This might sound dramatic, but anyone on these forums will know what I mean. I never thought I'd feel this kind of desperation again, I thought I'd concurred this part of my life. For the past 2 weeks, I've been trying to get girls numbers. Its not that I've even attempted and failed, but rather I haven't even attempted and therefor failed already.

I went through the hoops of learning to PUA over a year ago. For months, I read and read but just didn't have the guts to apply the theories. Finally, one day I just sat next to girl and talked with PUA methods interwoven into the natural conversation. I learned that when I'm not nervous I have a natural skill for conversation, and that made things much easier.

That was my game, and I had a lot of success. That first girl was so crucial, if she had gone the other way I think it would crushed what little confidence I mustered that night, and I'd have never attempted PUA techniques again. This girl was so much more beautiful than I thought any girl who would even consider me was, and it gave me an incredible shot of confidence. I was literally getting numbers from 90% of the girls I spoke to, and having sex with most of them. It was fun, but it got old(I'm interested in women still of course, I just want something more than hook ups). I took some time off from women and focused on work.

Now, a few months later, here I am again. I go out and sit alone at bars like I used to and have the constant inner dialogue of self doubt. What the fuck? I thought I beat this. Not only beat it, but kicked its ass.

I don't know what to do. The obvious answer is repeat what worked before, but that frst girl was truly spur of the moment. I went to the bar like I always did, and told myself I'd finally do an approach, knowing full well I'd chicken out again. But something that night just gave me the boost to do it, and from that positive experience I just went on momentum. It feels like I don't have the "boost" this time to do it again. And even if I do manage to give it another go, like I said if the first try goes badly I'm afraid I'll never try again.

This sucks dude. Why did you take a break to focus on work?

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Walk Hard

Saw your message dude. I've been there as well and I've beat it.

Approach with this mentality:
1. Many women are unhappy in their lives and would love to have a bf. Give them some love... make them happy

2. Approach to make someone's day not for the close

3. You are the prize not them

4. If you get rejected... fuck her as there are a lot better women than that weird bitch. Thank God she's not the last women in the world

5. If she says no... at least you tried because if you don't try, you regret it and when you regret... you think about it over and over again. Live a life without any regrets and remorse. Get in there...

Now go and win this fight. This is your fight. You have to win it.

I'll be glad to help you with my philosophy on things and how I dealt with it. Let me know if you wanna catch up in London if you are around.

I think you need to really sit down and find what's that difference of thdn and now .

Cuz ived been through it before , and the only way to get back up is to rekindle that passion you once had for something .

Even if it means for you to act delusional , Do it .

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Sympathy For the Devil .