why are AFC'S always tempted to buy stuff for women?
I am new into the community and learning as much as I can but I STILL feel the urge to buy stuff for girls I like. It requires a lot of effort NOT TO
go and buy something I know they would love to receive.

I don't know if because of this I am missing my "knows exactly what to get" edge. I used to think that buying smart presents was a good way of showing intelligence and care.

I guess gifts are ok as a reward and not as the key to a womans panties.

comment please.

Gift giving is part of our evolutionary make-up. It is how guys are wired to get a girl's attention. Give her something nice/thoughtful/useful/pretty and she will equate the feelings of the gift with her feelings for the giver.

Sadly, it doesn't work. I feel the urge to buy things for girls too, but now I make sure I use it as a reward, if I give into the urge at all. Usually I don't. I treat it like I treat approach anxiety; it's an annoyance, but I put up with it until it goes away.

Ya a gift to a girl is best to think of as a reward to the female. Same with a drink or paying for her half of the date. If they deserve the reward you can get it.

why doesnt it work?
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because thats what every guy do, It also make you look needed , that your trying to by her company , Friendship , etc...

theres nothing to bad to buy something to a women but have to be at the right moment.

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Unless they are your girlfriend. I remember my girlfriend mentioned something about wanting the Breakfast Club and Sixteen Candles movies. So I was out adding to my own massive DVD collection and I seen those movies and decided to get them for her as a present. I don't think there is nothing wrong with that... but its all in the context of the relationship.

thats tru ..kinda depends on what the girl is like thou..
if she is more insecure etc she might need that ..

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the reason why we don't give girls gifts is that we are the prize thats our mentallity we're suppose to get them to give us gifts and such.
If your game is tight enough she'll be the one giving you gifts.

no i get that... i duno i find it strange i accept it works but yeh.,

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yea its a tricky one. but in general, depending of course what you get her, they can think your trying to hard, or of course you get the 'your soo sweet' SPAM. of course if shes your gf, you have her, and buying her stuff will only get you browny points.at first tho, for sure, dont let her think your a walking wallet, nor a stingy bastard, get an balance..

If a girl asks you for stuff, you have to consider she's a golddigger, she might not be, but amatuer golddiggers do ask for stuff.
Now if a woman asks you something like say "hey would you buy me a drink", you say"why don't you buy me a drink and we'll find out"
The thing is her asking for stuff is a hoop, you jump your her bitch, what you have to do is get her to jump into one of your own, so for example she says "how old are you", you say "guess"
You guys get the idea, work the Frame, Prizability is all Frame control!

I have to mention that a gift can be given as a lock-in system.

For example:

Me: Do you steal?
HB: What!?
Me: I'm serious, do you steal things?
HB: No!
Me: I'm not convinced, gimme your hands, I'm gonna do a trust test.
HB: (Gives hands)
Me: (Tells her whether she passes or fails)

If she passes, I give her a cheap accessory I carry around. In my case, it's a joker card.

Me: I want you to hold on to this, but not forever, I want you to give it back to me the next time we meet.

This gift is a good one. It will remind her of the great time you two had together, it will make her loyal to you, she will have faith in you, because she thinks you want the thing back some or other time.

THAT's a real gift.