okay..so i fucked up hard like getting boned in the ass. not because i was submissive in any way but my girl suffered from a heart attack. i didn't talk to her for a couple days and did not visit her. she sent me texts i realized a week later all she wanted was for me to see her. i was just being cocky/funny and it upset her.

When i was driving to her house she sent me pages of texts saying how much of a dick i was and all this shit that made me feel like crap. i told her i just wanted to give her space which was somewhat true. (i was really busy that week but its not an excuse..she had a heart attack and she's very sick). When i got there all she did was give me the cold shoulder and wouldn't speak. i was stuck.

Her: "You know how i feel right now? Every second is like having a waking nightmare." "I don't know if ive ever been good enough. I don't know if ive ever been loved my a hand that has touched me. i want to push you around, down, and take you for granted..." OUCH??
She told me she did not feel anything for me.. and i took the walk. she asked me if i was mad and i said no. i care about you, so do whatever makes you happy.

No matter what i say its not enough. she doesn't believe/trust me anymore. she's shopping for other guys(AKA HER EX) but I KNOW she still has feelings for me. but i feel like she's losing respect for me... or she's trying to get over me.


MY PLAN? ADVICE NEEDED.
Now...im a guy with super high standards. idk im a perfectionist i get it from my OCD mother. My uncle died a week before this, then she suffered the heart attack, then dumped my ass for being a dick. i tried to make it up with some cute stuff we would laugh at, a card and a cd and stuff. all she said was. "that was really sweet of you." we talked a night later, havin fun. but then never ever talks to me again. Our 6month anniversary is coming up in 5 days and ive been practicing a little something on the acoustic guitar. i want to drive to her house, surprise her and hopefully get welcomed in. after my lil performance i plan on saying this.

"You know..i do feel like trust is a HUGE factor in a relationship. I could be with other girls right now, and i have been in the past...but i don't want to. ive been saving it for someone special. Adrianna, you were my first... i loved my uncle, and i love you...i cannot suffer another broken heart and shedded tears.."

she doesn't know i lost my virginity to her. i haven't said i love her..ever. she thinks ive been with numerous women but everything in the quotes above is true. i am a playa but i don't fuck cuz i don't want to.

Dude man you need to lay the GAME aside when your girlfriend just had a god damn heart attack.


I'm sorry but you acted like a dick by not going to see her when she needed you..If she's already yours and comitted to a relationship you don't need no game bullshit.

i need advice on winning her back. i know i made a mistake.

Ok, I'm sorry about repeating this, I know you already realize your mistake but...

WTF?!?! Cmon man, Cocky/Funny to someone who just suffered a freakin heart attack!?!?!? When you read shit like this is when you realize how f'ed up the PUA community can be. Next you can start negging her, like, you know, "you don't look too lively".

Ok, now that I vented, I can give you some advice. First of all you have to seriously think about this girl and what you want and make a decision. Because at this point what she probably needs (Im guessing, but it makes sense) is a serious relationship, someone commited who she can lean on and who can help her through such a complicated situation. You have to realize that she does not want somebody who will fuck her a few more times and then go run game on someone else.

If you are not ready to commit I think its better if you tell her straight out (even if it will feel like shit), rather than telling her she is "special, and then letting her down once again once you've had enough.

If, on the other hand, you really are committed and really love her, then I dont think you need any special strategies. She WANTS to trust you. If she didnt want to see you she wouldnt allow you to visit her. All you really have to do is show her you care, you love her and you want to be with her.

To hear your girlfriend who you supposedly love has nearly died and to have no reaction, or to try to game her or whatever, is approaching being sociopathic.

Clearly you regret your actions though, so that's good. You at least understand that your reaction was wrong. I seriously suggest this course of action:

Apologize profusely, tell her how you feel, tell her why you think you acted like you did, pour your heart out to her. Then, seriously, tell her you will (and actually do) go see a therapist to get some input about all this. Its not normal to have this kind of reaction. What would have been normal is:

Panic
Fear
Worry
Hypertension
Prayers to anything that will listen

And of course, rushing immediately to the hospital to see her, filled with anguish at the thought that your lover might die at any moment.

Sorry but you know what she will be thinking if you try to get her back: "He did this once, why not again? Where will he be the next time my life is in danger, the next time I need him?" I can't even imagine the gut wrenching, horrible emotional pain you've caused her on top of the trauma of having nearly died. Waking nightmare indeed. This is why you need to figure out what caused this reaction in you and never let it happen again with anyone you love.

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...Yeah, I think people pointed out most obvious things here.

You can't always go around without caring. Not caring about what a girl says down at the pub is one thing, your girlfriend having a heart attack? Yeah. See the difference?

I do.

wow...

my GF had a small surgery in her stomach.. and i was about to loose it...

can't imagine with a heart attack...

You should - also- tell her why you acted like you did... she is probably (in addition to broken hearted) pretty fucking confused about your actions (the lack of action)..

PS There it is, you are trying to game her again.. you are trying to convey values with DHV? Looks that way... "And i have been in the past" so you are telling her you have cheated on her?--- or perhaps im misunderstanding your post...

Still.. make it big at the anniversary, i'll pray for you
wow.. sorry, i really need to read the whole post.. Here is a PPS..
I think you still got a chance.. loosen up a bit..

Your PUA skills didnt get her in your sack.. YOU got her inlove with you.. the pua are just tools to get into the relationship...
Perhaps you feel a bit insecure? Afraid to loose her? So you try to be 100% perfectionist with pua stuff? Like not being emotional ect?..

Loosen up mate... tell her exactly how it is, exactly how you feel about.. exactly why you didnt "seem " to care.. exactly how much you are sorry.. and how much how you just wanna be with her... ..

no i haven't cheated on her and yes ive been seeing the school therapist already. im trying to convey that she is the only girl that has ever been good enough for me, good enough for me to love and care about. I realize i fucked up and putting her through the emotional wreck is breaking my heart. all i want is to let her know im willing to change, willing to be there for her whenever she needs me. i wanna make her the happiest girl on the planet.

the only response i get is the cold shoulder. ive tried to make it up to her, and i don't know how to say this..

sound good... she probably just need a lil more time

lol wtf omg jezus gd hartattack.....

when you got dumped or chance of getting dumped it's because :

you were a respectless asshole
you abused her mentally and physically
you do not invest except sex
she caught you in bed with another man
you cheated
you were on the tyra banks , jerry springer or oprah
you like to jizz on your Gf's face without getting permisson

if you done one these things your kinda screwed.

you were a respectless asshole , and you also abused her mentally by treating her like that. she's now treating you the same way and guess waht ?!?! you deserve it

if i were her i would dump you straight away and you probably deserve it to.

actually ... no offense ... but your a fucking moron, like the sound of it you are incapable of having a relationship. you should be on the doctor phil show. even better you should buy his book relationship rescue.

tips ... tell her how much your sorry , don't force everything by keep saying im seeing this therapist or whatever.

just give her time
thats what you get for boning her in the ass.... you acted like a gestapo officer

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Ok, am gonna admit I really dont have any advice on winning her back. BUT WTF????!!!! dude, personally i think you need to take time off this whole "game" thing and think about what the F*CK you have done? Seriously? how could you even bring yourself to post this?. Go back to basics man.... we only want girls because we love them, care for them . do you understand? NOT JUST FOR SEX!!!!. F*KIN HELL!

Look take a trip, by yourself somewhere far, far away from distractions and think....just think. You're minds really unsettled. Once your clear about what you want in life, i.e whether you truely care about those who you call "girlfriends" come back. If you want to just have sex.... just go and get yourselves some FB. Don't lie to girls about how much you care about them and not even care when they have a F*CKING heart attack. Leave them better than you found them!

Don't think I am am insulting you personally, because am not. I just think you need to sort yourself out first, before you try "winning" her back.

LoooL