, I am more than ready and knew I was just coming up with excuses not to approach.

I slapped my inner twat and went to another bar. It was damn empty and there were like 2 groups in the whole place. I felt pretty uncomfortable but I found a shift in my thinking, I thought to myself, I'm having trouble because I'm going to these places thinking, 'I gotta run this stuff to impress a girl. What if I were with a group of friends, or what if I was simply trying to find a group of friends and I was simply on this to socialise?' I began by asking a guy with his female friend at the bar, 'Have you seen a tall ginger guy here with a brunette and 2 blonds?'-Bullshit question again, but internally i did feel comfortable using it. I didn't get into a huge convo with the guy but it seemed more pleasant to me. I left that place as it was empty and decided to return to the bar I originally entered at the beginning of the night.

This time my approach had shifted subconsciously and felt better about walking in. I walked to the bar still a bit reluctant to approach but I thought, 'This is a problem because I'm only speaking to people I'm attracted to and putting too much on the interaction emotionally rather than being social and speaking to everybody.' You can learn this shit and understand it but you can forget it internally unless go out and actually apply gaming for real. With that I saw an HB5 stood on her own with an empty glass of ice. 'What are you drinking?' 'Ice' 'Haha, nice work.' We ended up having light hearted banter talking about why I hate cider with ice and how she should never do it, to talking about where she's from and how it compares to Southampton (she was from Germany). I left and didn't want to carry n with the convo too much further but it was all natural and by far the best interaction I'd had all night. I think the big difference was the vibe I was putting out by not being outcome dependant with the aim of simply being social to everybody. I then walked past 2 guys. I wouldn't normally have bothered speaking to them, but with my shift in thinking I decide to through interest of being social. I stuck with the bull shit, yet functional, 'Hey have you guys seen a tall ginger guy etc.' That sparked a good conversation as I transitioned with, 'don't you hate when you're looking for someone and you can't bloody find them? How's your night going?' I left on my own accord after a pleasant chat and went upstairs. I walked straight into the upstairs bar which was a lot quiet than before and saw a guy with a female friend, the dude seemed quite alpha and not the sort of group I'd normally approach due to my inner wuss but with me being in a 'social' mood rather than a 'pick up' mood I went for it. 'It's pretty empty in here isn't it? Hey have you all seen a ginger guy etc...?' The girl started laughing saying he's ginger and I'm a brunette, we got 2 blond friends here too.' We all started laughing having more banter. We had a brief conversation about how each of our night was going and eventually parted ways but it was cool cause I definitely was liked by the group, alpha guy included. Back downstairs again and I saw a mixed 2 set (1 guy and HB8) sat at a table. I went with my functional 'Ginger guy' opener and it worked a treat, the guy wasn't too forth coming but that didn't matter at all because the HB was very talkative and we had a good interaction talking about what to do if she seems a tall ginger guy. I left the set but thought in my mind of lots of opportunities to run some attraction material that I think would have worked a treat. I could even feel a light element of tension between us. I think the quite guy was her housemate not her bf.

Pumped and in state I went outside in the smoking area and immediately opened what turned out to be a mixed Polish 2set. I ran the ginger guy opener which started the convo off a treat, transitioning with 'where you from?' because I detected an accent. We talked about Poland and Berlin in Germany. The Polish HB was definitely into me, dropping the IOI, 'Take me to Berlin with you!' 'Cool what are we gonna eat there.' 'Sausages!' 'Ooh, sounds kinky, laughs' I linked the Polish 2 set with 2 guys by just hearing a guy behind me flicking his lighter. I said, 'I thought you were clicking your fingers demanding attention, just then. Haha, that would be the best way to start a conversation, simply click you fingers and say hey, I demand a conversation!' The guys laughed as well as the Polish 2 set and we all integrated as a group. I was fine with that, I wasn't into the girl she was nice and into me, but she was a 6 in my opinion and nice, but not my type. We all really got on and I was happy because I'd really managed to show some natural charisma having linking 2 groups and them both being interested in talking to me. I decided to leave as I felt I'd done my bit for the night. I'd done my 8 approaches, and though it was nothing amazing to ride home about, I feel I had learnt a valuable lesson internally based on real life experience, the best teacher of all.

I'm one of those people, I have read and learnt probably most of everything there is to learn about gaming but still have very little field experience in proportion to what I've studied. For all I may know, I've truly realised you only truly know it when you actually apply it for real in the field. That's why I've not been living the life I've wanted despite me knowing about this PU shit for years. It's nice to say I've finally started on the path of slowly turning it around

Week 1 Day 3 (Day game) 2 approaches

Shit day time. I walked late into town today and only managed 2 approaches. I think my problem was I was having trouble trying to take my new found 'sociable thinking' that I discovered last night to a day time setting where we aren't that inclined to be social. Most of us wanna just shop for our shit perhaps with the friends we're presently with, then fuck off. I felt trying to be direct and interrupt their day wasn't congruent. I understand that that's probably a limiting belief on my part but it was hard to get out of that subconscious thinking.

I approached the first hottie I saw, HB9 with a great sense of style. She almost got away as we were walking down the street in opposite directions. I stopped and she looked down with the aim of getting away from me, but I held firm and said, 'hey I can only stay here a sec, I just wanted to say, you have an awesome sense of style.' She smiled sheepishly, looked at me and said, 'thank you'. She walked on, and I really didn't know how to transition. I'd made the mistake of not smiling when I stopped her and really trying hard enough to hold set through fear of rejection. I found her really hot and though logically I understand that, that doesn't necessarily make her worthy of my attention and I had no reason to be as tentative with my approach, I still felt internally I wasn't good enough to interrupt her day and stop her. I missed a few other HB's walking round. I kept struggling thinking about what I was gonna do. I've opened functional openers but they don't tend to work if they don't know where such and such a place is. I was too fearful to try going direct to a group. I kept thinking it wouldn't work if I tell both girls 'you both really caught my eye, and I'd be kicking myself if I didn't stop you guys and find out what you were like.' As I type that, I realise saying that isn't too bad, but at the time my limiting beliefs kept conjuring negative scenarios, that as a result stopped me approaching.

I finally approached a 2 set saying 'you guys seem friendly, do you know where Doc of the Bay is?' They both looked at me like dog dirt and I felt it would be very difficult to transition. They didn't understand me first time either, I think they were Polish (there seems to be loads of Polish peeps in Southampton). I'd come in with a smile on my face but there must've something else I'd done a bit wrong to get the 'dog dirt' reaction I did or maybe I could have saved it by ploughing through despite the negative look on their face. I should keep in mind the quote from the book Positioning, "If a job's worth doing, it's worth doing it lousy!" i.e. it's better to get stuck in and do a shit job of something, then it is to procrastinate and try a do it perfectly once or twice. I went home after that, the shops were closing down as it was 6pm and all targets had pretty much dried up.

Maybe I need to approach peeps I'm not attracted to, to get into state, I don't want to go with the 'you caught my eye' approach when it's not true for me and I'm not all that interested in speaking to them, but maybe that my problem.

1 thing that did strike me that I should have tried based on passed experience. After a functional opener like, 'Do you know where Doc of the Bay is?' I should transition straight away with a situation compliment like 'that's rally nice bag by the way, where did you get it?' Last time I followed up with that, I ended up getting a girls facebook. (Yes I know a number is way better, all you PUA's out there haha).

Week 1 Day 3 (Night game) 8 approaches

Tonight was much better, not perfect but a definite improvement. I had more of a game plan so shit was better.

I stepped into the queue of the club. It was a fairly long queue but it was going quickly. Whist I waited there 2 HBs (6 & 7) queued up behind me. My intuition told me to lean back against the wall to increase the potential for starting a conversation with them for walking in. It turned out that was a great idea. HB7 made eye contact with me and smiled. I smiled at the same time and pointed straight at this lilly, flower thing she had on her dress. 'What's that?' 'It's my flower' 'It's awesome but it needs some glitter on it. I'm not sure the bouncers will let you in without glitter.' 'Oh no!' 'That's our mission tonight is to steal you some.' 'What's your name?' She said (IOI) I introduced myself. 'How we gonna we gonna get you passed the bouncers?' She turned to her friend HB6 and said, 'Tell them I'm awesome.' 'Are you awesome?' 'Yea course I am.' 'High five to that!'(Kino) By this point we'd got to the front of the queue and were walking into the club. The bouncers let us straight through because they thought I was properly with them. This granted me some social proof from the offset.

When I walked in I noticed there was a girl lying on the floor with a guy stood by her, with doing what I can only describe as a shit, drunk version of dirty dancing. I said to the 2 girls I was with, I'll chat to you guys in a sec and went straight up to another girl in a big set dressed up in a sailor suit. I went in very situational, 'Did you see what that bird was doing on the floor? That was really random.' 'Yea it was a bit.' 'What was even more strange was her lame attempt at looking seductive whilst looking at the guy with her drunk face hehe.' She laughed. I noticed her whole group was dressed up in sailor type suits. 'What's with the fancy dress?' We talked briefly about the birthday she was dressed up for then I moved on, I wasn't interested in her, I was just talking to her to shoot the shit and gain some social proof.

I approached a 2 set right next to them HB9 and a HB7) and came in with my 'Have you guys seen a tall ginger guy' opener. I then transitioned with 'don't you hate it when you got peeps calling you badgering you to come into a place then when you finally walk in there you can't find them...' The conversation continued a little and I saw great opportunity to come in with some attraction material or something but I went blank and rather than stay there and stale shit out, I decided to move on with the ideal aim of opening again with the set being warm.

This was all going much better, I was heading to the bar but socialising whilst doing so, gaining social proof the whole way. I noticed another 2 set of girls walk passed me, so I stopped them with my Ginger guy opener. I tried to transition with a bit of a compliment talking about the design on her t-shirt etc but treated this more as an initial bit of a social proof generator. My transition wasn't that fluent and probably came across like I was fishing for threads, so I pressed on.

When I finally got to waiting at the bar the originally 2 set I walked in with (flower girl and her friend) saw me and started chatting to me. It was definitely on with flower girl. The moment she smiled at me I could tell there was attraction there, I just had to not do anything wrong. Despite this I wasn't all that interested in her. She wasn't bad looking, I'm just really picky despite me being shit at pick up and not really having any right to be. I try some attraction material that popped into my head from watching Mehow, 'Hey guys, I gotta test this on you to see if you're psychic, we all gotta hold hands. Now all look at each other and think of a number between 1 to 4, don't say it out loud just think of it...' I let go of their hands and said, 'Right go, say it' One said 2, the other said 3. 'Ahh, that proves that doesn't work.' I still got a laugh, I could have carried on and run the cube or something but I lost interest and thought I'd leave that set for social proof later. I ejected saying 'I gotta get a drink but I'll chat to you guys in a sec.'

I went to the bar for my traditional solitary Guinness. This time I didn't just stand around looking, I just cracked on, approaching a mixed 3 set and then an HB9 both with the ginger guy opener. I really like that opener. In truth it's a shit opener and is a complete lie, with me pretending I'm looking for friends when in truth, I'm in the club as billy no mates. Eventually I will probably be more direct, sincere and honest once of got more of a 'fuck it', alpha internal attitude, but for now I do feel congruent using it and it does seem to give me lots of opportunities to further the conversation. The next set I approached in succession was a good example of that. It was a 5 set and the girl I asked was ginger. 'Is it me?' 'No you're not tall and your not a guy.'laughsI then spoke to her other ginger female friend (HB7) She also said, 'Is it me? I'm ginger.' 'Again no, I don't think you're tall...' (She was sat down as I looked at her and said this, which prompted her to stand up)'...You're not tall and you're not a guy.' This sparked a good conversation between me and the group that all happened very easily. I think this was all down to the social proof I was generating. I wasn't attracted to any of the girls in the set, they were all HB7's 6s and 5s, but it was great to have a good conversation and I really felt I had at least gathered how to generate social proof in a club if you're a loner in quite an easy way.

I went upstairs and ran the ginger guy opener on a guy that turned out to be American. I explained my situation that I was trying to find people, and he was in the same situation.I don't count all guy sets as being one of my approaches but I still think they can be necessary as they show the club you're not in it to strictly shark women, but to socialise. We had a good conversation about the States and where he should go in the UK. I then spoke to a mixed 3 set that didn't really go anywhere.

It was back downstairs for me where I met one of the earlier 2 sets. The best one I had found that night, with the HB9, the set was already warm as I'd approached them earlier. 'Have you found your friends yet?' 'Na.' 'You could try and give them a ring on you're phone.' 'Yea but my phone battery is dead.' That was a pretty stupid comment on my part as now I wouldn't have the option of using my phone to number close or what have you. At this point I was struggling again trying to come up with something to say to carry the conversation, looking around in mid convo pretending to think I noticed someone, in a shite attempt to stall time. I think they gathered I was clutching at straws as HB7 whispered in HB9's ear. With that I ejected and left the club.

I could have done better but it was still a marked improvement on the night before. With me doing a good job of social proofing the room from the offset. I should have looked to have done this more though and have more of a strict game plan to continue the conversation more to gain some attraction.

So to the next bar where I stood in the queue and became chatting to a 3 set of HB6's. I sparked that convo by commenting on their wrist bands for one of the Southampton venues. I asked if they know when that place is open. From that I teased one of the girls by saying 'that best be right I'm meeting some peeps in there. If you're wrong I hold you solely responsible.' I said with a cheeky smile. This went to a good conversation with hope hope that I'd be able to rock into the club with them but no such luck. They went in and the bouncer let me in separately. Nee bother on that, I strolled in and approach the first girls I saw, again with old faithful ginger guy opener. This set opened really well, I transitioned by asking them why they're by the pillar away from the music. I could have gone wherever I wanted but I again lost a bit on what to say. I wanted to take it in a attraction direction but I couldn't in the moment again. When I went to get a drink this drunk fatty started speaking to me trying to pick me up. She was nice enough but I was in no way interested. It's funny how I could say pretty much whatever I wanted and she'd still try and continue the conversation. In hindsight, rather than leaving to cut the conversation off and speak to someone else, I should have used the conversation with her to get integrated into the group.

I approached 2 other sets that fizzled out quickly and I decided to shoot off.

A good nights work with what I felt was a vast improvement. I still have much to improve upon.

Week 2 day 1 (Day game) 7 approaches

This has been the best daytime gaming and probably the best practice I've done to date. Far better than the past couple of day game attempts where I pretty much pussied out. I went into town a bit earlier too so I had more time to get on it before everything started shutting up.

As I walked in, I saw blond HB9 walking along. I decided to catch her up with the aim to stop with the direct approach, but I saw her go round the corner and sit on the green next to her other HB9 friend. I decided to change my approach and go indirect with something topical I was actually thinking about. I walked beside them and loudly said, 'Fantastic! Women! You'll both be good people to ask this....' They smiled and listened as I started walk round to the front of where they were sitting. 'I gotta find a present for my step sisters birthday. Have you guys got any ideas?' 'How old is she?' '26' 'What is she into?' 'Do you know what, I'm not sure. She gotta kid and has a family.' 'Go to Lush. All mothers love Lush.' 'Ha, cool, is that some sort of unwritten rule that all mothers love Lush?' 'Yea, hehe' I had brief banter with them about Lush and those crazy soap bath bombs and what they're about and sat down with them talking for a bit but I couldn't think where to go from there, so once again I ejected early. I need to work on that. At least they'd given me and idea where to take the rest of my conversations.

The next approach I made was direct. Walking down the high street, I saw another HB9 walking in the opposite direction. I turned round and decided to try and catch her up. I walked for bloody ages from a distance on the other side of the street, making sure not to come across like a stalker despite me feeling and acting like one. I ended up having to walk round to a different street so I could get into a situation where we were both walking in opposite directions again. I could have just chased her down and stopped her by walking right beside then cutting off her path, but I don't really like doing that, I didn't want to shock her. I wanted it to seem as spontaneous as possible. I managed walk round a corner and see her walking down the street towards me (god I felt like a stalker, catching her up in a round about way, aaall for the sake of trying to get my 2nd approach in). I gestured as if to ask her a question and stop her and held firm to make sure she stopped walking. 'I don't normally do this, but you really caught my eye, I'd be kicking myself if I didn't find out what you were like.' I introduced myself and stuck my hand out, she looked at me like I was weird but still put her hand out to reciprocate. My body language must've really been putting out the wrong vibe because as soon as she shook my hand she carried on walking to get away. In a shit attempt to save the situation all I could come up with is 'What happened to you today?' She sheepishly said, 'Oh nothing really,' and kept on walking, leaving to leave the conversation with 'Have a good day.' It was a shit approach but all good for the practice and the it was the first proper direct approach I'd done for sometime during the day.

3rd approach was a girl standing outside the shopping centre. She looked gorgeous from a far. I could see her gorgeous piercing blue eyes. She was texting on her phone, I walked up to her and decided to go indirect, 'Hey Missy.' She had a startled look on her face as I took her by surprise. 'That scared you didn't it haha.' 'Yea it did a bit haha.' She looked hot from a far and was still pretty hot close up but it turned out that she was smoking and had yellow smokers teeth. In fairness she wasn't that bad at all, but I can be really damn picky. 'Do you know where Lush is?' 'I dunno, I'm not from here, I'm from Salisbury.' 'Hey maybe you can help me, you'll probably be a good person to ask this...' 'I gotta get my step sister a present, what do you think I should get her?' 'How old is she?' '26' 'Ah same age as me.' 'There's some good shops over at the other shopping centre.' 'What is a girl from Salisbury doing in Southampton?' 'I'm just doing some shopping with my parents.' Didn't have too much to say on my part. Ran out of conversation and left before I started to feel like I was hanging on. I said thank you and went to the next shopping centre. I had the intuition that the last girl had an amount of interest towards me. I should have pursued it further.

Next was a 2 set of young looking girl I did an indirect opener on impulse and asked for step sister birthday present ideas. Through slight fear of being a charlie chester I asked how old they both were. 16, and 19. Legal tender, phew. They were very happy to stop and chat but I left. Again I wasn't too interested in those 2 girls unlike the first 3 approaches. Still worth the practice and day gaming indirectly. The indirect approach definitely worked better than my direct approach. I still needed to practice being more direct.

Next one was a young hottie that dressed very well, had great eyes, but looked quite young and had slightly bucked teeth (what's with the hotties with strange teeth today?) This time I walk up next to her walking at the same pace and said, 'You know, you have an awesome sense of style.' 'Thank you.' she said with a smile, looking a little nervous. Still I could sense this was more on than some of my other more direct approaches. I didn't walk in front of her to cut off her walking but instead decided to go straight into my opinion opener for the day. That managed to stop her walking. She pointed to where Lush was. I probably could have gone to another thread but instead I went into the direction she pointed. Yes I left early but from this approach I had learnt a valuable lesson that served me well in my next and final approach. I actually saw this same girl later on in the shopping centre and she smiled. I should have used that to reopen her because it would have been a warm approach but I wussed out and was a bit more concerned with doing a brand new cold approach.

I'd walked around town trying to find another HB I was attracted too. It took a bit of walking. Occasionally I see a hottie pass me by, then I would see them walk up there their bf or disappear in a direction I didn't see. I wanted to try and avoid being quite the stalker I was being on approach number 2.

Finally I saw the hottie I was after in the shopping centre. This time I decided to go direct and stop her in her track going in the opposite direction to me. I walked round in a horse whisperer fashion yet still inconspicuously (yes I know, slightly stalkerish) finally got in a position where she was about to pass me head on. I smiled and said, 'You know, I really like your sense of style.' (I think a better choice of words than, 'you have an awesome sense of style-subtle difference but still a difference). She looked unimpressed and said 'No.' A bit of a strange reply but maybe she miss heard me. She kept walking but kept looking at the dog tags I was wearing. She was getting away. This time I had an idea to save it. I said, 'Sorry sometimes I just think out loud. Hey do you know where Lush is?' That stopped her in her tracks as went helped to describe to me where it was. This small thing made a difference because it has now given me and idea for these day game approaches. Go in direct and if direct doesn't work and they still keep walking like my approach number 2, simple plant your feet and immediate go for the functional opener, like 'do you know where Lush is?' Then an opinion opener like 'Can you think what I should get my step sister?' I didn't progress further but I did teach me a good lesson because I manage to get her from still walking away to stopping to help me to giving her opinion and contributing to the conversation. I just needed to progress to attracting.

A good lesson learnt. I stuck my iPod in my ears and walked home in my car, safe in the knowledge I'd done 6 approaches, one beyond the 5 I was aiming for and learnt something to take with me next time I sarge. Whilst walking to my car I was actually in state and had a care free attitude, willing to approach anybody with anything. With that, I noticed at the corner of my eye a hottie wearing glasses walking on the path next to me. She looked foreign, probably Spanish. I decided to go for it. Once our paths crossed I said, 'Are you Spanish?' 'No Portuguese.' My intuition was almost right, she was foreign and almost Spanish. I said, 'you might not be able to help me but I'll ask you anyway. Can you think of any decent restaurants in town that do decent Spanish food.' She misunderstood me as her English wasn't fantastic. 'Did you say your looking for a Spanish girl?' 'Haha, no a Spanish restaurant.' I chuckled. 'No, I only got here two days ago.' 'Where in Portugal you from?' 'Lisbon.' We had a great conversation. I really enjoy talking to foreigners. I have a genuine interest in there views on where they are now compared to back home and how our cultures are different. I think that genuine interest shows through as i often find conversation with them fairly easy at least initially, unless of course the look at me like dog dirt like the Polish girls I approach the day before. It was the best sarge yet and I'm very glad I went that step further and went for. However I stopped the conversation and ejected early. It was a fine opportunity missed when I should have gone for seeding and then for the number. Never mind.

Great days sarging overall, though I think I'm now at a stage where I'm warmed up with this and need to start getting into generating attraction and number closing.

nice one dude, I have a thread just like this in opening and approaching.
Keep it up

Good read mate. Look forward to more.

I'm based in Southampton too, if you need a wing just PM me.

I liked the posts and you're showing confidence for actually approaching many times. Though it did feel like you're easily ejecting once you got the conversation going for a few minutes. You keep saying that it's not your type anyway or something similar.

Maybe you should try and work on continuing the conversation as your next mission. Enjoy yourself and focus on that. It doesn't matter if she's a 5 or an 8, as long as she's entertaining you. And you could use the practice with the kino,vibe,attraction building or whatever for when you do meet someone who is your type.

Keep up the good work and keep them reports coming!