| As an aside, you may want to post this thread in the "PUA Lounge", it has a much larger audience than the "Introduce Yourself" board.
What has helped me the most so far are the non-threatening approaches toward meeting women. Such as setting false time constraints and starting with an opinion opener: "Hey, I've only got 5 minutes to talk, then I've got to get back to my friends. Who do you think lies more, men or women?" Of course, this is a lot less threatening to a female than going up to her and asking her directly for her number, and allows her to feel that she's in charge of the conversation, and you're going to be leaving shortly anyway, so she's more apt to lower her defensive boundaries and talk.
Of course, this is a simplification of things, there are so many non-verbal signals going on in any conversation, that the whole idea of becoming a Don Juan is to become aware of all the subtexts going on in any conversation. Just by looking at a crowd of males, you can often identify the alpha male in any given group. He will be leaned back the furthest, other males will often look at him before speaking for validation and approval, the whole group will seem to swarm around him, and others will mimic his body language whenever he shifts postures. This is the male that females want. And that is what everyone on this forum already is, or is striving to become.
You really should talk to some more experienced PUA's, though, M. Start with the Newbie Questions forum, and browse some of what people have been talking about, and answers to common questions. Then repost your query in PUA Lounge. You'll get some great responses there.
If you want to know my story, look in the Newbie Forum for my thread about anger issues with women. I just got over a recent suicide attempt due to a failed relationship with a women who lied to me, cheated behind my back, and eventually left me for another male. Shortly thereafter, I was diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome, a social condition that, briefly, means I am unable to read social cues, respond properly in social conditions, or understand body language very well. So I am working an uphill battle to get my skills up with women and to be able to relate to the opposite sex. And I am so glad a place like this exists for me to do so.
To tell you the truth, though I am a Mystery fan, I discovered this whole community when I was 15 years of age. I'm 23 now. I used to post over on the SoSuave forums, but I never got into the whole seduction scene the way I should have. Now I'm re-educating myself with something I should have done years ago.
This scene's been around awhile. It's just now that the spotlight is starting to dawn on it. I would say it's a good thing, as long as, like the force, you don't use it for the dark side (i.e. seducing married women). It gives hope to those of us who have been failures with the opposite sex all along. And really, you have to take into account women can be as dangerous as men, just in different ways. Where a man can be physically abusive, it's very easy for women to be manipulative or emotionally abusive, or to withhold sex. This is just about evening the odds for men, since they have to do most of the approaching anyway, and those of us left in the dark while we watch other males walking off with the prettiest girls...well...this is our revenge and our salvation.
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