"WHAT COMES AROUND GOES AROUND "


KHARMA

@ Sticksie- Best advice I've ever heard

@ all the people who didn't respond with bitter hatred, thank you for at least being respectfull

Everyone seems really split on this. Some say they deserved it others say not. I realize now that i handled them immaturely. I let my emotions get the best of me.

Now, instead of hating me and apparently wanting to kill me, what would you do in a situation like this? Better yet, is there anything you could do to keep her from doing this to another guy?

The best advice I've ever heard on the topic is: You can't stop someone from cheating, so don't even bother to try. If someone is going to cheat, then they are going to cheat. We don't have that kind of control over another human being to stop them from doing that. It's completely up to them and how much they care and respect you.

The best thing you can do in this situation is simply walk away gracefully. I guarantee this hurt your reputation in your community, even though you were the one cheated on. Try to do everything with class and you will have a reputation as a classy guy. Leave her with a memory of what a great guy you are, and how much she gave up when she cheated on you; instead now she thinks of you as an asshole and is probably glad she cheated on you.

I don't condone your actions, but I understand them. I remember what it was like to be young and cheated on. I remember that pain and anger. I never did anything as dramatic as you did, but I have resorted to my own form of vengeance that I'm not proud of. I broke up, then turned around and hooked up with her best friend. I think when you are in that much pain and you don't know what to do with it, you have to chock it up to temporary insanity. I learned how vengeful I could be, and I didn't like who I became. I hurt someone I used to care about very much and it didn't make me feel any better, it just made me as angry at myself as I was at her.

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Fact : Girls eventually settle down with afcs as well as alphas. The ones that settle down with afcs are more likely to cheat on them with alphas.Girls dont cheat on Alphas

Alpha up , Get muscly If she ever has the oppertunity to sleep with annother guy she will be scared for him because she will be scared that you will snap him in 2 !

Preventation is the best cure

and try and follow the zen of cool for this type of situation in future

This girl was on vacation, she knew that there was no way he'd ever find the guy.

And what makes you think that girls care enough about the guys they cheat with, that they would care about their safety?

If a girl is going to cheat, she is going to cheat. Some women have this tendency in their psychology and it doesn't matter how "muscly" you are, they have a psychological inclination toward cheating.

Also, even if your theory were true, why couldn't she just cheat with a guy who was even more "muscly" than you?

Plus it is not a good idea to just be big and strong and keep her in line out of fear for you. Then she is gonna leave you for someone who gives her a relaxed and carefree life.

You dont own her.

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I'm not trying to be a dick Ezo, but you're being a Pick Up Snob in my opinion.

bbardot: you just reminded me about porn

1. It's got very little to do with HER. If someone cheats, it's usually becuase they are in some way dis-satisfied with the relationship. I.E. That implies YOU AND HER AND THE DYNAMIC BETWEEN YOU.

2. The best way to have handled this would be to forgive and to talk to her, the way you have described her emotional state sounds like she was genuinly appaled by what she did. And the reaction she gave you was not to do with the humiliation of being "caught" but actually more to do with having a guy who she cared so much for crushing her and showing her such contempt for his own entertainment.

3. TALK TALK TALK. How drunk was she? Was she off her face, in which case, it was a mistake, or was it just tipsy, implying something is wrong with the relationship.

If something is wrong, you fix it and you move on, or move over.

4. Current advice; apologise to her, in person.

I think in the true spirit of womens lib you should accept the fault is your own,you must have done something to make her cheat,accept that she is totally entitled to cheat and you are not,you should beg her to stay with you and you should keep taking her back everytime she cheats on you,you should never judge her or insult her she has feelings,

ask her about the other guy--if she says the sex was good, suggest that she can meet up with the other guy anytime she wants ,you should even let them stay at your place and make yourself scarce when they are having sex and in that way you ''will be leaving her better than you found her'' this is the cardinal rule written in stone that was taken out of the game it is quoted so often because everything else in that book is meaningless compared to this half a line,make her breakfast in bed while she is sleeping off the great sex she had in your appartment with another guy to show how unreactive and alpha you are

while they are having sex in your bed why not wash the guys car to show how strong your inner game is

Girls who do cheat "usually" have daddy issues as their always seeking validation from the guys due to this . However being Alpha in this situation usually keeps her validation needs satisfactory as being in a relationship with such a guy is validation enough for her as she can feel comfortable and feel successful being in such a relationship.

If however your not the most alpha person out their she will always be seeking for validation in the form of sex.... Its built into her then yes she will cheat . Also if you get her horney she will cheat but going back to what i previously said if shes satisfied and comfortable in the relationship with an alpha she wont let her get into a situation where she will become horney and cheat.

I understand what your saying its just usually the process of body building is such an alpha journey.

It's not just daddy issues, women cheat for many reasons. For instance a lot of girls, daddy issues or not, have issues with self-esteem and self-sabotage. If she sub-consciously thinks she does not deserve to be with you, she will find ways to sabotage the relationship, the easiest way usually ends up being cheating. So being the most alpha guy in the world could just as easily back fire on you.
A lot of women cheat because they want to end a relationship, but are afraid to be alone, so they find someone else prior to ending their relationship.
A lot of women need the ego validation of sex, of having many different strange men want them sexually, and not being able to draw the line simply at desire.
A lot of women enjoy the drama in their lives, they are not content with a comfortable relationship and prefer a chaotic life of deceit.
A lot of women are peer pressured into cheating by following the actions of their single friends.
A lot of women don't enjoy the constraints of a relationships and miss their freedom.
And a lot of women do it because they have been doing it for years and it just comes naturally to them now.

That fact of the matter is that no one can ever completely control the actions of another person. Control is just an illusion. People are always going to do what they want to do. They may be swayed through influence temporarily, but it is impossible to influence a person 24/7 throughout their entire lives. And if you influence a person too hard, their natural reaction is going to be to rebel. It's a losing battle.

There are too many situations where you being alpha is completely irrelevant and her being comfortable and satisfied in a relationship is completely irrelevant. Women aren't logic planners like we are, they wander through life emotionally. And a lot of times they get caught up in their emotions and can't logically process the repercussions of their actions.

The only real control you have over women, is decision. You can decide what woman you want to be in a relationship with, that's about it. So the best you can do is try to pick a woman that you don't think is likely to cheat. But looks can be deceiving, so it's always a gamble.

I hate you because youve just made it hard for me to argue my point haha
Everything you have said Is true and logically makes sense but I also stand by what I have said .... because im like that , either way interesting dispute .

I agree with everything up to, "women are emotional, men are logical".

People are emotional and irrational, alot more than most of us would like to think.

you just got dick farmed

dude are you fucking kidding me, there is no god damned routine to this shit, if you move on just move on, no speech, tell her to go with him and forget about it. if you keep her she will continue to do the do and your vaule will drop to your social circle, and dont make a speech and look like an idiot, hospitalizing someone that had sex with someone else doesn't make you a badass it makes you a moron and a dick, your inner game is way down the gutter if you need to make a huge gay speech on it. if i were you with any dignity left i'd apologize first to this girl, and btw Your an Asshole.

I suppose the aim of your outplay was to raise yourself from
a situation where you felt like you was being flushed down the toilet.

Dont ever do something like that again, for your own and womens sake.
There is noway in hell that would ever make a man with self respect and confidence
feel any better - even in a situation like that.

Real men takes care of practical things like getting their shit out of the females apartment.

Then real men calls good male friend and spells out to him how bad it fucking hurts and how he feels humiliated. Cause its the truth.

Then a real man will pick up the pieces, learns from the experience and moves on.

And:
Someone wrote: Leave em in better shape then you found them..
Just for the record... thats is when you END IT YOURSELF!

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Vino, vedi, vici.
I drank some wine, I saw her, I conquered