I completely understand where you are coming from. But, i don't think a lot of the people here have advanced there mind to that point, where they actually know what they want. It's hard for people with all the social conditioning to go back and find what they really want.
I think the best way to do better is to be disturbed and to change your ways. Thats how i think anyways.
and here are somethings you should want.
http://new-lifesupport.com/2009/02/09/8 ... ally-want/
1. People Really Want Freedom to be and do whatever they desire. Freedom however has a cost to it. It cost us doing all we can to be the best we can, therein lies the problem most people want the freedom to “not do all they can” some folks call it laziness.
2. People Really Want Peace in their heart, mind, body and soul. Peace comes from being at ease with what goes on around us. We worry about our feelings and what others think of us, we worry about not being the best at what we do, we worry about not having everything that everyone else has…We worry.
3. People Really Want Happiness which comes from being content or satisfied with that they have and with who they are. Too many people use someone else as the standard for their own happiness, measuring themselves against other people.
4. People Really Want to be Of Value The desire to be wanted because we bring something to the table is a strong desire in any person. Even those who seem to be loners want to know that their life matters.
5. People Really Want a Challenge that will demonstrate that they abilities others don’t have.
6. People Really Want Others even if they want them to leave them alone. We are social animals and need the stimulus that interaction with others provide.
7. People Really Want Order in their lives so that they can make sense of things.
8. People Really Want to Believe in something bigger than they are, something that they can depend upon and trust.
No this is not the total list and I welcome anything you can add to it.
This is what people want at the bottom of there mind, in there higher self.